Her Friend (guy) died..My response?

[slickaz]

One of her family friend's son, slightly younger than her, they were friends but not close or anything. Died in car crash last night.

Shes gotten all emotional and super sad...crying and acting silly.
She's been calling me and saying stuff like:
'He is laying there, so still, he looks so handsome, and so tall..**Cry**Cry**"

me thinking wtf! am i supposed to do?

i let her cry it out, and listened but i told her, not to go look at the body again coz she'll get more upset.
She goes "im not gonna listen to you on that, i have to go see him, his folks and sisters need me there.."

what do you guys recommend?
she's a plate, but a good plate/fwb.
she's been there for me when i lost my friend, and although i didnt get that emotional.

do girls really get that emotional? just because other people are crying that they lost someone?
i dont feel the need to get so upset about someone else's loss. its not like they hung out or were even good friends. but yeh i dunno if thats me basing in on 'my' past experiences with losing 6 of my close friends.

 

[nightcrawler]

no need to get jelous over it man..it's not like she'll have sex with him. Or will she? :nervous:

 

[slickaz]

hahaha...na man, im not jealous..

i dont care about the guy or what she said..

i just dont know what i should do.
usually id just say harden up...or just not contact till she contacts me.
but i feel kinda like maybe this time i should make an effort to be there for the girl..i dunno what to say..lol

 

[The Logical Player]

original thread topic aside, i APPLAUD you for getting back in the game so quickly after your fluke of "relationship" with that other hoe for 4 months

I am happy for you that you already have new plates going - LEARN YOUR LESSON EVERYONE, THIS IS HOW IT'S DONE

LTR over? GOOD, go get yourself some plates and have fun!

p.s. death is such a sensitive thing, just tell her what she wants to hear, don't lecture her, don't try to make any observations, just tell her "it'll be alright" and shyt like that, there is nothing else you can say to make her less upset about it

 

[Bigdada]

dude, don't trip. look at it this way:

HE DIED!!! THE MOTHERF**KERS DEAD!!! he can't do anything for her, and so it's not like she's emoting over "look at all the missed sex I could've had, too bad he's dead".

NOT EVEN! it's like, what else is she going to say? "*insert name here* died last night, he was so short, so f**king ugly, and smells like a jar of formaldehyde"

He's dead!!! she's going to be like that for a while.

now, what you need to do is just let her do the steering. don't dispute anything she says, and she'll say "wow, slickaz, you're such a great listener! do you want a *******?"

lol, not that last part, but hopefully something like that!

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

I have no clue why are you asking this question. What answer are you expecting? Of course girls are emotional. Support her and don't think for the " NEXT STEP ". Its stupid to dump her over this.

 

[Solomon]

original thread topic aside, i APPLAUD you for getting back in the game so quickly after your fluke of "relationship" with that other hoe for 4 months

I am happy for you that you already have new plates going - LEARN YOUR LESSON EVERYONE, THIS IS HOW IT'S DONE

LTR over? GOOD, go get yourself some plates and have fun!

p.s. death is such a sensitive thing, just tell her what she wants to hear, don't lecture her, don't try to make any observations, just tell her "it'll be alright" and shyt like that, there is nothing else you can say to make her less upset about it

Damn son you ever log off?
You putting in mad KBJ work

what happend to

I'm out......maybe I'll post again when someone genuinely posts about needing help and is ready to change himself,.

^^:crackup: :crackup:

 

[The Logical Player]

Damn son you ever log off?
You putting in mad KBJ work

what happend to


^^:crackup: :crackup:

this thread looks pretty genuine to me - why do you talk all ghetto the past few weeks, but you talked pretty square before? having fun testing your new online personality?

Plus after some good input from some amazing posters such as Alexander the Great and KontrollerX, I decided to stick around and just ignore the chumps

 

[Solomon]

lameeee

this thread looks pretty genuine to me - why do you talk all ghetto the past few weeks, but you talked pretty square before? having fun testing your new online personality?

Plus after some good input from some amazing posters such as Alexander the Great and KontrollerX, I decided to stick around and just ignore the chumps

lol @ this dude?

do you know me in real life?

do you?

My uncle was talking about lames like you

http://en.sevenload.com/videos/O38q9ik-Uncle-T-breaking-down-Game

Please STFU, you are the lamest of the lame, ranting about "i'm done" like a punk ass *****, and then you posting in all threads again flaming posters and what not.(every time I log on you always here, wtf?)

You my friend are a fraud, and I dare you to prove that you are the "player" who you claim to be (where is the evidence dog? even Supreme use to post field reports with pics, where you at though player? on yahoo chat? LOL)

of course you will refuse, because your game ain't up to par ( I can tell by your inner game it's weak as hell)

keep assuming you know the kid though

I'm out

 

[DJDamage]

Nothing you can do.

Just find the right balance between:

not becoming her emotional tampon/associating you with her negative feelings

vs

not acting down right like you don't give a sh1t and want nothing to do with her until she gets her head on straight again. However if she is just a plate and not LTR then maybe its what you need to do.

 

[KontrollerX]

"what do you guys recommend?"

Don't become overinvested in being there for her because you think she was there for you in the past.

Just be there sparingly for her because your time is valueable, and you don't want her to subconsciously associate you with tragedy and bad feelings and also spend most of your current time on other plates.

"do girls really get that emotional? just because other people are crying that they lost someone?"

Oversensitive girly girl types indeed get that emotional over someone else's loss.

So thats the kind of chick that she is just for your information.

Thats not necessarily a problem for you just saying thats probably just the type of girl she is.

"i dont feel the need to get so upset about someone else's loss. its not like they hung out or were even good friends."

Well some people just naturally have more empathy than others and can feel others pain like this even if they don't want to so either your girl is like this or more likely its just a case of a chick needing some kind of emotional release to psychologically get herself off with. Don't stress about it bro. Its normal for her for whichever reason.

 

[Da Realist]

I say just listen a little bit, put an arm around her, maybe throw a joke in, and just don't read anything into it. The most important things are to not try to fix anything and to never match her emotional state. My best example is if you hold a cocoon. Don't try to open it because you'll mess up what's going on inside; just hold it a little from time to time and let whatever's happening happen.