Help with what to do

[cannman11]

This topic has been discussed a couple times before, but my situation is slightly different so I figured I'd ask:

I have been going out with a girl for about 8 months now, except the last month I havent really seen her. I'm in my freshman year of college, and she's still a senior in high school. (Stupid to stay with her I know). She was great when we were home, so I figured I'd try it for a little while. We never fought, got along really well, so I didn't break up with her when I left.

Things were going ok, as I have friends back home who said they would update me in case she cheated, which she didn't, at least until possibly now.

Last Saturday was both hers and my Homecoming, except mine was at college and hers was at home. She went with one of my friends, so everything there was cool. She told me she was going to a party after, which I didn't care cause I wasn't going to try to control her life. Turns out she went to one with people who I didn't know.

One of my sister's friends, who is a grade younger than my girlfriend was also at the party. She told my sister, who told me, that she saw my girlfriend hooking up with another guy at the party. I have talked to my girlfriend twice since that night, and nothing of the sort has come up.

I don't want to next her right away based on what a younger girl who I don't know told my sister, so what would be the best way to go about talking with my girlfriend to figure out exactly what happened? If after talking to her I have the slightest belief that she cheated, I will next her but I want to see her side of the story first.

So, what exactly should I say to her?

Thanks

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

Don't we a wuss. In this type of situations you don't need to be some sensitive politically correct girly boy looking for ways to phrase things to not 'offend' your girl. Ask her straight up "I heard something went down at the homecoming party, what happened" (that is as straightforward without being mean as you can get)

From just looking at her face you will be able to tell if she cheated on you.

 

[cannman11]

Yeah I know, but the problem is I'm at college 5 hours away from where she is, I'll probably just call her and figure things out from there.

 

[wanga]

Hey man, those things dont work out, and besides you're a "Don Juan" and should have more than one woman anyway.

Let me say this, How is she getting satisfied sexually,emotionally,physically and mentally if you are not there? She needs a man and you're not there to be one, its only natural.

Remain friends with her and find someone in college who you can see regularly.