High standards

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Don't have sex with low interest women, no matter how hot they may appear to you.

 

[Plinco]

I wonder if anyone else shares the same view of quality > quantity when it comes to relationships (even short ones) with women.

It seems to me that for most guys a lay is a lay. But I see it differently. I won't go for it if the woman is not at least a 7,5 according to my taste.

And my scale might look like this: Face: Up to 6 points; Body: +1; Hair: +1; Femininity/Character: +1...
Which doesn't mean that I calculate each time whether a woman fits my criteria but this is just an example of how I see the overall rating to be.

This, of course, makes it harder to get laid. But for now I have only been with women that look good. And I think I prefer a drought rather than hitting low. I've talked to some friends about this, and nobody seems to be seeing it that way.

On several occasions I've rejected decent looking women that had high interest in me. Or stopped myself from cold approaching an easy set because "she was not good looking enough". And my concern in such a situation would be that she will like me but I won't, and it would be a waste of time, energy + even some inauthenticity, as I play directly, and why would I hit on her if I don't really like her anyway?

So there might be an issue here. By the way, I don't watch porn, but in my teenage years I did watch a lot of it. Perhaps this has to do something with the high standards. However, when I walk around outside, I often see and appreciate natural woman beauty. So my taste is not that unattainable.

What do you think?

You're not the only one. What you are attracted to is a reflection of who you are, and being picky hopefully means that you just know yourself well. People who spam approach, on the other hand, don't know themselves.

 

[BaronOfHair]

If a dude is patient, his shooting percentage will be through the roof

Yeah... If Dylan Roof hadn't been so eager, he could've delivered
a body count a hell of a lot more impressive than the lowly 9 he ultimately racked up* when he sauntered through EAMEC's front door, back in July of '15. This takes irony to levels Alannis Morisette never imagined possible



*For those who didn't pick up on it, what you just read is known as "gallows humor".... Murder in and of itself isn't funny, no matter how annoying most contempirary adherents of The Abrahamic Religions(Christians especially, here in The US)truly are, and I don't endorse or condone opening fire on any gathering of one's fellow humans

 

[GoodMan32]

I've only had free sex 17 times (and I'm 33 years old)

If my standards were as high as yours, I only would have had free sex a grand total of 3 times.

Going through a drought is one thing. But in my case, my (free) sex life would resemble the Atacama Desert if I had your approach.

That being said, dating down has its drawbacks. As you indicated, it can lead to a scenario where she's more into you than you're into her. That scenario has caused me to dump broads.

 

[GoodMan32]

I always made( make) the mistake of thinking like Good looks = high quality.

It's doesn't. I made a thread last year called date down . Because I observed that seemingly most men who are in committed healthy looking LTRs have a women whose seemingly has even less smv than they have. Still those men are capable of seeing through the facade of looks.

If you value female beauty you better got shyte to offer. More and more women are perfectly aware of their smv and they say " a beautiful women is never just yours" for a reason.

I get to a point where I'm not as reluctant to date a slightly less attractive woman if she adds value to my life on other aspects.


The best sex isn't always with the most attractive woman tho...

I think it has to do with the fact that when the dynamic is different the man's feeling of superiority gives him a lotta leverage ( e.g woman feels like YOU feel you can do better so she will put in more effort to satisfy you).

From a sexual experience pov a man might miss out if he only chasing baddies.

And women do have to capability to go from a 4 to a 7 by wearing the right clothes, make up ect, even women with a less ideal body type.

You're damn right the best sex isn't always with the most attractive woman.

The best sex I've ever had was with an older fattie.

 

[GoodMan32]

Not in Europe they don't. Men tend to date way up and women tend to date way down.

I'm talking like straight dimes with dudes that look like they got kicked in the face a few times.

From what I saw in the 3 weeks I was there visiting 5 countries and probably seeing thousands of couples being out and about every day.

And it was only partially tourists. I was also in plenty of non touristy parts of places with only locals around.

From what I've seen in the states, both scenarios happen.

For a man to date down, it's typically because he has some type of baggage making him desperate (ask me how I know )

For a woman to date down, it tends to be because the man has something going for him, to offset his subpar looks (that something could be smoothness, alphaness, money, muscle, etc)

 

[Gamisch]

From what I've seen in the states, both scenarios happen.

For a man to date down, it's typically because he has some type of baggage making him desperate (ask me how I know )

For a woman to date down, it tends to be because the man has something going for him, to offset his subpar looks (that something could be smoothness, alphaness, money, muscle, etc)

Good looks for a man are futile. There will always be a better looking man around the corner. Some men understand this and decide to put their 24 a day into something that will be advantageous long term.

It's funny how there are many different worlds within one world.