her smell offended me and then I offended her

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I've been with my girlfriend for only 3 days. She is already fighting with me. We had our first big fight not even after a full day of being official. I didn't hear from her all day on sunday. I waited until today to call her but she ignored my call and texted me she "needs to reconsider things" so I don't like that at all. That was this morning and still no word from her yet. I'll write more about what happened to see what you guys think.

I met her in my history class. we never started really talking until october but she would always smile and look at me in class. she gave me a lot of good looks. we started talking and exchanged numbers and then started hanging out between classes and after class. we went on like four dates after that. She called me more and more and she started sending me pictures of her

I went over to her house on Friday to help put up some Christmas decorations because she said it would be fun. we were in the garage getting some lights out of a box when she pulled me close to her and started kissing me. The kissing got more intense and she started rubbing me. I touched her too her as we were kissing. Then she unbuttoned her jeans pulled them down a little and opened them up and told me to stick it in her. So I did and we had a quickie in her garage. We went bowling later and when I was ready to go home outside her house she said she wanted me to be her boyfriend. So we were official.

She called me on Saturday morning and told me her parents would be gone all afternoon going Christmas shopping and we would be all alone. We just chilled in her room for a while and then started making out. It got more intense until our clothes were off. I started with the foreplay getting her more into it then she said she wanted me to go down on her. So I did. I went down on her but there was this really bad smell. I tried to ignore it but the taste was worse. I didn't like it. It never smelled one that bad before. It also smelled like bad smelling ass underneath. She pushed my face into her and got a worse whiff of it. She asked me if I like it. It smelled bad and was making me kinda sick so I stopped. I started to finger her so I didn't have to do that anymore. I did that so she wouldn't think there anything was wrong. Then she asked me why I stopped? I just told her to enjoy it and thought she would forget about it. I did that until she came. Then we had sex. After I finished I went straight to the bathroom. I washed my face and hands with soap trying to get the bad smell and taste off. My finger still stunk and I could still smell it in my nose even after I washed it. I heard her call me and she asked me if I was ok. I said yea that it was taking a long time for me to pee.

she was sitting on the edge of her bed cuddling with her stuffed bear and looked a little sad. she said she wanted to cuddle and watch a movie. so we did. we didn't talk much and it was quiet. I was thinking about not having to do that again and how it turned me off. I still could smell it in my nose and taste it still. I was thinking about what excuse I was going to use the next time she asked me to go down. She was acting all sad. I asked her what was wrong. she said nothing is wrong. A little later she asked me why I stopped eating her out. I tried to lie but she didn't believe me and started questioning me about all these things. So I just told her the truth.

She got upset and moved me away from her and she sat against her headboard with her arms folded. she got teary eyed and I asked what was wrong. she didn't answer me. I saw she was upset so I tried to comfort her and hold her. she pushed me away and said for me to get away from her. I said come on and tried again. That is when she got really mad at me. She shoved me away and screamed at me to leave and go home. Her eyes were wide and big and she called me a jerk. I thought I better leave because she was acting all weird. I started to leave and she called me names. So I told her that I dont understand some of you girls. You all say you want an honest guy and then when you get one you get pissed off at him for being honest. She got more angry and put out her arms like she was pleading at me and said "will you just go." I stood there looking at her and she got her stuffed animal and threw it at me. I tried to make a joke so I said ha ha you missed me. she then screamed to " Get the Fu.k out" and was reaching for something else harder to throw at me. so i left and got out of there.

I didn't hear from her all day on sunday. I didn't call her or nothing. I thought i would give her a day to cool off for this to blow over. I called her this morning and she didn't pick up. I left her a nice voicemail and apoligized for Saturday and told her that we should go get a bite to eat so we can talk. 15 minutes later I got a text from her saying that she is about to take a final and that she needs to reconsider things.

What was I suppose to do? She asked me and I told the truth. It smelled awful and I thought maybe she could do something about it if she knew. I mean she knew something was wrong. She was sad and kept asking me why I stopped so I let her know. I think she overreacted. I did offened her but I was being truthful. I didn't want to keep making excuses for why I wasn't doing that. I didn't want to taste that again. If she cleaned herself better I would say that is a easy thing to do. I think that its over with us. I didn't like how she acted. should I just call her and break up with her before she does? did I do something wrong? Her smell and attitude turned me off so I don't know if things would be good with us anymore. I didn't like how mean she got with me. Im just confused because this happened so fast over the weekend. I never expected any of this. What do you guys think? What would you do?
 

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She was probably really embarrassed and granted you are 20 so she is still young and that was her emotional response to feeling humiliated. Sexual embarrassment can be more humiliating, especially in a young woman..

Her response was crazy. Maybe next time she'll wash her va-jay before she wants to have someone go down on her...she just had bad hygiene man..and if your nose was shouting that out to you, I'd acknowledge that...LOL..what if she had some std or bacterial infection down there? If it's not clean and you don't dig it I would say next time stay away...things smell bad for a reason! We're supposed to Stay Away!

Sounds like you guys basically fooled around and had sex a few times and she considered her your 'boyfriend'. This is sort of an arbitrary word in this circumstance as it sounds like you both don't know each other that well.

I would say move on if you're not looking for anything more with her...if she's a clean girl and just had a bad day (aka was active and sweaty and her va-jay-jay there got smelly...) you could be forgiving and see if she'll clean up better next time..lol..but I don't blame you for being turned off..I would be..and I'd probably wonder if she had something going down on there (did you use a condom?)

Honestly man she is probably humiliated..it could just be bad hygiene..I don't blame you for your response..she sounds crazy...but you may want to not say anything to embarrass her further if she is clean and it was just a 'bad day'..idk..
 

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Sorry OP, but that was one of the funniest descriptions I've ever read.

I don't think you did anything wrong. Some women do smell like road kill and festering arse down there but you're right, if no one says anything, how are they supposed to know?
A defensive reaction from her is understandable but I'm worried that it was so violent and extreme.
Harry Wilmington might be able to offer a diplomatic way to bring it up with her. Otherwise, it might be wise to develop your exit strategy.
Good luck!
 

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LOL that sucks man. Anything that smells bad is rotten. She feels embarrassed because you said something about it. It's her fault for not taking care of it. She sounds a little crazy to me. You said its only 3 days so maybe she will act different after. after something like that i think there would be a strain on things so i would let her go and move on. she shouldnt of went off like she did. what happens if there is a next time. Think about it
 

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LOL, that was pretty funny because we've all had to deal with that stank. It's funny how it never seems to leave until a day later.

I think a 20 year old has no way to react in an adult manner, so her reaction isn't that strange really. The question is, how EXACTLY did you tell her? THat may have something to do with it.

It sounds like you were pretty sensitive to her and wanted to spare her feelings, but how did it really go down (no pun intended) when you told her?

I would just tell her listen, this is just a common fact of life and something that can easily be taken care of. I'm sure it was just an off day or a bad day. This will help her save face. Downplay it and help her realize it's not that big a deal.
 

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This one reeks of craziness.
 

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The modern woman. They don't do dishes, windows, laundry, cooks, or wash their cooter. This is fųcking inexcusable. Tell her to go wash her vaj and you should feel secure you did nothing wrong. Would she want to suck on your cὀck if it tasted like aged feta cheese?

Hellz to the No.

Relax man, let her walk. This ain't what the term "dirty girl" refers to!
 

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hahaha......haven't gone down on too many girls so i haven't come across a stank one yet. it'd be nice to hear good responses to this.

people here have said in the past to make yourself super hygenic infront of her such as refusing to let her go down on you until u shower, etc. hoping she'd get the point but your a bit past that now.
 

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LOL that was hilarious especially since it's almost exactly what I went through once. The WORST smelling vag i've ever had was a black girl. I cannot bring myself to even date a black girl again or even watch porn with a black girl in it because I just get reminded of the terrible smell and how badly I wanted to get the fvck out of there when I was in her room with her.

But to answer your question you did nothing wrong. The truth hurts man and she reacted like a psycho to it so consider dropping her altogether.
 

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A lesson here- women say they want the truth, but like the movie says, "you can't handle the truth!" and they usually can't. We've all had that happen at some time, but you gotta be real tactful in telling women "the truth". lol
One way might have been to ask her to take a shower with you. This is a great idea, very romantic, and you can help her get clean, and enjoy it too.
 

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Sound like she has BV. Dont worry, men can't get it. It's easily treatable. http://www.cdc.gov/std/bv/stdfact-bacterial-vaginosis.htm

If you want this girl back, you need to make her feel sexy again. Your relationship is on the rocks because she is ashamed and feels undesirable. Sending a txt "Hey sexy" may be a start. Or, maybe you don't want this girl anymore. Up to you.
 

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you dont want to have to go through that again do you? i would never talk to her again.
 

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Theres something 'fishy' about this story.....:crackup:
 

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This girl is getting this mad a day into the relationship. Think of how mad she is going to get and what she will do later in the relationship.
 

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OP bro, I think you've been too passive about the whole relationship. It seems like SHE'S the one that has been in control every step of the way.

She is the one who initiates sex, She is the one who sets up dates.

I think you might be settling for someone below your league here, man.

Is she fat? Is she ugly?

Yeah, I hate the smelly vagina problem. I've refused to have sex with girls before because I didn't like the smell of their vag. I would never lick a pvssy I didn't like the smell of, never ever ever.

I've got self-respect man. You should get some too.
 

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Dude -

Any girl (or woman) who DEMANDS that you go downtown on her - you have already lost your frame, pal.

Move on to greener pasture, dictate who has the frame next time. I don't go downtown until she's visited my farmlands down South first and walked her face amongst the wheatfields.

While reading your post I couldn't quite stop feeling 'damn boy, grow some balls!'

Good luck,

With respect

Exodus
 

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LOL I just had to laugh at the title of this post.

Everyone is right. It seems like this is more of a "relationship" based on sex rather than a mutual interest and connection.

That's all good and dandy, but unfortunately she has stinky candy.

She's also mad at your honesty.

Honesty is a virtue, but being tactful will get you far in life! Just being honest. ;)
 

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Man, that's disgusting...you should have told her to clean herself and go get tested for a BV....nothing worse than a smelly one...i stopped eating chicks out for nearly a year after a bad encounter once...ugh. ...i can taste the nastiness even thinking about it...let's get this straight...she is fat, has a temper and she stinks down there...wow....dump her immediately and don't look back
 
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