Hey Don Juans.....help A Don Juan Out

[DonJuanForever]

Hey guys, I need a favor, you guys don't mind giving your buddy a favor do you?

Now I posted some info here and there on this site, helped some folks out around here. But I talked about this "flow" and when I am in this "flow," it's like I am a sex machine and I am getting this girl, chatting this girl up, humping this girl, making out with this one, etc., etc. But sometimes its's "on" and sometimes its completely "off." I have no idea what this is, but I do know one thing, it is the determining factor in me getting laid all over the place and being the man I want to be, or not getting the results I want.

I am not sure, I know that a "don juan" is all about a mindset and attitude, I don't really have that problem, I don't have low self esteem, I always see myself as valuable or the prize, but that really does not restart the "flow" when it's off.

I am not sure, but I think it's coming down to FEAR AND CONFIDENCE. I honestly believe CONFIDENCE is comfortableness, but what stops me from being comfortable? Fear! Fear of what I don't know, but I would notice a difference at times. When the "flow" is there I am so god damn comfortable and relaxed, it's like I am in "sex" heaven and just making my rounds to make sure I touch and kiss every girl, seriously! Then, I don't know, there would be times, I just would not feel like doing anything, and that "flow" just would not be cooking.

Guys, give me some insight.....what is this "flow"? Where does it come from, how do I have it one minute and lose it the next, if I lose it how can I restart it again, guys.........what is this? If you guys help me out here, I'll buy you all a beer! lol.

 

[DonJuanForever]

Oh and guys another thing, I am not afraid of women at all, lol. I approach all the time, I am not afraid of rejection. But I notice this though, when the "flow" is there, I get mad pvssy brothers. When the "flow" isn't, I get just about next to shyt. Lol, and it looks so funny, because everybody says, "He was hot last night, what's up with him tonight?" Lol, and I tell those svckers, guys, I really have no fvcking clue, lol.

But seriously, it might be some type of fear, but I have no idea what type of fear it is, because I am not afraid to approach women at all. I approach them with the flow and without it, lol, just when the flow isn't there, the women usually leave as well.

 

[Mission]

Here's a tip about keeping your flow going. Since you can tell when you are on, and when you are off, you know what it feels like to be in the "flow". Now, I want you to think about what you are like when you are in the flow, write it down. Write down how you walk, the tone of your voice, what you talk about, what those days are like, are you happy? are you sad? are you tired? etc. Once you have gotten a good picture of what you are like when you are in the "flow", start emulating it all the time. When you feel like you are out of the flow, think about everything you wrote down and put it into use. Eventually you will begin to be in the "flow" all the time, it will be a second nature to you. You will constantly be in the "flow" and you will be laughin when you are.

--Mission

 

[DonJuanForever]

Thanks Mission, I did write them down....the personality that I display becomes more of a personal preference. I could be thuggish, loud and crazy, romantic, etc.

The difference I feel is on the inside. What I mean is, I don't feel like I have low self esteem, I feel like something inside of me has been turned off. I don't know what it is. I notice that when it's off, people, not just women, but majority of people begin acting differently toward me, and none of it is positive.


What I am finding, is that my personality does not matter, but its more of keeping this switch turned on, but I have no clue whatsoever what it is. I would literally be in the club and it would be on, then it would turn to off, and girls would begin pulling away from me, the girls would push me off when I would dance with them. But when it was on, I could literally do whatever, I would run up and grind all the women, and I would be literally making my rounds to all women in the club.

Can somebody tell me, what the hell is this thing that comes on and off? It is the difference between my failure and success? And I am serious, anybody who can tell me what the hell this is, I will get ya' beer or a t-shirt! Shyt, I want to know what this is.

 

[qlo]

i have exactly the same problem, only that switch is more off than on..

it's weird idd, i feel completely the same as normal but i'm supersocial, and another day, i still feel the same way and i'm supershy.. like wtf :s

some more replies could be useful

 

[Boschy]

Sounds like a physiological thing. For example, a combination of testosterone levels and other things that affect your mood, such as your B-vitamin and adrenaline levels. Also, having enough sleep, etc.

Testosterone especially contributes to that predatory feeling of power and alphaness. Listen, even Tyler Durden admitted that during one out of five or six sarges he did, he felt like warmed over crap, and his game was not as effective.

 

[DonJuanForever]

Boschy, lol, I have a lot of energy! This thing is funny, because I have read this site, D9's site, fast seduction, and no matter what "method" I use, it's this switch that is "on" that is causing it. Hell, I could be a gentlemen, a jerk, a thug, a azzhole, Justin Timberlake, I am literally free to be what ever I want AND STILL GET WOMEN when this switch is on, when it's off, no matter what I do or don't do, WOMEN AVOID ME LIKE THE PLAGUE.

I have done searches on this, I really wish somebody would tell me what this is, lol.

 

[DonJuanForever]

Test. levels, lol, no.....I am always upbeat.

 

[flippinfreak]

I remember one of the first posts you made about being able to read people... That's part of the flow right?

Do you remember what your doing during the day? When you wake up? What kind of things you drink, what your job required, etc...?

I was hoping you were going to help me out when I responded to you back when. You never did answer though. Maybe we can help eachother out.

For me, it's authorization. If I round up friends before I go out, bump into a few during the day. Get a props here and there when I'm driving during the day, and people challenge me, instead of straight out try to insult me during the day I am great. If not, I fizzle.

 

[Charm]

This switch you are talking about is often called the "zone". Being in the zone is something that happens infrequently for beginners in any game or practice. It works the same way in this one. The "zone" mental state comes through practice and a meditative attitude of cool, calm, relaxed and focussed.