help with HB situation...

cmr662

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okay, me and this girl who is soooo freakin hot have been hanging out for about 6 months now. before we started hanging out we were in serious relationships and we werent really looking for anything serious. well things have progressed alot in the 6 months. everything that goes on feels like we are pretty much together but we havent really had a talk about it as to what we officially are. i know the dj bible says to never ask the girl to be your girlfriend, wait for her to bring that up. well, im wondering if there is something i can do to speed that up. i need to do something that will put her on edge and start to pursue me more because i think she might have the idea that she already has me. the reason i want to get her to bring up this topic to make it official is because i think if things keep going at the rate it is now, ill eventually get the LJBF. my guess is to ignore all contact for a few days. the only problem is this: i dont want to ignore her calls and contact for a couple days and have her think im pissed at her about something and give up on it completely. thanks in advance bros.
 

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yeah, i agree i need to. ive been trying and we came close the other day but the girl is 22 and has only been with 1 guy in her life and she was with that guy for almost 5 years. im working on it though. what else??
 

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make your intentions known, and move up to the next level. instead of heading to a local eatery that guys always do. tell her that you guys are going to eat at a fancy restaurante or any activity that will signal exclusivity. and probably by the end of the night, you will really know what's going between you guys. good luck bro!
 

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Originally posted by t00dumb
make your intentions known, and move up to the next level. instead of heading to a local eatery that guys always do. tell her that you guys are going to eat at a fancy restaurante or any activity that will signal exclusivity. and probably by the end of the night, you will really know what's going between you guys. good luck bro!
Yeah, right! Why don't you also buy her flowers and tell her she is the most beautiful thing you've ever seen and how you can see yourself with a woman like her. If it is not obvious to her, then tell her that you two need to "talk", then confess your love for her. That should do the trick.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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i guess what im asking here, is if me cutting off contact for a couple days can be affective in any way, and if so, the best way to pull it off.
 

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Give her the gift of missing you. Keep busy. When she is wondering why you haven't called. Tell her you were waiting for her to call you and take you out.
 

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your still living in her world. where the fact that she's been in a LTR for 5 years blah blah blah makes a difference to you, and that u should listen to her and respect her to get what u want.

Nobody ever got sex by asking for it. Not even the cavemen.
 

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can someone give me info on the no contact for a few days situation and how to play this to my advantage?
 

Well I'm here to tell you there is such a magic wand. Something that will make you almost completely irresistible to any woman you "point it" at. Something guaranteed to fill your life with love, romance, and excitement.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Your worrying about sh#t that you don't need to worry about.

If you pull back on the contact and she loses interest in you - then that's a good thing, because at least you know where you stand.

You should never have got to this situation in the first place.

Instead of pulling back - you probably should first push the issue. Not by talking, but by doing.

You said you've come close to sex with her. If this is true you guys have kissed etc.

So just keep pushing the envelope.

Have her over to your place.... and keep pushing that envelope.

You should ACT like she's yours.

If she doesn't dig it or LJBF's you - then you start working other women (which by the way you should be anyways).

Now if you had read the DJ bible, and had been wroking other chicks, this situation would not have occured, because you would be out there dating and fvcking other women. You'd be busy.
 
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