Hinge Situation

[noctorious]

Ok fellas....

Think OLD has come up trumps for me.

Hinge is proving quite the app for me as it is, but I think I've bagged a date.

The conversation has gone as such,

(reacting to her profile pic, she has this prompt, "the key to my heart is when you get along with my friends")

Me: "careful i dont want to get along too well with your friends"

Her "They are hard to please"

Me "i love a challenge"

Her "You sure?"

Me "absolutely"

Her "When are you taking me out then?"

There are gaps of roughly two or three days between each message. I will ofc wait that long or so before I respond.

Any tips on how to close? I feel I know what I should say, but this I don't want to blow it. Outcome independence yes I know, but this is the place to ask these questions!

TIA for any advice/tips.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Close what? It’s a date you don’t even know if you guys will get along yet.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

"what's your number? I'll shoot you a text and we can discuss it."

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I have no idea what you mean by your 2nd and 3rd lines, but you bought into her frame with your opener, and you continued with it. You're now corralled (I don't know what the British equivalent for "corral" is lol) into a group date with her skeptical friends.

The message gap is another problem. You can't get her hot by waiting 3 days between correspondence.

Her "You sure?"

You, three days later: "Absolutely".

Me: wtf? (American for "what the phuck")

Get her number, game her via text and see if you can pique her interest level enough for a solo date where you're the prize, not her.

And stop with the British slang for phuck's sake lol.

 

[Stanley]

Ask for her number or set a date up over hinge???

 

[EyeBRollin]

Set up the date for a week out to 10 days out. Be detailed with time, date, and exact location. Give her your number after she says yes.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Set up the date for a week out to 10 days out. Be detailed with time, date, and exact location. Give her your number after she says yes.

Nah I say 3 months at least. That will definitely raise her IL.

 

[member160292]

Nah I say 3 months at least. That will definitely raised her IL.

Try not to respond in those 3 months, she might keep texting/calling, but you gotta keep that hamster spinning. Once her IL is high because she won’t stop reaching out, tell her you’re out with the wife and kids. Competition anxiety. Remember, you’re busy.

Y’ah know, MGTOW mentality. Always

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Try not to respond in those 3 months, she might keep texting/calling, but you gotta keep that hamster spinning. Once her IL is high because she won’t stop reaching out, tell her you’re out with the wife and kids. Competition anxiety. Remember, you’re busy.

Y’ah know, MGTOW mentality. Always

When a girl is hooked hard like this, you need to milk it for all it's worth.

 

[The Diver]

"the key to my heart is when you get along with my friends")

"Dance monkey dance; Entertain my friends, and if they're pleased and approve of you, maybe you'll have a chance with me."

You're in her sh*ty frame from the get-go.
And that bc' she perceives you as a low-value man.

Do you think if she could manage to hook up high-value Ghad, she would give a F if he would get along with her friends?

Don't bother with this one.
Go work on your inner self and your mindset, and work on increasing your value as a man.

 

[noctorious]

I'm overthinking it. Will just close it.

Don't really see why I need to wait several months?

 

[Barrister]

I'm overthinking it. Will just close it.

Don't really see why I need to wait several months?

Normally in 1st date situations I like to keep those off of weekends. That raises mystery as to what you are doing to the woman and also lets her know she isn't THAT important yet to take up your weekend time. Given that it is Friday, I would ask her what she is up to Monday evening. Just ask her to grab a drink at 8:00 p.m. Monday at place X. This isn't rocket science and sounds like she is open to it.

Also - completely disregard all the bullsh1t about her friends. It's just typical female filler that means nothing. Good luck.

 

[noctorious]

Normally in 1st date situations I like to keep those off of weekends. That raises mystery as to what you are doing to the woman and also lets her know she isn't THAT important yet to take up your weekend time. Given that it is Friday, I would ask her what she is up to Monday evening. Just ask her to grab a drink at 8:00 p.m. Monday at place X. This isn't rocket science and sounds like she is open to it.

Also - completely disregard all the bullsh1t about her friends. It's just typical female filler that means nothing. Good luck.

Thanks! I was just using that as a springboard to tease her really, no thought behind it lol.

Appreciate the tip. Will go for something in the week.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Normally in 1st date situations I like to keep those off of weekends. That raises mystery as to what you are doing to the woman and also lets her know she isn't THAT important yet to take up your weekend time. Given that it is Friday, I would ask her what she is up to Monday evening. Just ask her to grab a drink at 8:00 p.m. Monday at place X. This isn't rocket science and sounds like she is open to it.

Also - completely disregard all the bullsh1t about her friends. It's just typical female filler that means nothing. Good luck.

Honestly, I doubt this really has any effect. People think about what they are doing first, second, third, fourth and fifth and really couldn't care less what some random person they met one time is doing on a weekend after they just met or before they met.

People always overestimate how much these things effect others...in 95% of cases the effect amounts to 0.

This is another thing that sounds great in theory but in practice is not very meaningful to even think about

 

[Gamisch]

Ok fellas....

Think OLD has come up trumps for me.

Hinge is proving quite the app for me as it is, but I think I've bagged a date.

The conversation has gone as such,

(reacting to her profile pic, she has this prompt, "the key to my heart is when you get along with my friends")

Me: "careful i dont want to get along too well with your friends"

Her "They are hard to please"

Me "i love a challenge"

Her "You sure?"

Me "absolutely"

Her "When are you taking me out then?"

There are gaps of roughly two or three days between each message. I will ofc wait that long or so before I respond.

Any tips on how to close? I feel I know what I should say, but this I don't want to blow it. Outcome independence yes I know, but this is the place to ask these questions!

TIA for any advice/tips.

Her: they are hard to pleae
Me: oh well, it might be even harder for them to please me..
Her: take me on a date
Me: what ya doing.....around .....? Wear something nice and I'll pick you up at...
(Followed by your number)
Me: Text me

Show her you know how to lead. Dont care about her friends yet.

 

[Deranged]

Her: they are hard to pleae
Me: oh well, it might be even harder for them to please me..
Her: take me on a date
Me: what ya doing.....around .....? Wear something nice and I'll pick you up at...
(Followed by your number)
Me: Text me

Show her you know how to lead. Dont care about her friends yet.

Do you actually request this? I just assume this is a given for a first date if she has a decent SMV and high interest. I only tell them what to wear if I'm craving something exceptionally sexy or specific, which is rare as they generally just step up to the plate leaving me content, not crating an issue that needs to be addressed. If she shows up in trashy leggings(I don't care how "exceptional" that booty is), it's next. Thanks for weeding yourself out!

 

[ThisIsSparta]

"the key to my heart is when you get along with my friends"

After that you already know her first priority...... her friends (which will most likely **** block you unless you kiss their ass). -> red flag.

Would i try to qualify to a bunch of her friends to get pvssy? HELL NO!

That woman is already wasting your time and energy.

 

[Gamisch]

Do you actually request this? I just assume this is a given for a first date if she has a decent SMV and high interest. I only tell them what to wear if I'm craving something exceptionally sexy or specific, which is rare as they generally just step up to the plate leaving me content, not crating an issue that needs to be addressed. If she shows up in trashy leggings(I don't care how "exceptional" that booty is), it's next. Thanks for weeding yourself out!

That's more of a stylistic approach i geuss. I believe you should always be looking for opportunities to show you are not afraid of your own ,and her sexuality.

Again, every man has his own style of doing this. I like to give them a little challenge even if it seems like a minor thing. "Get your hair done, wear something nice, ect" . Also shows I expext something from her. Again all personal preferences.

Women must be stimulated to let their gaurd down, and I Iike to do this by being direct and playful. Its a certain language you can only speak with women, if she recognizes you speak that language she'll pick up on it.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Women love to be led, if she doesn’t she’s a bad choice anyway. Obviously she’ll dress nicely, but now she’ll really do it up because you led her, it’s psych 101 bro.

 

[Gamisch]

Do you actually request this? I just assume this is a given for a first date if she has a decent SMV and high interest. I only tell them what to wear if I'm craving something exceptionally sexy or specific, which is rare as they generally just step up to the plate leaving me content, not crating an issue that needs to be addressed. If she shows up in trashy leggings(I don't care how "exceptional" that booty is), it's next. Thanks for weeding yourself out!

Lol there much more going on when you say that. You bolded it because it strikes fear in you. Like it does to most men. Thats why I say a woman will pick up on it immediately, also because most men don't talk like this.
Women love to dress up.

When you say that you dont just ask her to "dress properly ";

- you take the lead. It allows you to say something like" you know what, you wear something nice ,I'll pick you up at ...and we will have some drinks at ..". All she has to do is say yes. Women love this. Shows you have a plan and you have experience with women.

- you show her you know how to talk to women. Like i said before, you allow her to let her gaurd down and be a woman. You aint just every other guy, you are the PRIZE.

- its might be interpreted as innuendo. It might also hint at you being super confident amd telling her to wear something nice from top to bottom, as smashing is somewhere in the back of your mind. Like i always say : a woman will shave her poosy when she goes out on a date..wear a nice what ,nice thong ? Nice dress? What about both..

You underestimate the power of taking the lead while being subtle with it.