Help with girl who "flaked"

[Knicknack]

Been dating this girl about 2½ months now. We were supposed to go out tonight, but she calls about noon today and leaves a voicemail. She says her dad has come in from out of town and asked her to eat dinner. She always speaks very highly of her dad, so I can buy this story, but I have always been VERY hard to convince that a girl's excuse is legitimate. I'm from the school of thought that says; if a girl is interested in you, she'll do everything in her power to see you.

Well she asked me to call her back in the voicemail, which I never did. Then she called me back around 6pm for some reason. She didn't leave a voicemail that time. I'm not calling her back tonight. How should I play this?

 

[NatureGuy]

You should have called her back and said 'no problem' about her plans with her Dad.
Make other plans with her tommorrow.

 

[phenom]

KnickKnack, seems to me your the one flaking this time. Do you ditrust girls that much? I mean her dad came from out of town and wants to eat dinner with her. Call her immediately and tell her thats fine and make plans with her some other time. Seems to be pretty legit to me.

 

[Diggs]

Dido

Obviously this girl is close to her family/dad. You have to respect this, call her immediatly. Women usually value their family a lot and he dad coming to town is exciting for her. Let her know its cool and see if she wants to do something this weekend. Tell her you would like to meet her dad, she will dig that up bigtime.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Seems like you've been fuvked over in the past and your being a little insecure about that with this girl. You've been dating for over 2 months!!! Its OK if she can't make it one time time bro!!! She's not flaking on you, she even called you a second time today!!! Calm down, call her back, tell her you understand and you'll reschedule for later on in the week. Don't blow this by reading too much in to the PUA mentality.

If you keep this up, she'll end up being fed up with you, not the other way around.


PIMP

 

[chicksrock]

yeah try not to freak out so much..
if you have been getting a vibe for the last month or so that she's not interested then your behaviour is justified..

otherwise you are being irrational and paranoid

 

[Knicknack]

yeah, i'm pretty cautious these days because of what i've seen in the past. i called her this morning and didn't reach her. just left her a voicemail hoping her dinner was good. we'll see what happens. i'm glad i didn't talk to her last night before reading these responses. sometimes i just protect myself from leaning in too much and being a wussy. hopefully she wasn't too distraught at me not talking to her yesterday

thanks for the advice.

 

[xblitz44x]

Maybe she had to meet with her dad? What's so hard to believe about that? Why is it that anytime a woman has to change her plans we IMMEDIATELY personalize it and let it hit our egos and make us think that she must not like us? If you automatically assume that, you are going to fvck shyt up before it even starts.

It's kinda selfish to assume that if a girl isn't walking 1,000 miles for us, that she's "not interested". Let her do her thing. Nothing happened here, yet. Not until YOU fvck it up by assuming that her actions mean that she 'flaked' and doesn't like you anymore. It's a product of your own insecurity. Period.

 

[rjherche]

Call her back the next day and play it off. You've been seeing her for a while now so I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. You didn't need to call her back immediately though.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

You have been seeing her for over 2 months so you have nothing to worry about.

If she pulled this prior to your first date then I'd be worried.

 

[Phonenix DJ]

Chill out

Man.

Chill out.

Stop calling her! If she likes you shes gonna call you back and re schedule something, if not, disappear.
Say nothing, just go away!

 

[JJMcLure]

It doesn't matter if her excuse was genuine. The bottom line either way is that she had something with a higher priority to do.

It's not like you have a major strategic decision to make based on that fact. You aren't going to NEXT her for it.

You are going to just play it as normal and see what happens next time. If she keeps flaking, THEN you have a decision to make.