SmoothSmooth
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 24, 2021
- Messages
- 548
- Reaction score
- 573
- Age
- 31
Talk low and slow
Always seem like you are putting in less effort that her (a king expends little energy)
Don’t reveal much about your life. If you’re asked about something that COULD be an opportunity for you to brag or reveal something personal ‘that’s a convo for another time’
Move slow
Never seek her approval - don’t try to be funny, don’t brag, don’t reveal anything if she’s doesn’t ask directly, don’t virtue signal
Talk about things, not people. Concepts not emotions. keep the conversation in a masculine frame: it gets her wet. Talking about herself and her life doesn’t get her wet (although you shouldn’t neglect this, as it builds trust, but you aren’t there to hide your masculine interests)
Stay on the right side of the law but take a risk on the date. Maybe you trespass somewhere you shouldn’t. Or get kinda sexual in a park at night. Or you’re a bit of a smart ass with the Uber driver who is driving you around. Or in the middle of the date you complete spontaneously change plans into something more exciting. Doesn’t have to be a big thing (don’t do anything that could have a negative consequence on your life - an alpha wouldn’t do that for some *****)…but some kind of low-key risky/smart ass behaviour will get her wet …it could even just be putting out her ciggarette without her permission or even making her buy you a drink or revving your engine (a true master Don Juan knows how to come across as a big badass whilst still staying on the right side of the law and other people)
Don’t smile too much.
Be bored at periods.
Allow periods of silence, make her break the silence.
Eye contact then look around at something more interesting than her
Never ever verbally put down another man to her - especially if she brings him up. this comes across as an attempt to disqualify someone you are afraid she might be attracted to.
Laugh off/ignore any criticism or problems.
Be harder to impress with trivial matters and always deep dive than accept face value.
She’s really into animals? Change ‘That’s really cool’ to ‘that’s kinda cool, as long as it’s not an overcompensation for a bad social life’.
She’s studying law - Change ‘that’s so good, you must be really smart’ to ‘that’s a solid choice, why law?’
She cold reads something about your personality - change ‘How did you know’ to ‘I guess you’re right’…you get the drift
don’t over do it. Just reserve your full validation for her values/accomplishments that really impress you eg she was looking after a sick friends for weeks ‘ah that’s a seriously good job’. You become more like a leader/coach figure than a supportive friend. The coach has more testosterone than a cheerleader.
try to to only a few topics on each date. This is more masculine that jumping around from topic to topic.
Finishing touches:
Black clothing, designer brands
Leather jacket, nice watch
Some kind of jewellery or a ring or necklace, but not so much that it’s feminine
Always goes down well
No kissing until she gives an IOI (eg putting on lip balm)
She texts first after the first date or no follow up
Verbalise sex before physical touching
Split the first date
Dont take any pictures of her or with her, unless she pulls out a camera and tries to take a picture with you.
Text game:
Text using the least amount of words possible to convey both coolness and wit. Reword your messages to be as short as possible but still make as much sense. Don’t use big/impressive words often, but use them sparingly so they stand out. If she isn’t biting after a few messages, move on. Never ever double text unless she has given you a serious IOI in the convo already. Never sext if you haven’t had sex yet. Don’t ask for nudes. Don’t make texting about flirting, but flirting is used as lubricant to keep it smooth before you set logistics. Never talk about yourself over text (unless absolutely necessary or directly asked). It’s ok to disappear and reappear. There is no time pressure in an alphas world (‘strike while the iron is hot’ is complete BS). Rescheduling the date and flaking on her is an alpha boss move. You have more time than she has options.
‘Mute’ her notifications so you aren’t inclined to reply as soon as she messages, but only when/if you open the app.
Side note - the biggest alpha tell is if a girl has driven hours to see you for the first date, or pays for the whole tab. If you’ve never had this, don’t bother criticising my methods.
Always seem like you are putting in less effort that her (a king expends little energy)
Don’t reveal much about your life. If you’re asked about something that COULD be an opportunity for you to brag or reveal something personal ‘that’s a convo for another time’
Move slow
Never seek her approval - don’t try to be funny, don’t brag, don’t reveal anything if she’s doesn’t ask directly, don’t virtue signal
Talk about things, not people. Concepts not emotions. keep the conversation in a masculine frame: it gets her wet. Talking about herself and her life doesn’t get her wet (although you shouldn’t neglect this, as it builds trust, but you aren’t there to hide your masculine interests)
Stay on the right side of the law but take a risk on the date. Maybe you trespass somewhere you shouldn’t. Or get kinda sexual in a park at night. Or you’re a bit of a smart ass with the Uber driver who is driving you around. Or in the middle of the date you complete spontaneously change plans into something more exciting. Doesn’t have to be a big thing (don’t do anything that could have a negative consequence on your life - an alpha wouldn’t do that for some *****)…but some kind of low-key risky/smart ass behaviour will get her wet …it could even just be putting out her ciggarette without her permission or even making her buy you a drink or revving your engine (a true master Don Juan knows how to come across as a big badass whilst still staying on the right side of the law and other people)
Don’t smile too much.
Be bored at periods.
Allow periods of silence, make her break the silence.
Eye contact then look around at something more interesting than her
Never ever verbally put down another man to her - especially if she brings him up. this comes across as an attempt to disqualify someone you are afraid she might be attracted to.
Laugh off/ignore any criticism or problems.
Be harder to impress with trivial matters and always deep dive than accept face value.
She’s really into animals? Change ‘That’s really cool’ to ‘that’s kinda cool, as long as it’s not an overcompensation for a bad social life’.
She’s studying law - Change ‘that’s so good, you must be really smart’ to ‘that’s a solid choice, why law?’
She cold reads something about your personality - change ‘How did you know’ to ‘I guess you’re right’…you get the drift
don’t over do it. Just reserve your full validation for her values/accomplishments that really impress you eg she was looking after a sick friends for weeks ‘ah that’s a seriously good job’. You become more like a leader/coach figure than a supportive friend. The coach has more testosterone than a cheerleader.
try to to only a few topics on each date. This is more masculine that jumping around from topic to topic.
Finishing touches:
Black clothing, designer brands
Leather jacket, nice watch
Some kind of jewellery or a ring or necklace, but not so much that it’s feminine
Always goes down well
No kissing until she gives an IOI (eg putting on lip balm)
She texts first after the first date or no follow up
Verbalise sex before physical touching
Split the first date
Dont take any pictures of her or with her, unless she pulls out a camera and tries to take a picture with you.
Text game:
Text using the least amount of words possible to convey both coolness and wit. Reword your messages to be as short as possible but still make as much sense. Don’t use big/impressive words often, but use them sparingly so they stand out. If she isn’t biting after a few messages, move on. Never ever double text unless she has given you a serious IOI in the convo already. Never sext if you haven’t had sex yet. Don’t ask for nudes. Don’t make texting about flirting, but flirting is used as lubricant to keep it smooth before you set logistics. Never talk about yourself over text (unless absolutely necessary or directly asked). It’s ok to disappear and reappear. There is no time pressure in an alphas world (‘strike while the iron is hot’ is complete BS). Rescheduling the date and flaking on her is an alpha boss move. You have more time than she has options.
‘Mute’ her notifications so you aren’t inclined to reply as soon as she messages, but only when/if you open the app.
Side note - the biggest alpha tell is if a girl has driven hours to see you for the first date, or pays for the whole tab. If you’ve never had this, don’t bother criticising my methods.
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