Hey old man!

[eminence]

Please don't kill me for the thread title, and don't take it personally, but this question is directed for those that are at least age 30+(not that your old men or anything )


What do you regret not doing or doing in your lifetime. What would you have changed about your life if you could go back?

Please list your age(if comfortable, if not...no biggy) along with your response.

 

[spread_love]

35...I regret not moving to another city with my girlfriend a few years back, we were together for over three years and I chose not to move to another city because I can't live in the city she does, she moved there and had a daughter with a real loser, who has since left her and doesn't want to be a Father.

We are still in touch and close friends, I would go out with her again in a heartbeat...we just seemed to fit.

 

[Luveno]

My biggest regret is not getting up to check if my window was not completely closed last night.

It's quite windy out, and the loud sound of the wind was keeping me awake all night. This morning, after maybe two hours of sleep, I get up to see that it was because my window wasn't shut all the way!

Damn. Now my day will be a tired one. Blah.

 

[penkitten]

there are things i look back on and wished that i had chosen another way to deal with things, or chosen to make a different decision, but all in all, those things taught me valuable lessons.
if i had not experienced them, i would not be the person i am today. they built my character and humbled me so.
living with regrets can tear a person down, so instead, i try to look on the bright side and see that even the gloomiest outcome can teach you the biggest lesson of your life.
so if i had it to do all over again, i would live my life about the same, but i would be kinder to people, listen more and would care less about what other people thought of me.

 

[romangod]

I'm 49 and I don't have any regrets. I'm single, retired and still look very young for my age. I was close to marriage twice and my gut feeling was that it wouldn't work. I turned out to be right.

 

[COD]

i regret all the LAME QUESTIONS THE YOUTH ASK.........worry about your penis and logg off and get some chics.

 

[mintxx]

I hit the keyboard so hard I hit the enter key by mistake.

Don't get married. You lose your freedom, then half your assets, and my alimony payments would pay for a Ferrari.

And my wife was as hot as they come -- way out of your league -- and still looked hot when we split up. And you know what? Hot as she is she's one of about 17 women in the world that I wouldn't fvck. Why? We were married.

War has its moments. Marriage is hell.

As for regrets kid -- fvck all the women you can and you won't go too far wrong. Don't listen to the guys that tell you that the women have to be beautiful. In a few years you'll realize that they were.

CH-CHING! Gold.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

I regret wasting 7 years and 4 years respectively on two real loser women, and wasting the best part of my early 20s to early 30s.....but at least I'm not married....

 

[ducaro]

I really really regret not having taken sciences in high school. That is the only thing i regret.

Apart from that.. nothing.. whatever i have been through has only helped me learn and be wiser

 

[joekerr31]

i regret not going to church and not having a sense of spirituality in my life until i was in my late 20s.

i still don't go to church and i still regret the fact that i don't. although i have started watching sunday mass on tv.

 

[grinder]

What a gigantic question. I really have lived my life as much as possible by one of the existential maxims; that is:

You are the decision maker in your life; make choices that increase your freedom and the ability to make future choices.

So, using this as my yardstick my scorecard is as follows:

1) Got college degree = more choices.
2) Moved to big city but did not stay, moved back to smaller city = fewer choices.
3) Have always taken care of my body = more choices.
4) Got married (first time) too young = fewer choices.
5) Got married (second time), had great kids = more choices
6) Changed careers, kept learning new things = more choices.
7) Got divorced both times = more choices.
8) Let social life stagnate = fewer choices.
9) Afraid to take chances earlier in life = fewer choices.

The term “regret” has no meaning.

 

[shyguy32]

Only thing I really regret is not staying social when I was younger...after I got married it was like my social life ended and then when I got divorced I had to start all over again re making myself.

So now I always flirt and keep my social skills alive even though I'm in a relationship I don't want to end up like I was before.

 

[KarmaSutra]

i regret all the LAME QUESTIONS THE YOUTH ASK.........worry about your penis and logg off and get some chics.

Horses ass.

The one regret I have is learning to trust myself at this stage in my life. I should have honed my instincts much much earlier.

 

[Interceptor]

I never did like living in the past.
So regret was never a major issue in my life, in my schema.

There are certain things that I do regret having done, or not taken advantage of.
But I look back and realize I just wasn't ready for that opportunity, and I have to accept it. I didn't have the answer then, I feel much closer to the answer NOW. I can't blame myself for reacting in ignorance.
I refuse to do that to myself.
I can't hold on to resentment or regret.
What's done is done.
All I can do now is to reflect and maximize my potential and enact changes that will lessen the chances of those things happening again. I learned from my mistakes.
Knowing what I've been through only makes me more appreciative of the good things in my life now, and the good opportunities that present themselves to me now.

I see it like Penny. I'm a better person now. Those things only made me stronger and wiser. The wisdom gave me the fuel to change those things that affected me negatively. Thus, I have such a strong momentum now. It's hard to explain. Put it this way, I do not see myself reacting the way I used to about many things nowadays.

And I appreciate things alot more, and am much more cognizant of what's IN and what NOT in my life right now. I don't take things as much for granted these days. I am grateful every day.


I am an improved version of myself now.

I sometimes joke to myself, as corny as it sounds, I feel like a cross between Wolverine and Mr. Spock. I guess that makes sense only to me. But I resonate with that subconscious understanding.


I forgive myself.

I forgive others.

 

[ElChoclo]

Just like Groucho Marx said, "My biggest regret was that I once kissed an ugly woman."

You got to be a mature man to get the humour in that one.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

The funny thing about regret is, it's better to regret something you have done than regret something you haven't done.

I only regret things I haven't done,...yet.

 

[squirrels]

Please don't kill me for the thread title, and don't take it personally, but this question is directed for those that are at least age 30+(not that your old men or anything )


What do you regret not doing or doing in your lifetime. What would you have changed about your life if you could go back?

Please list your age(if comfortable, if not...no biggy) along with your response.

You say it like most people are bed-ridden at 30. LOL

 

[Victory Unlimited]

One thing that I regret is HOW LONG it has taken me to learn that many of the most fulfilling moments of my life occur when I have successfully balanced THE PRACTICE of caring about the feeling of others, while at the same time, managing to hold MY OWN best interest in equally as high a regard.

 

[Blackmm]

I regret not applying myself to my school studies as much as I should have in HS and my first year in college. Also I was a major AFC in HS. So many opportunities slipped thru my hands.