helpp too scared to kiss her

[sportf190]

arlihgt guys i know this can be fixed b/c i used to be scared to even go up to girls but for soem reason im too scared to put on the first move to kiss.... i know that if i get rejected it would just be wierd hangin out with her the rest of the night... for example tonight i hung out wit this girl and she kept fidgeting with her hair,nails, celpphone, b/c we were bored and parked somewhre and had nothin to do... i would try to say things like im bored i can change this whole thing and she would just like not say ne thing like go ahead and try u know wut im talkin about so i never went in for the kill thinking i was gettin rejected i just want to know if thats normal... preety much my question is if u kinda say somethin to give the girl the hint and they dont like say anything back does that mean there not interested.... also i noticed that like when igrabed her hands and said ur fidgetingis annoying i looked at her and she looked back for like 2 seconds in my eyes but i didnt but a move on b/c i thought she would keep looking if she wanted me too u know?? thanks

 

[sportf190]

yeah but if she liked me she woulda like answered u know when i was like i can make u stop fidgiting she was like umm i dont think so so i was like **** it if she wanted me to kiss her she woulda been like umm yeah go ahead.. and i was doing all the kino i didnt get any back so that also through me back... but she was sitting with her legs uncrossed and sorta wit her shoulders towards me but not leaning in as much as me if that makes sense lol

 

[sportf190]

she stayed silent but im just used to girls giving me like signs when they talk like yeah try it u know... she didnt but she never mentionned not wantin to kiss me

 

[DJ4Real]

You got her out on the date...so that's a good thing. The fidgeting probably meant she was anticipating something from you. She probably likes you. Some girls do these kinds of things when they like us.
Some fidget, some turn red, some try to look into your eyes, but can't and nervously look down and away ,some stu stu stu studder when they try to speak and some just find it hard to speak (they choke)....some experience it all.....

What I'm trying to say is; she probably likes you, but is just nervous and the anticipation is probably driving her crazy.

Good Luck

 

[sportf190]

yeahh thats what i was thinking... but i think i blew my chances because i was saying stupid **** to try to get her to like say somethin to let me know she def. wouldnt reject my kiss but it didnt happen so i messed up this night haha.....at least im learning these little signs but like i dont know sometimes girls will like say things and i guess she didnt do that so i would hvae to try and kiss her to find out which makes it harder

 

[DJ4Real]

Just be confident....you'll do fine.

 

[kev me723]

1 - GROW SOME BALLS

Thats it, theres no more numbers. That answers all of your questions, as it did mine awhile ago.

 

[Maeisgood]

I have the same probelm. I don't know how the kiss test is supposed to work. One time, I even had a girl call me afterword and basically tell me that I didn't know what to do. This was also the hottest girl I had a chance with. Her hips were so broad, that it looked like she may have probelms fitting through some door ways...

I'm so friggen tired of screwing up. Its hard to tell when a girl is giving you those signals we're supposed to know naturally, or if they're naturally flirty. If they pass the kiss test, we go in for the kiss, and get rejected, how to you gracefully recover?

What ****y and funny thing can you say?

 

[sportf190]

yeaHH MAN I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL TOO IT SUCKS LOL

 

[Phat]

Listen bro.. 1 way to tell if shes ready to be kissed is if you and her are alone together. And she asks you for gum or if she takes it out her purse.

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by Phat
Listen bro.. 1 way to tell if shes ready to be kissed is if you and her are alone together. And she asks you for gum or if she takes it out her purse.

Yes.

Also, when she's lookin at you and not saying anything, that's when you know she wants something.

 

[sportf190]

ur all right that happened a couple times and i sorta moved in but maybe not enough to let her no i dont know lol

 

[QuezNozet]

that is crazy....i guess i am not reading enough....

she was fidgiting way too much with her hair......also made long eye contacts with her and exchanged smiles back

one of the hottest girls i've had the company of.....i said coffee...she said lets go
i said food...she said i wont eat but i'll go with you

i said lets drive around...she said yeah.


soo many signs.......about the kiss close though........i definately have the confidence and the balls......just that i do want to keep seeing this girl
so lets say i want to go for a kiss.....and i am in the drivers seat.....

someone please do a senario with a kiss close.....what do i do...what do i expect her to do and so on.....thanks a bunch

 

[Docs]

talk about something seductive...while getting closer..

IF YOU DO IT PROPERLY, she will not push back and you can get forehead to forehead. It's just a matter of staring with nudges :woo:


oh, can someone assist with examples for seductive?

 

[QuezNozet]

Originally posted by Docs
talk about something seductive...while getting closer..

IF YOU DO IT PROPERLY, she will not push back and you can get forehead to forehead. It's just a matter of staring with nudges :woo:


oh, can someone assist with examples for seductive?

yeah can someone assist with examples please

 

[jenzos]

you dont need to say anything. stop being a homo. just do it.

 

[Maeisgood]

I've gotten alone with girls tons of times. Does that automatically mean that it's a go-ahead to just dive in?

What if you smell her hair (the kiss test) and she's like WTF are u doing (with words or with body language). Or if you kiss her and then she's like WTF? Is this kiss like a peck or a prolonged lip kiss that evolves into tongue and then u get to that whole "two-steps forward and one back" thing?

I think the people who really know what they're doing may leave out important details that they overlook because they've mastered it. For newbs like me, its these details that are teffifyingly important.

 

[sportf190]

exactly exactly im not the only one with this problem in here lol

 

[blind1]

someone please do a senario with a kiss close

Here:

After a parade one day, my girlfriend got into her friend's car in the passenger seat. I hopped into the driver's side. We talked for a minute or two (during this time, I was just commenting on the car.. and joking about how I should take it for a drive on her friend--she laughed, which was a good sign), then it turned into a "conversation without words"--one of my favorite moments with a girl, because I know I have her.

Anyway, I reached my arm over and set it around her. I looked into her eyes, we both smiled.. and we kissed.

Easy enough.

A year ago though, I was scared to hell to kiss a girl. We'd be on a bus (I'm a band kid... it was football season, late at night), really close to eachother. I had no clue though.. "should I kiss her? Shouldn't I? What if I do? if I don't? What year was Lincoln elected?" Forget that.

I realize now, I should have just done it. Every time.

To get to that close kiss senario though..
tickle her a little bit, or play around somehow. smell her hair. If she seems "open", then you have nothing to worry about. I tease her a little bit, works almost every time.
** if she doesn't seem open to you, then don't try. there's all sorts of body language to look for. Make her feel comfortable, secure, safe.

 

[Maeisgood]

After reading that, I'm looking upon every screwed-up possibility and I'm angry. It seems so easy now. But are there times you have been given "open" signals and gotten rejected?