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Master Don Juan
So, as the title suggests, there's a girl that I think would be really complement me, but has a boyfriend. Although I know her through work (we both work in a public school), I'm not concerned with the "company ink" thing.
Just a little background: She's 22 or 23, fresh out of jesuit college last spring, from a small town, somewhat sheltered, and fairly religious (catholic) girl. She's no lingerie model, but quite pretty - a solid 7.5/8 in the looks in my opinion. But what really sells me on her is that she's a very sweet, genuine girl from what I've seen. she's very good with the difficult kids that she works with, giving, kind, all that ****. The kind of girl who when she asks you if something's wrong, she ask because she wants to help, not pry into your business. A true "quality girl", as many on here would say.
I can tell she is attracted to me - that's not an issue in this case. I flirt with her and game her a little bit when we interact. The way that her eyes always find a way to find mine and give me a look that last a little too long is proof enough for me. To be honest, I would gamble that she is interested in me mainly because (to her) I am somewhat of a "bad-boy" (I have a reputation for partying, drinking, staying out late, etc) and have a known reputation at work for doing my own thing, standing up to our bosses, speaking my mind, and so on. Plus, I have some solid social proof from girls at work.
The only thing that has stopped from overtly making a move in the past is the sad fact that she has a borefriend. I saw a couple pics of the dude on her facebook, and just imagine a 130 pound, six-foot, pasty white doofus with glasses who's face looks like a cross between Adam Sandler and a goddamn toddler. It is actually almost painful to see a quality 7.5 with a beta 4 like that. The guy actually visited our work a couple weeks ago, with total beta loser body language. He walked following after her, shoulders slumped, if you didn't know they were dating you wouldn't have guessed. I actually refused to actually "meet" him, since I've done this sort of thing before, and I almost feel bad taking a girl from a guy, even if all signs point to chump.
One of my friends (not a coincident that he's a guy who's also pretty good with the ladies) works in the same department as her and has more interaction with her than me. From what he tells me, the beta is her first boyfriend, she met him in college, and he lives far away in Texas.
From what my contact has picked up, she doesn't seem all about her boyfriend, but also doesn't seem to disdain him either. If I had to guess, I would say that beta is comfortable and familiar to her, but he likely also bores her.
I'm definitely reaching a bit here but I would guess that she's probably still with him because she's comfortable, she's too nice to leave him, and they have the same social circle of college friends.
Now, I've slept with a few girls with boyfriends before in college and older. My approach back then was to completely ignore the boyfriend and just pursue the girl as if she were single. If the boyfriend came up, I would just change the subject, etc. This was a pretty successful method, and I wonder if it would work in this situation.
Yet, I'm always down to learn and experiment with new approaches. I was talking with one of my other friends, a total natural, and he said that what I should do is invite her out for dinner or something after work, and "feel her out" as to how she feels relationship-wise. He said just to pay attention to how she talks about her relationship, and if I get the feeling she's not into it, go for it. This approach is totally different from my regular approach which seemed to have worked fine for me in the past.
So, given what I've written about her situation and our dynamic, what do you guys think my best course of action should be? So far my options are ignore him and proceed as usual or feel her out a little bit about their relationship.
I know those aren't my only options, and any other tips and suggestions you guys come up with will be much appreciated.
Just a little background: She's 22 or 23, fresh out of jesuit college last spring, from a small town, somewhat sheltered, and fairly religious (catholic) girl. She's no lingerie model, but quite pretty - a solid 7.5/8 in the looks in my opinion. But what really sells me on her is that she's a very sweet, genuine girl from what I've seen. she's very good with the difficult kids that she works with, giving, kind, all that ****. The kind of girl who when she asks you if something's wrong, she ask because she wants to help, not pry into your business. A true "quality girl", as many on here would say.
I can tell she is attracted to me - that's not an issue in this case. I flirt with her and game her a little bit when we interact. The way that her eyes always find a way to find mine and give me a look that last a little too long is proof enough for me. To be honest, I would gamble that she is interested in me mainly because (to her) I am somewhat of a "bad-boy" (I have a reputation for partying, drinking, staying out late, etc) and have a known reputation at work for doing my own thing, standing up to our bosses, speaking my mind, and so on. Plus, I have some solid social proof from girls at work.
The only thing that has stopped from overtly making a move in the past is the sad fact that she has a borefriend. I saw a couple pics of the dude on her facebook, and just imagine a 130 pound, six-foot, pasty white doofus with glasses who's face looks like a cross between Adam Sandler and a goddamn toddler. It is actually almost painful to see a quality 7.5 with a beta 4 like that. The guy actually visited our work a couple weeks ago, with total beta loser body language. He walked following after her, shoulders slumped, if you didn't know they were dating you wouldn't have guessed. I actually refused to actually "meet" him, since I've done this sort of thing before, and I almost feel bad taking a girl from a guy, even if all signs point to chump.
One of my friends (not a coincident that he's a guy who's also pretty good with the ladies) works in the same department as her and has more interaction with her than me. From what he tells me, the beta is her first boyfriend, she met him in college, and he lives far away in Texas.
From what my contact has picked up, she doesn't seem all about her boyfriend, but also doesn't seem to disdain him either. If I had to guess, I would say that beta is comfortable and familiar to her, but he likely also bores her.
I'm definitely reaching a bit here but I would guess that she's probably still with him because she's comfortable, she's too nice to leave him, and they have the same social circle of college friends.
Now, I've slept with a few girls with boyfriends before in college and older. My approach back then was to completely ignore the boyfriend and just pursue the girl as if she were single. If the boyfriend came up, I would just change the subject, etc. This was a pretty successful method, and I wonder if it would work in this situation.
Yet, I'm always down to learn and experiment with new approaches. I was talking with one of my other friends, a total natural, and he said that what I should do is invite her out for dinner or something after work, and "feel her out" as to how she feels relationship-wise. He said just to pay attention to how she talks about her relationship, and if I get the feeling she's not into it, go for it. This approach is totally different from my regular approach which seemed to have worked fine for me in the past.
So, given what I've written about her situation and our dynamic, what do you guys think my best course of action should be? So far my options are ignore him and proceed as usual or feel her out a little bit about their relationship.
I know those aren't my only options, and any other tips and suggestions you guys come up with will be much appreciated.