High IL Drops For Unknown Reason....Next Move?

[golf299]

i was seeing this girl for a while...things were going well. she was calling or texting me multiple times a day for a solid month. then suddenly she went cold on me. she hasn't contacted me in over a week now.

so what should i do?

write her off completely and move on, or call her up and give her one more chance?

 

[TizZle]

Sh1t Test = Hard to get ? I think this may be the case but i'm not sure. She's most likely bored with the current situation.

 

[Climax]

yip...

Originally posted by TizZle
Sh1t Test = Hard to get ? I think this may be the case but i'm not sure. She's most likely bored with the current situation.

This is also what i think is going on... She is either putting you through a test to see if u are REALLY into her, or she is just getting bored with you.


Laterz...

 

[Mojo604]

Sounds to me like she was showing lots of interest, but you never made a move, and she got discouraged and gave up on you. way to go afc.

 

[golf299]

so how should can i redeem the situation? should i contact her and take her out and then make a move on her, or let her contact me?

i really don't know what my next move should be here...

 

[Mojo604]

You* initiating contact for once would be a good start, and go from there. Hope that she hasnt completely moved on yet, and is willing to give you another go.
Ive made the sme mistake in the past. nothing more came of it though, and her IL completely turned around. Became 'friends' after, but those thoughts were always hanging around.- which sucked, for both of us.

 

[RiceHapa888]

so what does it mean if you are dating a girl and she barely calls you? **** test or low IL?
I saw a girl I was dating do that so I just stopped calling her

 

[Mojo604]

Originally posted by RiceHapa888
so what does it mean if you are dating a girl and she barely calls you? **** test or low IL?
I saw a girl I was dating do that so I just stopped calling her

In golf299's case, he wasnt the one making all the contact, it was the girl.

If its the other way around, and the guy does all the contact and is then ignored... NEXT!

 

[golf299]

i think that i may have been too available to her from the start. i would hardly call her at all, but i would always answer the phone and text her back right away when she called or texted.

and maybe she got upset because i didn't make a move, but that's hard to tell. she said in the beginning that she wanted to take it really slow because she was hurt over this past summer, so i didn't want to push her and try and make a move too early. maybe that was my bad.

her IL was sky-high for a long time though and i guess i took it for granted. she would call me over to watch tv, cook for me, etc. she would always accept dates and we were having a GREAT time together.

i just wish i knew what the heck she was thinking so i could stop thinking about it.

my plan is just to call her up one more time, see if she wants to grab some dinner and go from there. if she doesn't answer, or doens't call back, or doesnt accept, then i'm moving on.

any more suggestions?

thanks!

 

[golf299]

anyone??

 

[Javelin44]

just move on, don't bother calling. if she wants you, she will call you. save yourself the hassle and give the chance of raising IL

 

[Oxide]

What up golf, you know you are one of the older guys, so i had to give the bro some advice.


Think about this, sky rocket IL for a month, than stone cold? This usually doesnt happen...


Have you had sex yet? May be that's the problem?


Seriously though, i would definately NOT cross this one out. Give her space, a couple of weeks.

The call her and say "Hey, i want to take you out" and see what she cooks up.

Keep us posted man. Good luck

 

[Climax]

Just call her! You have nothing to loose!

golf... look.... dont cut her out without knowing what COULD of happened with her, its been over a week that u have not spoken to her, she doesnt need any MORE space or anything, just give her a call and see where things go from there. Try make arrangements with her and meet up etc. If she really ISN'T interested, then thats her loss, and at least you tried, & THATS when u should move on, but for now, give her a call and see where things go.


Laterz...