Hi guys

[theapprentice]

This is my hello to the forum and hopefully a place for me to learn and change.

I am 20 yrs old and I attend college. Im sure you know why I am here. No its not a one-itis or a question about a specific women, its rather my journey about conquering fear and not letting it conquer me anymore.

I have had sex with one woman in my life which I am happy but not satisifed with. Not saying I want to have sex with every women that walks the earth but I want to be secure in myself that I have the skills on hand to go do "the magic" "the game" or "the pimp" w/e you want to call it to get a woman and at least have the courage to try, and approach women. I dont understand much about women, but quite frankly that dosent even matter to most people.

I dont even get up to Bat. My goal is to get rid of my approach anxiety, whether it be in Bars or clubs or Malls or streets.

The only problem is that I cant overcome fear, I need to find a way. I will find a way. I hope this place will help.

Now Im going to read the bible. Bye

 

[BOWIE]

Practice my man, practice. And the BEST way to practice is to start small. FLIRT W/ UGLY CHICKS. It will allow you to develop some skills w/o putting you through anxiety hell. Sure, it's a little embarassing to be seen flirting w/ hanky chicks but it will help you and make them feel good about themselves in the process.

 

[GatorBait]

Welcome. College is the best place to conquer your fears. You can learn, practice, and become a totally new, more confident person.

 

[theapprentice]

Good Idea

Thats a good idea. The anixety probably goes down as I talk to uglier chicks. I also start to feel a little bad that I see all these other guys with women that I want and I am a nervous reck when I even think about approaching them.

If I talk to ugly chicks I can slowly build confidence and take small risks and in time the chicks I talk to will start to look better or the beer will start to play tricks on me. Its already happened to me twice. Lol. Ive made out with chicks only to realize that they where ugs, and felt good but bad too.

One thing I realize, Ive been reading the bible for about an hour and that is, Confidence is important because it helps you overcome your fear. I also noticed that when I tell my self positive things and keep a positive outlook, and saying things like "hey lets go clubbing it will be so much fun" "hey let me try to experiment on this girl it will be exciting" it takes a lot of energy to generate positive feelings and thoughts inside me. On a regular day, a day I dont psyche myself up, I will be a gloomy gus. Thats not good. So maybe making continual effort to be positive will start to work on getting rid of approach anxiety. It will take some time, since I am so used to being negative.

I think that Bars and clubs will be the easiet place to approach girls, since its a social setting and get approached is not out of the norm, makes it easier for me.

Or classroom. I find it hard to approach girls because of my fears, in a lunchroom or maybe sitting alone near the library or any place that isnt designed to be social. Especially chicks walking. Stoping them and what not, thats a very advanced skill

 

[asdfghjkl]

Practice my man, practice. And the BEST way to practice is to start small. FLIRT W/ UGLY CHICKS. It will allow you to develop some skills w/o putting you through anxiety hell. Sure, it's a little embarassing to be seen flirting w/ hanky chicks but it will help you and make them feel good about themselves in the process.

Honest truth, i have a harder time flirting with ugly chicks than hot ones. haha i dont know whats wrong with me but my game never works on ugly girls when i crack jokes and stuff that HB's would laugh at the UGs just stare in awkward silence...lol

 

[GatorBait]

Honest truth, i have a harder time flirting with ugly chicks than hot ones. haha i dont know whats wrong with me but my game never works on ugly girls when i crack jokes and stuff that HB's would laugh at the UGs just stare in awkward silence...lol

Some UG's don't respond well to conventional seduction methods because they have really low self-esteem.

 

[theapprentice]

Im reading

Im reading all these sites online and there seem to be so many people that are intimidated by women, like I am. They also complain about how mean women are to them and how they have been treated badly by the system.

All of it is Discouraging to know that the success rate is low?

Is the success rate of people trying to game chicks low? Unless you are Tommy Lee jones or a millionare or a pimp like Mystery is there a chance for a RAFC?

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

Read the bible and archived post, but NEVER return to this side of the forum or venture into the tips section. Make this your last post in the general forum, matter of fact, print the DJ Bible and some other quality OLD posts and never comeback to sosuave.net again. If you have to comeback make sure it is 3 months from now after you have done some field work and post a 3month field report. If you continue to come here you will be destroyed by the foolishness of the new posters. So, run and get out of here before you turn in to a worthless KBJ.

 

[theapprentice]

Okay...

I just need a place to bit*ch really thats what it seems most people do. I will read the bible and go try this stuff. Whats the point of wasting all this time if I dont do anything about it.

Women and money are my too important things that give me happiness, but I know that I am incomplete without a women. BUt I need to like myself and be happy without one. Its weird, man was never intended to live without women but here i have to learn not to need them. Stupid games. Anyway I need help with approach anxiety maybe I can find some wingmen.