Helping a "woman" friend, what advice to give to comfort her. Called me 10pm crying because of a guy

[Glassguy]

To actually give her some good advice instead of being the sarcastic @sshole that I am-

Send her a text that says "The best way to get over one is to get under a new one. Come over to my place and I will make your toes curl and your mind will forget about ole whats his name. Be here at 8 tonight".

She will either come over hot and ready or you wont be friends with her anymore. You can keep saying that you dont want to bang her, but I think this forum would have never heard of her if that was the case.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Hi DJs,

I'm kinda bit sleepy now, so I wasn't really sure about the advices I gave her on how to deal with her heart break from a guy who she currently dated since February 2017.

She's hurting right now because the guy doesn't have any straight answer to her whether they have a commitment/relationship.

The guy said something really offensive and was the cause of calling me late in the evening.

She invested emotions, effort, time etc...

The main reason why she's crying.

How do you help a woman friend having a situation like this?

I would love to hear your advices and opinions too

OP,

I'm not trying to be insulting here but you are her Emotional Tampon. Evidently, you've been her "ear" before so this is what you get...and she'll keep coming back with her blithering unless you wean her off of using you. Her friends might be sick of her calling them too, so maybe you're next on the list.

I would absolutely guarantee you with 100% confidence she would not follow any advice you give her. Women never do in this instance. They will do what they feel is right. Logic is not involved. So, you could advise her to leave the bf until you're blue in the face but don't be surprised if she goes running back to this guy in a day or so after they make up, like nothing happened. Then, the cycle starts again when she doesn't like his behavior. Ironically, he actually sounds a bit alpha or DJ...or she wouldn't give a s*hit.

If she is a good friend of yours, just tell her to ask some of her female friends what to do as you don't know what to say. Unless you like being the Emotional Tampon every time.

Good luck.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If a guy friend called me crying about a girl in the middle of the night, I would tell him to stop being a pvssy and go back to sleep. I think a lot of us would. I'm not against male-female friendships, but almost all of the time such arrangements are one side wanting to fvck the other, who is clueless. So if a true female friend called me at night crying about a man, I would give her the same advice. If you are actually listening to her bullsh!t, it is because you want to fvck her, and that's not friendship.

 

[Desdinova]

I have no intention to have sex with her.

She is a one of my precious HUMAN BEING FRIEND.

I would like to say this again and see if you all people can understand this.

SHE IS MY FRIEND.

If someone's waking me up in the middle of the night, someone better be in the fvcking hospital or on their way. If some chick was calling me in the middle of the night to cry about her BF, I'd tell her to fvck off and call me tomorrow.

NEVER fvck up your life for someone else's drama.

 

[TheGambino]

Take this schitt to Loveshack.com.

Come On Moderators, your forum is headed straight to Faggotville.

Time to clean things up.

Exactley.... jesus christ take This to Oprah.

If You are a real man she would not bring up that sheit at late.

 

[TheGambino]

Hi DJs,

I'm kinda bit sleepy now, so I wasn't really sure about the advices I gave her on how to deal with her heart break from a guy who she currently dated since February 2017.

She's hurting right now because the guy doesn't have any straight answer to her whether they have a commitment/relationship.

The guy said something really offensive and was the cause of calling me late in the evening.

She invested emotions, effort, time etc...

The main reason why she's crying.

How do you help a woman friend having a situation like this?

I would love to hear your advices and opinions too

I would ignore her dr. Phil ..

 

[Mazer]

Take this chick out to get her mind off her problems, dont talk about her problems or keep it short, show her a good time, heavy on the kino, bang her out, she is probably vulnerable. Looks like a good opportunity to be her rebound for a night or two. She will go back to her bf, then next time they have a breakup she will call you to bang instead of talking about her problems. In summary, its a good opportunity to have sex.

 

[Dingo]

Tell her if she is not getting what she wants she should go find someone that will. If he doesn't want to be exclusive, then she should start fvcking other guys... starting with you right now... since she woke you up.

Nice...

 

[devilkingx2]

Hi DJs,

I'm kinda bit sleepy now, so I wasn't really sure about the advices I gave her on how to deal with her heart break from a guy who she currently dated since February 2017.

She's hurting right now because the guy doesn't have any straight answer to her whether they have a commitment/relationship.

The guy said something really offensive and was the cause of calling me late in the evening.

She invested emotions, effort, time etc...

The main reason why she's crying.

How do you help a woman friend having a situation like this?

I would love to hear your advices and opinions too

I'll give you the benefit of the doubt unlike most of the rest here and assume this isn't a poorly thought out scheme that ends in you singing "you belong with me" by taylor swift

first off I'd troll the absolute **** out of her with mostly sarcastic and joke advice

1. because that's my offline personality in general
2. because she woke you up in the middle of the night (EDIT: I realize now that you prolly weren't sleeping at 10PM and it prolly wasn't the middle of the night per say) for random boring nonsense
3. because she's overreacting like a 12 year old to that nonsense
4. because her nonsense would be boring even if it was midday and you weren't doing anything, who the hell cares if her bf said a mean thing to her? did he use a racial slur and burn a cross? why is she all broken up about some dude not committing? I know literal 14 year olds who were able to grasp that concept

this is a big nothing, your friend is a drama queen, that's why everyone thinks you must be trying to bang her to give even the slightest **** about this lol.

 

[Reykhel]

If someone's waking me up in the middle of the night, someone better be in the fvcking hospital or on their way. If some chick was calling me in the middle of the night to cry about her BF, I'd tell her to fvck off and call me tomorrow.

NEVER fvck up your life for someone else's drama.

Simple and to the point.....like most common sense.

How is helping this cvnt advancing your life?

I'll help you: it's not. know what quicksand is? get the fvck off it

 

[MatureDJ]

First of all, you help a woman friend by not being her friend at all. You help her by being an acquintance, someone she knows. You are probably kinda bored with her drama already and the reason why that is so is because you either don't like her and don't feel attraction or you are subconsciously upset she is crying over some other dude and not blowing your pipe.

Solution: stop having female friends, 99,9% of them are not even worth it. But I have a gut feeling you wanna bang this chick, just don't have the courage to go for it.

The thing about this is that if a man is the sole decent-personality acquaintance she has, she is going to go out of her way to contact that man for this kind of stuff. I think that as long as the man does not contact her, and the calls are not too often (i.e., are not a real time sink), and don't interfere with his own love life, it's not a problem. And by doing this, the man could be either in the range of reeling her in, or at the very least being a point of social contact to meet other women (i.e., her friends/acquaintances).

I've never been in this situation, but if I ever were, I'd put on my psychologist/relationship-guru hat on whenever talking to a woman in this situation. It serves the purpose of showing intelligence and status & detachment (i.e., the man is the doctor healing the sick woman), which would always be beneficial.

 

[amaterasu]

OP if you really need to help her out and if shes really what you say she is.
Approach it just like you would a guy friend.
Or your little sister. Tell her to get over him.

My little sister is over weight. 2 summers ago she was outta breath after walking up my stairs.
ME: dude your getting fat, you cant even make it up the stairs without taken a break. Wtf?
You get the idea

THIS IS THE BEST RESPONSE THAT I've got so far.

I treat my friend as I would treat my own sister.

I DON'T fcck MY OWN SISTER LIKE YOU PEOPLE DO.

YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW TO DETERMINE A WOMEN WHO's JUST A PLATE FROM

a human beings.

WHAT KIND OF FORUM IS THIS FIELD WITH ANIMALS CANABALIZING THEIR OWN FLESH?????

 

[amaterasu]

You are clueless OP......... the only guy that is doing it right in this situation is the dude she is crying over you are just a hapless orbiter.

OP if you really need to help her out and if shes really what you say she is.
Approach it just like you would a guy friend.
Or your little sister. Tell her to get over him.

My little sister is over weight. 2 summers ago she was outta breath after walking up my stairs.
ME: dude your getting fat, you cant even make it up the stairs without taken a break. Wtf?
You get the idea

THIS IS THE BEST RESPONSE THAT I've got so far.

I treat my friend as I would treat my own sister.

I DON'T fcck MY OWN SISTER LIKE YOU PEOPLE DO.

YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW TO DETERMINE A WOMEN WHO's JUST A PLATE FROM

a human beings.

WHAT KIND OF FORUM IS THIS FIELD WITH ANIMALS CANABALIZING THEIR OWN FLESH?????

 

[amaterasu]

OP,

I'm not trying to be insulting here but you are her Emotional Tampon. Evidently, you've been her "ear" before so this is what you get...and she'll keep coming back with her blithering unless you wean her off of using you. Her friends might be sick of her calling them too, so maybe you're next on the list.

I would absolutely guarantee you with 100% confidence she would not follow any advice you give her. Women never do in this instance. They will do what they feel is right. Logic is not involved. So, you could advise her to leave the bf until you're blue in the face but don't be surprised if she goes running back to this guy in a day or so after they make up, like nothing happened. Then, the cycle starts again when she doesn't like his behavior. Ironically, he actually sounds a bit alpha or DJ...or she wouldn't give a s*hit.

If she is a good friend of yours, just tell her to ask some of her female friends what to do as you don't know what to say. Unless you like being the Emotional Tampon every time.

Good luck.

Thanks for the frank and kind response, I appreciate it.

 

[amaterasu]

Why would you ever put yourself in this situatuin? Tell her to go call a woman friend.
This is why its a bad idea to be friends with women.

She already did.

Hey beta friend, miss me? lol

just kidding

 

[amaterasu]

You bet OP.
OP dont forget some of the best men on the planet teaching this stuff have VERY hot girls in there social circle.( As friends) Just treat her like a friend.
Middle of the night call.

"Ya dude its the middle of the night man ill get holdof you tmmr. Go to bed dude" get some sleep. "

Yadda yadda.

Hahaha alright brother thanks!

I'm one of them btw

 

[amaterasu]

Bro, you are seriously hilarious. I'm cracking up

I'd like to say "don't change", but you are being made a cvnt of.

If you want to take calls from women getting played, rather than play, that's your business.

Eh, whatever. You're a funny guy that i'd drink with, but you are also a bit clueless. Therein lies your charm.

Hi bro, that's just me.

A Natural Dj that is.

Yes you can find me funny the way I reply to one of the betas here on the forum.

But I'm no troll and willing to talk about women problems here like I do with you