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[So pimp its scary]

I've been gaming a couple of girls lately, and have a girl that comes to town every couple of weeks for a serving of com.

The problem I've been having is that : while it's become relatively easy for me to meet a woman, and then bed her that night or within the next three times seeing her. Then I quickly get sick of them over the next couple of weeks.

The thing is that I've met this girl out of all of this that so far is actually a cool chick... Down to earth, confident, cute, and is totally into me.

Now, the problem is, I'm not sure how to go about hooking up with this girl in such a way that she won't start obsessing over me like most the other girls end up doing after a couple sessions.

I guess it boils down to : How would I stop myself from turning this cool chick into a bit more than my flavour of the week??

 

[Smooth Player 056]

And this is a problem?

Well since your game seems to be tight, I would game her as you normally do......but instead of initiating the sexual part, as you would normally do, I would initate a comfort part instead.

See, when you initiate compfort, you bring her to a level where she obviously feels a warm connection, rather than a quick sexual connection.

Basically whenever you would normaly initiate some sort of SEXUAL dynamic.....don't.....bring her more into your reality and distinguish a warm connection between yourselves.

Good luck So Pimp Its Scary

Sincerely
Smooth Player 056

 

[italostud]

Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
And this is a problem?

Well since your game seems to be tight, I would game her as you normally do......but instead of initiating the sexual part, as you would normally do, I would initate a comfort part instead.

See, when you initiate compfort, you bring her to a level where she obviously feels a warm connection, rather than a quick sexual connection.

Basically whenever you would normaly initiate some sort of SEXUAL dynamic.....don't.....bring her more into your reality and distinguish a warm connection between yourselves.

Good luck So Pimp Its Scary

Sincerely
Smooth Player 056

Sorry, but I have to disagree with this post. That advice is going to lead him straight into LJBF's-land.

You need to keep doing what you're doing.

One day, you will find the "one", and you will know when it happens. She won't behave like all of these other girls.

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by italostud
One day, you will find the "one", and you will know when it happens. She won't behave like all of these other girls.

or you'll be having meaningless sex for the rest of your life (why is it that i don't consider this a problem )

 

[italostud]

Originally posted by spider_007
or you'll be having meaningless sex for the rest of your life (why is it that i don't consider this a problem )

*looks around for a problem* I don't see one either!

No, but seriously, eventually one girl will stand out from the rest. But that doesn't mean that you stop being sexual around her.

How many successful older couples do you know?

When I say successful, I mean, happily married for 10+ years, good jobs, generally healthy people etc.

Now how many times have you heard their wives say "Oh, when I met him I thought he was neutered. He was so well behaved, I wondered if he had any testicles!" That's right, almost never. Usually the wife will allude to what a horny bastard her husband was when they met.

Of course this is all just my experiences. Take with appropriate grain of salt.

 

[Smooth Player 056]

Originally posted by italostud
Sorry, but I have to disagree with this post. That advice is going to lead him straight into LJBF's-land.

You need to keep doing what you're doing.

One day, you will find the "one", and you will know when it happens. She won't behave like all of these other girls.

It will not land him in LJBF land it is comfort aka c1 c2 c2 is all part of mystery method.......but I guess your 1 post provokes more knowledge than all the research and field tests behind mm.

By the way....I would say "keep doing what your doing" but.............he specifically asked for something different.....try reading the whole post

 

[italostud]

Originally posted by Smooth Player 056
It will not land him in LJBF land it is comfort aka c1 c2 c2 is all part of mystery method.......but I guess your 1 post provokes more knowledge than all the research and field tests behind mm.

By the way....I would say "keep doing what your doing" but.............he specifically asked for something different.....try reading the whole post

Can you do something for me Smoothplayer? I know this is going to be hard, because you've been doing it for so long, but....slowly, take Mystery's testicles out of your mouth. That's it...yeah I know, it's difficult, but you'll thank me for it later.

C1, c2, c2? I have no clue what the hell you're talking about.

 

[wowiehowie]

"It's not the kill, but the thrill of the chase!"

 

[penkitten]

relax, perhaps if this chick is all that and a bag of chips, you will swoon over her the way girls have swooned over you in the past. you never know, just have fun with it.

 

[So pimp its scary]

Smotthplaya - I understand what you mean, about developping comfort and rapport over a sexual relationship... it's just trying to figure out how to do this in such a way without turning into one of those chumps that I despise so (And laugh at for hours on end while clubbing)

I know to some of you this will sound strange, but I'm so used to meeting cheap, easy girls that mean nothing to me, that now that I've found a girl that actually shoows potential (I'm still in the process of figuring what she's all about) to be more than just another fling, I find myself stumbling, trying to find that happy medium between doing all the right things that I've been doing and not letting things get overboard.

Italostud - You are right, in a sense that the right woman will come and pop her head out of the ground... but here I am sitting with a boatload of ONS and STR's, and yet am still clueless when it comes to developing a serious relationship that can withstand my extreme sense of pickiness.

penkitten - I'd say i'm pretty chill at the moment... I never said that she was 'all that AND a bag of chiops' though, even though to date she is a step above the women that I've been dealing with for at least the past 6 months.

Anyway, I would still appreciate one or two practical suggestions to help develop 'comfort' in a relationship... just to make sure that I'm on the same page as what was meant.