So heres something that happened with my long term gf(on and off). She calls in morning I did not receive as I was sleeping. Calls me a few hours later accuses me of returning other people's calls while not returning hers. When I asked her whats wrong she doesnt respond. She was visibly upset but tells me she'll call later. I call her up after few minutes she doesnt answer. So I leave it at that. She calls me 9 hours later at night. I dont receive as Im out with friends at a party and the music is loud. I text her ''not alone buzz you when I get free.'' I called her up a few minutes back and ask her what happened to her in the morning. She doesnt answer saying I'll tell you when you're alone. And then goes on talking about random **** and mentions she talked to a few people today. I was like who. So she mentioned one of her female friends and another guy who happens to be her best friends boyfriend. So I was a bit surprised how come but didnot ask her. After reaching home I call her up ask her what was wrong. So she mentions something about her health and basically doesnt say much and tells me that I dont return her calls and that I yelled at her. I explained that it was coz of loud music and she wasnt answering me about what was wrong with her in morning even after I left the party to talk to her.So she says yeah but I did not force you to..I wanted you to enjoy while you were out..I was like yeah fine..we were already in the fight mode after which the afc in me some how forced me to initiate the following question
ME : How come he(the friend's bf) called you ?
HER(annoyingly): Why ?
ME(already annoyed from her behaviour in morning and evading my question): you cant answer even a simple question in a normal way without picking a fight ?
HER : he just forwarded a text(earlier she had said she had a conversation)
ME(sarcastically) : Yea Im sorry I asked you a question. Next time I wont because you've to take everything as an invitation to initiate a fight.
HER : yeah dont.
ME : you know what infact I will ask as Im curious. You ask me a lot of thing
HER(sarcastically) : Better idea you dont ask me and I wont ask you.
HER : I told you that he forwarded a text, after which we talked, do I have to give every detail of the conversation ?
ME : well you ask me for every detail about gals I talk with and I didn't ask you or demand any explanations. I was just surprised that you talk to him
HER : Yea I know him since 4 years. what do you think that you should be the only person who calls me ?
(we only know each other since a year and this pissed me off beyond anything as she had mentioned this line earlier also not so long back when we got into a serious fight related to her friends)
ME(angrily) : you dont have any right to disrespect me. I dont care how long you know him. There is no need to rub it in my face or for reminding me that you know people before we started dating.
HER : you started the comparision and I wasnt rubbing anything just telling you that Ive not started talking out of blue with anyone. If you feel that I was rubbing it in your face then it was not so.
ME : Well then why the hell are you calling me for. Call him instead.
HER : you're being childish and immature.
ME : really..well you always ask me about the girls I talk with whats the big deal if I just ask how come he is talking with you.
HER : I dont ask you like this
ME : (reminded her of a recent time when she asked why my phone was busy at 1 am and I told her I was talking to a female friend)
HER : that is because you had some what of a history with that girl.
HER : And I told you but your voice is in fighting mode
ME : you did not tell me. you asked ''why'' as if I was accusing you.
HER: I dont wish to fight...any further..Ive college in the morning.
ME : Yea Bye
Now question is how do I proceed.I know Ive screwed up big time by acting jealous and all.I dont even know if she'll call back tommorow. Dont want to completely break things off but want to set an example here so that this is not repeated. She is jealous types and gets jealous easily but if I become a lil possessive then she starts fights like this and will take a break.
ME : How come he(the friend's bf) called you ?
HER(annoyingly): Why ?
ME(already annoyed from her behaviour in morning and evading my question): you cant answer even a simple question in a normal way without picking a fight ?
HER : he just forwarded a text(earlier she had said she had a conversation)
ME(sarcastically) : Yea Im sorry I asked you a question. Next time I wont because you've to take everything as an invitation to initiate a fight.
HER : yeah dont.
ME : you know what infact I will ask as Im curious. You ask me a lot of thing
HER(sarcastically) : Better idea you dont ask me and I wont ask you.
HER : I told you that he forwarded a text, after which we talked, do I have to give every detail of the conversation ?
ME : well you ask me for every detail about gals I talk with and I didn't ask you or demand any explanations. I was just surprised that you talk to him
HER : Yea I know him since 4 years. what do you think that you should be the only person who calls me ?
(we only know each other since a year and this pissed me off beyond anything as she had mentioned this line earlier also not so long back when we got into a serious fight related to her friends)
ME(angrily) : you dont have any right to disrespect me. I dont care how long you know him. There is no need to rub it in my face or for reminding me that you know people before we started dating.
HER : you started the comparision and I wasnt rubbing anything just telling you that Ive not started talking out of blue with anyone. If you feel that I was rubbing it in your face then it was not so.
ME : Well then why the hell are you calling me for. Call him instead.
HER : you're being childish and immature.
ME : really..well you always ask me about the girls I talk with whats the big deal if I just ask how come he is talking with you.
HER : I dont ask you like this
ME : (reminded her of a recent time when she asked why my phone was busy at 1 am and I told her I was talking to a female friend)
HER : that is because you had some what of a history with that girl.
HER : And I told you but your voice is in fighting mode
ME : you did not tell me. you asked ''why'' as if I was accusing you.
HER: I dont wish to fight...any further..Ive college in the morning.
ME : Yea Bye
Now question is how do I proceed.I know Ive screwed up big time by acting jealous and all.I dont even know if she'll call back tommorow. Dont want to completely break things off but want to set an example here so that this is not repeated. She is jealous types and gets jealous easily but if I become a lil possessive then she starts fights like this and will take a break.
