I just read a tip about how to build value in a previous post, so i decided to share my thoughts on how being higher value person does have an impact on being more successful in life and with women...
bottom line: women are attracted to those men who they perceive have inner value, reproductive value, attractive value, give them value, feelings, make them feel better about themselves.
value value value
this goes hand with social status and high status
those who have higher status and higher social skills are perceived as having more value, think of any actor or famous person. Are they better or any different than you??? absolutely not.. they are made of blood, flesh and bones just like you.
the only difference is they have learned how to create value for themselves and others in attractive ways.
im not going to get into details of how value works in attracting women,,there are tons of posts about it. however.
women automatically look for, get attracted and attend to things that are perceived as valuable, being higher value.
Example: ever noticed 2 guys talking to same girl, one has higher value than the other guy, and she will have her whole attention towards the guy with higher PERCEIVED value... even if the lower value guy tries to talk louder and try to get her attention, she will completely not hear him and "ignore him"
its not that she is ignoring him, its just that from an evolution point of view, she is wired to get her focus towards that which has more value at any moment. so the lower value guy doesnt even get close to her radar... she is paying attention to higher value.
think of how you do this in your own lives
ever been into a party, and you seem to be talking to a girl and she is giving you attention. however, Dumb DJ puts her favorite song, and all of a sudden she jumps around and goes running to the dance floor with her friends, and leaves you standing there.... helpless... its not your fault lol, at that moment she perceived the environment as having more value than spending her time next to you.
ever been with a group of friends??? see the interaction observe the interaction... who is getting the most eye contact, who is the person with most value, or those with more value will be heard, listened to and more people talk to them,,, if you are wondering why people dont seem to pay attention to you ,take you seriously, or talk to you, or anything like that its probably because you are giving low value vibes...
people are just not wired to be attracted to lower value objects, persons, or situations (this is both men and women)
the more we perceive value, the more we are likely to get closer to valuable stimuli and the more likely we are to incrase our value, and survive and replicate.
ok im going on a tangent now lol its too, late and my point is:
CONCENTRATE ON ADDING VALUE TO EVERY DETAIL OF YOURSELF, your personality, your possession, your jobs, your relationships
start thinking how can i become more valuable person?
a valuable person is that who people need, because he exudes charisma and people feel better about themselves when they are next to him.. both men and women... women are attracted to this, they describe this type of men as being FIT, ATTRACTIVE,sexy, ballsy, gutsy
personality: learn psychology and learn how to improve yourself your self esteem, confidence, DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET YOURSELF THINKING you have value, and that you exude value in everyhting you do.
start small and build momentum... clean that room, clean your car, keep them clean, buy condoms (value guys get laid) so assume you will, get new clothes, improve body language, join a gym, carry yourself better, develop social skills, start interacting with people and women....
because you wanna make them feel better about themselves... if YOU BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART THAT people will improve their self esteem just by being in your presence you will start acting that way,,, and in no time you will be a valuable person....
have a passion, you need a goal, that is bigger than your life, bigger than any woman, and you wouldnt change it for any girl.. this alone will increase your attractiveness by 50 & no woman after her 20s wants a man who has no ambitions and goals in life (ask any woman ages 24-30). or lower.
the more you believe you are valuable, the more you treat yourself as a valuable person, the more you demand respect from you and others.. the more attractive you become, the more ballsy you become and the more open you become to take risks and chances, which gives you new results and increases your positive referecenes, and the circle continues....
keep improving in the small details, get that hair cut, that perfume, that new opener, try it, keep going out, keep a journal, do 100 approaches, start by saying hi to people
start believing that people wanna be around you, that you make them feel good inside, that you have so much to offer, and that peoples self esteem increases because they are close to you..... !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
see that old man in the streets? start talking to him,,, say? how can I add value to this fellow? and say "hi, have a nice day sir" you will feel better and so will he.
see that cute girl ... think "let me brigthen her day" how does a celebrity who is used to people asking for his autograph 24/7 acts when he sees a regular person??? he immediatly assumes that person is going to react in a positive way towards him, he just assumes he will have to give away autographs... he is used to it..
well, this is just perception, having value is just perception, and people believe others have value to the degree that they themselves believe they have value... the more you believe you have value, the more other people will believe it too and react accordingly to you.
if as soon as you meet another person, you have all this attitudes with you, you demand and expect other people to see you as high value, so you act accordingly, you wouldnt act low value or timid.... you know hard rock in your heart your worth,,,, so you have to build an identity for yourself.
fellow DJs, beign successful with women is not about who knows the latest techniques, lines, or who is better at amoging anotehr person.... beign successful is about developing your own identity in life
an identity unique to you, this is who you are,, yourself define who you are which does not care what other people think of him... I am PIPE007, a grad student in psychology... this is my bigger goal, and women like me for me, because i just am the guy they want... period!!!
you guys must learn to become optimistic.... only you guys can dictate how much you are worth... this is your responsibility and you have the full freedom of thought, you can CHOSE your thoughts, so chose those that will help you and empower you.
chose to become higher value.
chose to act more higher value
define the new behaviors you need to crete this new self
be specific, and start working one step at a time.. (start cleaning that room)
reward yourself everytime you see yourself acting in this new frame.
decide in advance you will never go back to being your old self,
catch yourself when you are thinknig, feeling or behaving low value, and change it inmediately, reward yourself when you do.
keep acting as if you were higher value.
keep assuming you are higher value and keep expecting other to treat you as one.
start eating, going to places, talking to people that higher value person would associate, because now you are.
close your eyes, and see yourself as you would like to be, and ask yourself, what do i have to do to become that person?
and start doing whatever it takes to get there.. and go straight there. no going back... start building that momentum. if you guys need a new hobbie, get the hobbie of learning how to build your identity of a higher value person who will add value to those around him...
I can guarantee that an attractive female will be more than happy to join you in that journey.... and she will love you for it.
peace!
bottom line: women are attracted to those men who they perceive have inner value, reproductive value, attractive value, give them value, feelings, make them feel better about themselves.
value value value
this goes hand with social status and high status
those who have higher status and higher social skills are perceived as having more value, think of any actor or famous person. Are they better or any different than you??? absolutely not.. they are made of blood, flesh and bones just like you.
the only difference is they have learned how to create value for themselves and others in attractive ways.
im not going to get into details of how value works in attracting women,,there are tons of posts about it. however.
women automatically look for, get attracted and attend to things that are perceived as valuable, being higher value.
Example: ever noticed 2 guys talking to same girl, one has higher value than the other guy, and she will have her whole attention towards the guy with higher PERCEIVED value... even if the lower value guy tries to talk louder and try to get her attention, she will completely not hear him and "ignore him"
its not that she is ignoring him, its just that from an evolution point of view, she is wired to get her focus towards that which has more value at any moment. so the lower value guy doesnt even get close to her radar... she is paying attention to higher value.
think of how you do this in your own lives
ever been into a party, and you seem to be talking to a girl and she is giving you attention. however, Dumb DJ puts her favorite song, and all of a sudden she jumps around and goes running to the dance floor with her friends, and leaves you standing there.... helpless... its not your fault lol, at that moment she perceived the environment as having more value than spending her time next to you.
ever been with a group of friends??? see the interaction observe the interaction... who is getting the most eye contact, who is the person with most value, or those with more value will be heard, listened to and more people talk to them,,, if you are wondering why people dont seem to pay attention to you ,take you seriously, or talk to you, or anything like that its probably because you are giving low value vibes...
people are just not wired to be attracted to lower value objects, persons, or situations (this is both men and women)
the more we perceive value, the more we are likely to get closer to valuable stimuli and the more likely we are to incrase our value, and survive and replicate.
ok im going on a tangent now lol its too, late and my point is:
CONCENTRATE ON ADDING VALUE TO EVERY DETAIL OF YOURSELF, your personality, your possession, your jobs, your relationships
start thinking how can i become more valuable person?
a valuable person is that who people need, because he exudes charisma and people feel better about themselves when they are next to him.. both men and women... women are attracted to this, they describe this type of men as being FIT, ATTRACTIVE,sexy, ballsy, gutsy
personality: learn psychology and learn how to improve yourself your self esteem, confidence, DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET YOURSELF THINKING you have value, and that you exude value in everyhting you do.
start small and build momentum... clean that room, clean your car, keep them clean, buy condoms (value guys get laid) so assume you will, get new clothes, improve body language, join a gym, carry yourself better, develop social skills, start interacting with people and women....
because you wanna make them feel better about themselves... if YOU BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART THAT people will improve their self esteem just by being in your presence you will start acting that way,,, and in no time you will be a valuable person....
have a passion, you need a goal, that is bigger than your life, bigger than any woman, and you wouldnt change it for any girl.. this alone will increase your attractiveness by 50 & no woman after her 20s wants a man who has no ambitions and goals in life (ask any woman ages 24-30). or lower.
the more you believe you are valuable, the more you treat yourself as a valuable person, the more you demand respect from you and others.. the more attractive you become, the more ballsy you become and the more open you become to take risks and chances, which gives you new results and increases your positive referecenes, and the circle continues....
keep improving in the small details, get that hair cut, that perfume, that new opener, try it, keep going out, keep a journal, do 100 approaches, start by saying hi to people
start believing that people wanna be around you, that you make them feel good inside, that you have so much to offer, and that peoples self esteem increases because they are close to you..... !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
see that old man in the streets? start talking to him,,, say? how can I add value to this fellow? and say "hi, have a nice day sir" you will feel better and so will he.
see that cute girl ... think "let me brigthen her day" how does a celebrity who is used to people asking for his autograph 24/7 acts when he sees a regular person??? he immediatly assumes that person is going to react in a positive way towards him, he just assumes he will have to give away autographs... he is used to it..
well, this is just perception, having value is just perception, and people believe others have value to the degree that they themselves believe they have value... the more you believe you have value, the more other people will believe it too and react accordingly to you.
if as soon as you meet another person, you have all this attitudes with you, you demand and expect other people to see you as high value, so you act accordingly, you wouldnt act low value or timid.... you know hard rock in your heart your worth,,,, so you have to build an identity for yourself.
fellow DJs, beign successful with women is not about who knows the latest techniques, lines, or who is better at amoging anotehr person.... beign successful is about developing your own identity in life
an identity unique to you, this is who you are,, yourself define who you are which does not care what other people think of him... I am PIPE007, a grad student in psychology... this is my bigger goal, and women like me for me, because i just am the guy they want... period!!!
you guys must learn to become optimistic.... only you guys can dictate how much you are worth... this is your responsibility and you have the full freedom of thought, you can CHOSE your thoughts, so chose those that will help you and empower you.
chose to become higher value.
chose to act more higher value
define the new behaviors you need to crete this new self
be specific, and start working one step at a time.. (start cleaning that room)
reward yourself everytime you see yourself acting in this new frame.
decide in advance you will never go back to being your old self,
catch yourself when you are thinknig, feeling or behaving low value, and change it inmediately, reward yourself when you do.
keep acting as if you were higher value.
keep assuming you are higher value and keep expecting other to treat you as one.
start eating, going to places, talking to people that higher value person would associate, because now you are.
close your eyes, and see yourself as you would like to be, and ask yourself, what do i have to do to become that person?
and start doing whatever it takes to get there.. and go straight there. no going back... start building that momentum. if you guys need a new hobbie, get the hobbie of learning how to build your identity of a higher value person who will add value to those around him...
I can guarantee that an attractive female will be more than happy to join you in that journey.... and she will love you for it.
peace!