Help! Women just don't fulfill me anymore!

[zekko]

When you are say 35 you'll want a single woman because you'll know you won't get sex any other way.

WTF? Where are you getting this information, lol?

 

[hithard]

You more than likely have trained yourself to treat sexual interactions with women to be the same as masturbation. So you are not connecting on any level just jerk jerk done, ok I’m off to do my own thing.
Pretty common problem actually.

 

[Wolfgang D]

WTF? Where are you getting this information, lol?

The likelihood of finding a single woman to have sex with decreases with age. Men settle. What's the problem with me stating a fact?

 

[f283000]

This is not uncommon. It has to do with your instinct to problem solve and overcome obstacles, and you have that instinct strongly. I am the same way, I want to solve something, experience it, and then get to know it completely, and only then can I leave it. Exactly the same way with food. Same with music and other entertainment. I have come to embrace it, instead of spreading things out evenly like a mother would advise her son. I suck the marrow out of something until I am satisfied, then move to the next thing.

You don't want to do more things with a woman because they won't match your problem-solving spirit. The women you meet aren't your equals as explorers. These aren't women who will be interesting in reading thorougly about English Medieval history one month, and then exploring a mountain the next. You don't want the settled-down, routine life that they want, where you go to work and go back home, go to the restaurant and the movies in the weekend to show people you two are part of the herd. There is no challenge in that.

What can I say? Maybe you'll find the kind of intellectual, interesting girl with some fire in her that would be suitable partner - partner as in fellow explorer, not as in romance. Otherwise, you are bound to settle for the rote existence as you age. We all die a little as we age. When you are say 35 you'll want a single woman because you'll know you won't get sex any other way.

Thanks for this as it describes me and my situation perfectly. After doing a lot of thinking I have concluded that I will probably never find a woman that makes me feel like an afc again. I probably won't ever get those feelings of "being in love" and just feeling like an afc feels for a female he likes.

I guess this is one of the perils with learning the ways of the DJ that nobody ever talks about. There's the risk of losing the emotional satisfaction of being with a woman and seeing only them for sexual pleasure. It can make a man feel a bit empty and cold sometimes.

 

[f283000]

I would say "good for you" for finding inner peace except its more likely that you are just beating off to porn rather than be with women, which is gross. If you stop beating off you will find your attractiveness standards for women will fall so that it will be easier for you to find an interesting woman. Hard to find them in the 7+ range.

I don't watch porn for metaphysical reasons. Every time you ejaculate you lose a bit of your life force as a man. So millions of guys all over the world are giving their energy to a woman on the screen when if you're going to lose your life force you might as well do it inside a woman's warm vagina. They are feeding off from your energy. This is the real occult reason for porn.

This sort of occult science belongs in another threads of course let's not change subjects

 

[azanon]

Any help with this?? Or is this a natural phenomenon? At my age I feel like I should be wanting to be happy with a woman rather than just hit it and quit it. I feel like I'm destined to die alone at this rate. Sometimes I feel like I being an afc again and feeling those afc feelings that we get for women when afcs. Now they just don't mean nothing to me.

I think the problem is that you're operating with the belief that "normal" is to want a LTR with a woman, and abnormal is wanting to be single. This belief is incorrect. You're perfectly in your right to like what you like, regardless to what extent it differs from some others.

I prefer my marriage/LTR, friendship with my wife, and the way we can use division of labor to be stronger as a unit than as individuals. Using some of what you said, I also like to have sex available without any effort necessary because, well, I'm married. But that is a preference, and I realize that.

 

[f283000]

I think the problem is that you're operating with the belief that "normal" is to want a LTR with a woman, and abnormal is wanting to be single. This belief is incorrect. You're perfectly in your right to like what you like, regardless to what extent it differs from some others.

I prefer my marriage/LTR, friendship with my wife, and the way we can use division of labor to be stronger as a unit than as individuals. Using some of what you said, I also like to have sex available without any effort necessary because, well, I'm married. But that is a preference, and I realize that.

Back in the old days I would see a beautiful woman and besides wanting her body, boobs/a$$ I would imagine myself having her companionship, spending time together, having fun together, having someone to care for and care for me.

Now all I see is boobs/a$$ MINUS the feeling of having her as a companion. All I want is to close the deal and quit it.

I know this has sounded strange to some and like no big deal but it is. Before I would go out for the purpose of meeting women and now I rather stay home. I feel no need to go clubbin something i used to do every weekend.

Let me put it this way. It's like being a lion without the drive to hunt for prey. It's like going from being obsessed with wanting women to no longer needing them.

I didn't realize until now how important women can be for your state of mind. It just doesn't feel right losing the will to hunt.

 

[zekko]

Back in the old days I would see a beautiful woman and besides wanting her body, boobs/a$$ I would imagine myself having her companionship, spending time together, having fun together, having someone to care for and care for me.

Hmm, for me, sometimes I will just see the boobs and @ss, and sometimes I will see the companionship possibilities also. Depends on what kind of vibe the girl gives off I guess. But it is nice to see the potential beyond just the sex, sometimes it's just nice to have some eye candy on your arm while you're out doing stuff.

I didn't realize until now how important women can be for your state of mind. It just doesn't feel right losing the will to hunt.

That's a good point. I think women are good for helping you keep your edge. It's sort of similar to how some claim that holding your "emissions" help you keep your edge. Women are the yin to our yang, so to speak.

I'm not sure what is bugging you. Hopefully it's just a passing phase.
You've turned 30, so maybe you're going through some transitions.