Hi, first time posting on DJ

[NotoriousGRK]

In the past few weeks I found your discussions quite interesting. Some I agreed some I disagreed. Overall I like what I have seen.

Long story short my last semester on campus is starting in March and I only "did it" with one chick. The other women that I have met, in my opinion, behaved in dramatic ways, sluggish in communicating by phone and such and some are potential headcases that ought to be institutionalised.

Anyway, I dont know when I will ever return to day time study in university in the future and have adequate support financially and be fit for it, I have been thinking how can I make this semester leaps and bounds better than the rest.

It may seem very open ended to you (even ambiguous). What I would like is some genuine insight or pointers from your experiences or from others in such a situation.

Also, in my university as well as locals there are plenty of international students from different continents.

Looking forward to your responses.

 

[Mike32ct]

One tip came to mind when you wrote, "sluggish in communicating my phone."

Forget about talking on the phone with women today. Just text.

At your age, it's like 99 percent text messaging.

Even at my age, it's like 75+ percent text.

There are MANY more tips we can give you, but we would need specific questions or situations to help.

Anyway, welcome to SS.

 

[NotoriousGRK]

Thanks for being the first one to reply here Mike.

Even texting had been bit of a b****.

I'll tell you one very recent example, from the end of the previous semester that had been too common.

One girl was really seemed like she was enjoying my company she was keen to see me talk and such, some very big smiles. She would be really good with communication and being someone I liked being around. When it came to sitting down together over coffee it was a sudden change in mood, like I done something "bad". I let her go since she was not making me happy and didnt add anything positive to my university experience either than someone to say hello to. As good as that is its not adequate for what I want. I removed her from my fb and deleted her number.

That day I got rid of her I wanted to switch seats with my other friend on the bus since I did not want to sit next to her anymore after she lied to my face that she didnt like the place I suggested we go, before she was like "of course I have been there!" She freaked out when I done that and said "You dont want to sit next to me!?!?!?!?!?" I just said that I wanted air.

After we got off she called me out to me and waved and I just gestured for her to leave me in peace. The look on her face was as if her whole world got turned upside down.
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And what has never happened before:

Now what happened in that was some dude that liked another chick who I met last year would ask me about what he should do with her. I would provide some down to earth advise, such as "well just ask her out and take it from there"

He knew what girl I was going for (the one I described above) and I introduced them. I miss one lecture and he starts hitting on her. How did I know? I come back the next week and she was talking about how they were "talking". Turns that he had his sights on her after he is like "I like such and such a girl, like X" "what is happening between you and X?" like he didnt know. Plus he told me about how that chick he went for started to avoid him since that time I missed the lecture.

That day I got rid of her through my own way I made him aware that he done something bad and he was going to get the horns. The look on his face was as if he saw a ghost. It was a scum act by him anyway. He wont be going near who I like from now on

 

[Mike32ct]

There are very few friends you can trust. Generally, nothing good can come from telling a friend which girl you like, unless he's a trusted from you've known for a long time.

You will probably read some negative or cynical posts on here, but don't take them personally or be put off by them. It's a difficult game. Girls can be very entitled and can flake (ie cancel dates or disappear) at any time. So some posts are just venting, but a lot is actual experience.

General tips:

Looks matter a lot. Do what you can to optimize your look. Body and hair are very important.

Game is finding a chick that is attracted to you and not F-ing it up. Keep it simple and follow your gut.

Forget about what other guys are doing. Worrying about how another guy is doing with a girl you like is an inner game destroyer.

Having a hobby can make you interesting. I get more mileage telling chicks about ballroom dance than actually meeting chicks in class. Your thing might be guitar, piano, skiing, martial arts, or whatever.

 

[Mike32ct]

Read bradd80's Secret Guide in the Don Juan Tips forum.

It's the most to the point AND comprehensive guide I have ever read.

 

[VladPatton]

Mike32ct's point about hobbies is extremely true. I once mentioned I took flying lessons and this chic's eyes lit up, she was totally into the convo. I was shocked. You never know. Always have something you're doing to round yourself out as a better person and to experience things this world has to offer. They are invaluable to you life.

Welcome to SS.

 

[JohnChops]

Read bradd80's Secret Guide in the Don Juan Tips forum.

It's the most to the point AND comprehensive guide I have ever read.

Plus one to that. And yah don't listen to all the old bitter men on here, some of them go as far as to hating women. Trust me I went down that road and it SUCKS. Just focus on your inner game, indifference towards women, and yourself (most importantly) and well see if we can male you a DJ yet!

 

[NotoriousGRK]

I took a look at bradd80s post and some of the points he makes I can agree and with some I disagree. I saw the picture of the chick he got she was pretty nice. But since she was a lunatic better to part with her.

That one girl I done it with was abit loose in the head despite how her look appealed to me. I suppose doesnt matter, had sex

The respect part I can relate to. From what I have noticed respect is something that I overlooked in the past as well as other aspects.

You guys appear quite reasonable and sensible (by no means do I mean the dreaded "nice guy", oh no). To assist you in assisting me, I do not like the idea of playing silly over-the-top games just so I can "get in" with her nor would I like to make a Broadway musical extravaganza of an approach. For some guys it may have gotten them some very good experiences with women and Godspeed to them.

What had been challenging for me was: what is she on about? What has suddenly got into her? Is she all there? Maybe I would post those sorts of questions.

 

[vatoloco]

I have been thinking how can I make this semester leaps and bounds better than the rest.

This.

What is it that YOU want out of your last semester. Different people have different wants...

 

[NotoriousGRK]

Ok good question

I would to be around great people who live close by who do activities outside of the campus, like going for dinners, lunches, coffee or for a walk. The ones that I met lived way too far or its not their thing.

As far as women are concerned I would like to get intimate with those I truly desire that appeal to my tastes and have long lasting good memories. I would like at least a few more intimate encounters.

Overall, I would really like to have some great and fond connections that will last beyond the university years.

 

[vatoloco]

Well, then. Start getting involved with social groups: fraternities, student organizations, etc.

If you wanna get laid, definitely look into fraternities. Nothing says pre-selection like belonging.

Though don't fuck up your last semester. I've know some people who go batshit crazy and 1) either drop their GPA to undesirable levels or 2) do something extremely stupid that either gets them expelled or on probation.

Don't be stupid.