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Her body does not respond to me sexually

cola

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So this latest chick is cool..
Smart, funny, ambitious, nice shape ..
But I told her we don't have enough sex for me to continue to be exclusive with her.
i didn't whine about it nor was I extra douchey.
when I try to have sex with her alot of times she snubs me with no real explanation and im not chasing her around the bed all night till she submits, i just wont.
I enjoy sex where the desire to have it is mutual it cant be me forcing it or i wont enjoy it.

So she tells me she wants to have sex with me but her body just doesnt respond to me sexually?
Like when i touch her or kiss all over her body she doesnt really get turned on like she should?

First thing i thought is attractions low.. but that dont make sense because i dont initiate alot of the contact, i dont spend alot of money on her, i dont shove compliments down her throat and she is otherwise pretty affectionate.. and she knows i have no problem getting other chicks

So I came to the conclusion maybe shes being authentic?
She did say we will have more sex after our convo and i will next her if she doesnt keep her word on that but .. if it is me guys, how can i improve?
Ive bedded maybe 20 girls, id say maybe 15 really thought i was a good lover, 3 left no comment and 2 didnt like my performance
 

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Lol, if you haven't used testosterone you aren't good trust me...women have low standards these days...

Testosterone causes you to become 3x better than you ever dreamed of being...almost superhuman, it was so impressive I impressed myself...just hope your girl likes it rough is all I can say, lmao
 

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Shut up dude.. this doesnt have **** to do with after i put my **** in this is about warming the oven before i cook the pie
 

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cola said:
Shut up dude.. this doesnt have **** to do with after i put my **** in this is about warming the oven before i cook the pie
Haha comment of the week..

Theres not much you can do, sexual attraction is different for everyone just like regular attraction. Dont get bent out of shape over one girl its not working with, just find someone you click better with, or perhaps it will improve with her over time.

I feel very similar about the girl im dating, not a great sexual match but she is lot of fun to hang with - although from a guys perspective its a little easier, i can always just tell her to suck and then bend her over, cant really fvck that up ;) or go hang with another girl if i get bored.
 

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Perhaps you are doing it wrong, and I mean this in a fetish way. I've found certain chicks you need to find that nitch to turn them on. Try another method, or perhaps talk to her about sex, converse, ask her if she reads 50 shades of grey, maybe she likes you to take force?
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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For women, sex starts long before you even get in bed. A lot of men are pretty much up for it on demand. No need for seduction or teasing.

Read Sex God. A lot of good tips in it.
 

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Then again, is it really worth the trouble? I wouldn't want to be with a girl who doesn't enjoy the sex and you really notice it.

It's a total deal-breaker.
 

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JNil said:
Perhaps you are doing it wrong, and I mean this in a fetish way. I've found certain chicks you need to find that nitch to turn them on.

JNil has the right angle. If you've tried various angles, try going gorilla on her.

I say this, because, a gal told me once that she wished I wouldn't put so much pressure on her "to enjoy it" with all the questions (before I came to understand the how's and why's of it here).

Talk to her about filthy sh¡t you're going to do later, starting early in the morning. Don't apologize, don't ask, tell her nasty stuff - stuff you think is "over the top". Surprise yourself: push your own limits.

When she does something nice...
"Suddenly, I can help thinking of doing nasty sh¡t to you tonight."

When she says something mean/silly/wrong...
"You won't be saying that when my cøck's in your mouth later."

When she asks something like "what are you thinking?" or "where's your head at?"
"I'm imagining you holding my load in your ass when we go out for ice cream afterwards."

Then, and this part is CRUCIAL: DO that sh¡t! :rockon:

When her mouth is on your cack, ask her what it was she was talking about earlier: but hold your hand on her head so she can't pull it out to talk.
"I thought so."

Blow that load in her chute...
"*before you pull out* Now hold it. *you should feel her clamp down to pinch it off* I want you to hold it in until we're done with our ice cream. *slowly pulling out* Hold it, hooolld it."
Then take her hand, stand her up, check for leakage...
None:
"Good girl!" (hand her clothes to her - minus the underwear, go get ice cream)
Letting it dribble out:
"Aww... I was looking forward to (your favorite flavor) ice cream." (go to sleep, ignoring her)

She can hold in diarrhea, so, she can certainly hold a load if you tell her to. Don't worry about it, don't apologize, do it because you know she'll love it.

Oh, and remind her: "No cheating. You're showing me the toilet when we get back."

Point to hot chicks at the ice cream joint and... "I bet she has a load in her ass, too: see how she's walking? Look at the smile on her dude's face!"
Then smile at her!

She'll be more than ready for round two when you get home.:crazy:

I've done lots of this sort of thing before, just not with my current gal. Her birthday is this weekend, and I can't wait for tomorrow morning when I catch her before work... I KNOW she'll love my gift; she loves ice cream!
:up:
 
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