Help with "Oneitis" Situation

[charlie647]

I've been seeing this girl for a couple of months now. Things progressed quickly, and then have not stalled but leveled out as of late. When I'm with her, we have an amazing time together (including sex), but when we are apart, I feel there is a distant feeling in the relationship. The next logical step is to exclusively date, but because of timing issues, etc. we have decided to still date other people. My question is this: How do I keep her interested enough while we are apart and how much do I invest in this situation? I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket, so I will make an effort to date others, but at the same time I don't want this to just fizzle out - make sense? I'm concerned that at this point of the relationship, if I back off in any way, it will appear as though I'm losing interest and she will lose what interest she currently has. Any thoughts on this fellas?

 

[charlie647]

Come on guys, nothin? Give me the DJ perspective!

 

[MyTeamSupreme]

you appearing to lose interest will increase her interest...but you can only push someone away for so long and then they stop caring

 

[charlie647]

So where do you draw the line?

Do you continually do push/pull?

 

[MyTeamSupreme]

Im a chump that can only take one broad seriously at a time...The highs are really high, but the lows are really low

You have to have a real emotional detachment to be a good plate spinner. When you are you have less remorse for your actions. Realistically, the broads that you're dealing with might be as heartless as you should be. But they always show their true colors early on in the relationship (platonic or not) by showing that they can be inconsiderate or selfish