pooparu
Senior Don Juan
Normally I keep my questions limited to PMs forwarded to certain members, but today I decided to get the whole communities opinions, DJs, KBJs and AFCs alike.
First and foremost, I probably WON'T change my mind on this, as I'm pretty secure in my beliefs, but I wanna get some other perspectives from all types of men on this. I think it will make a good discussion anyway.
Also if you are comfortable with it, put where you place yourself on the "dj" scale or whatever the **** you wanna call it, just what type of man you classify yourself as, that way we can see how each perspective is diffrent.
Me personally, I'm no master PUA or ultimate DJ, but I'm satisfied in most areas of my life, and I work to improve every day, I'm pretty confident but of course still possess insecurities and am not 100% perfect.
Anyway my topic (finally!) is helping uot women emotionally. some guys call it being a tampon, some help TOO much. What I present to you all is the question.
Do you guys find it appropriate to be there for women's emotional problems, and when. I don't mean like after being in an LTR for like 1 year or something, but either a women you are just meeting/dating for a short term.
My view is this:
I don't let a woman come to me with every one of her problems, but at the same time, maybe I was never AFC enough to experience this, I think that this was grossly exagerrated by certain "PUAs" that a woman will use you for all her problems. I'm sure if you ASKED her what's wrong 24/7 then maybe that happens, but generally I haven't had this happen.
I bring this question because when you are interested in a girlFRIEND, a f*ck BUDDY, or interesting in being in a long or short term RELATIONSHIP, you must have some sort of connection with them. I mean I look at it this way, if a guy friend comes up to me and he's having problems in his life, if its something serious I'm not gonna go, "Hey? Do I look like one of your girlfriends? I don't wanna hear this ****!". So I don't think I treat women any differently. If a woman comes up to me with a problem I deem serious enough, I'm gonna give her my hard earnest advice and support.
I don't do it to supplicate or to get into her pants, but generally the women I go after or at least have an interest in I have some level of FRIENDSHIP with, someone I can trust an dfeel comfortable around (I sound like a woman
), and I think I would honestly fel that if I came with a problem and a girl could only say, "sorry I don't care let's screw", I'd feel like punching her in her jugular vein.
Again, I'm not saying be that "emotional tampon", but sometimes I think that a little blood wouldn't hurt, ya dig?
So what are your views on this? Do you guys always tell women to **** off? Do you help them sometimes? All the time? Lemme know, I wanna see how other guys operate, I'm always looking for a new perspective to look at **** through.
First and foremost, I probably WON'T change my mind on this, as I'm pretty secure in my beliefs, but I wanna get some other perspectives from all types of men on this. I think it will make a good discussion anyway.
Also if you are comfortable with it, put where you place yourself on the "dj" scale or whatever the **** you wanna call it, just what type of man you classify yourself as, that way we can see how each perspective is diffrent.
Me personally, I'm no master PUA or ultimate DJ, but I'm satisfied in most areas of my life, and I work to improve every day, I'm pretty confident but of course still possess insecurities and am not 100% perfect.
Anyway my topic (finally!) is helping uot women emotionally. some guys call it being a tampon, some help TOO much. What I present to you all is the question.
Do you guys find it appropriate to be there for women's emotional problems, and when. I don't mean like after being in an LTR for like 1 year or something, but either a women you are just meeting/dating for a short term.
My view is this:
I don't let a woman come to me with every one of her problems, but at the same time, maybe I was never AFC enough to experience this, I think that this was grossly exagerrated by certain "PUAs" that a woman will use you for all her problems. I'm sure if you ASKED her what's wrong 24/7 then maybe that happens, but generally I haven't had this happen.
I bring this question because when you are interested in a girlFRIEND, a f*ck BUDDY, or interesting in being in a long or short term RELATIONSHIP, you must have some sort of connection with them. I mean I look at it this way, if a guy friend comes up to me and he's having problems in his life, if its something serious I'm not gonna go, "Hey? Do I look like one of your girlfriends? I don't wanna hear this ****!". So I don't think I treat women any differently. If a woman comes up to me with a problem I deem serious enough, I'm gonna give her my hard earnest advice and support.
I don't do it to supplicate or to get into her pants, but generally the women I go after or at least have an interest in I have some level of FRIENDSHIP with, someone I can trust an dfeel comfortable around (I sound like a woman
), and I think I would honestly fel that if I came with a problem and a girl could only say, "sorry I don't care let's screw", I'd feel like punching her in her jugular vein.Again, I'm not saying be that "emotional tampon", but sometimes I think that a little blood wouldn't hurt, ya dig?
So what are your views on this? Do you guys always tell women to **** off? Do you help them sometimes? All the time? Lemme know, I wanna see how other guys operate, I'm always looking for a new perspective to look at **** through.