Help with approaching native/foreign Asian women?

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Hey, I'd appreciate some help on how to approach native/foreign Asian women for whom English isn't their first language. I did an approach on one today and it was ok, but didn't go the way I wanted it too.
I just saw her walking back from class as I was heading to class, and I stopped her with my approach and said "Hey, I see you around a lot, how are you doing?" She seemed surprised(She had on her Ipod too until I approached), and said "Ok", and just walked where she was walking, and I walked to class. Of course I'm not going to follow her in desperation. I have a very low physical space zone concerning people in general(probably resembling Latin people tbh), and I have a loud, optimistic, and excited personality that loves to talk. I'm not upset at all about the approach, I've been wanting to do one on a foreign Asian for a while, I just need to adjust because I can't treat them the same as American women apparently. I have to just cold approach the foreign Asians here, otherwise I'll never meet them. So there are problems here, but I appreciate your help.
 

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There are a lot of foreign asians on my campus, it would be interesting to try approaching one. I wonder how it would go...they're attracted to nerdy white guys (which I sort of am), but I don't know how often they get approached, I would think not often.
 

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Exhumed said:
There are a lot of foreign asians on my campus, it would be interesting to try approaching one. I wonder how it would go...they're attracted to nerdy white guys (which I sort of am), but I don't know how often they get approached, I would think not often.
It's worth a shot. That's why I did the one approach with her. But I'd like to do more approaches with foreign Asians. I just need a solution as I got a way better reaction from an Asian-American the other night than her. The only people I see the foreign Asians with here are other Asians. Destroy the cultural barriers!:D
 

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When you approach her flash her a green card and she love you long time :D

Sorry I couldn't resist. But anyway foreign asian girls are very reserved and sensitive. You will need a lot of persistence since when you approach them you could be talking to them for minutes and they will remain like robots (showing little emotion). It doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't like you that's just the way they are. You have to keep at it and not give up just because they aren't showing you signals right away.

You have to understand that foreign asian girls actually care about their studies. If they're here it's because probably their parents paid a lot of money to send them here. So if you interrupt their studies make sure you are polite and respectful to them.

Don't neg them or do a lot of the PUA stuff you would do to your average hor. Instead try to have an actual conversation, ask her about herself, her life, family etc.
 

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my girlfriend is asian and all i can say is its worth the effort.

they make AMAZING girlfriends!!
 

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HeMan said:
my girlfriend is asian and all i can say is its worth the effort.

they make AMAZING girlfriends!!
Yup. Once I went Asian, I can no longer go back to Caucasian. But foreign Asian women are generally more conservative and relationship-orientated so if OP is looking to make a quick play for a ONS it would be very difficult compared to a Western woman.
 

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Yeah, personal experience: don't try to be so ****y&funny! Asian people in general don't really use sarcasm and witty comments, so they won't get the joke!

Rather make very simple jokes, even very lame ones, they like it :)

Also, most Asian countries are still very male dominated. So once you're going out, they expect you to walk close to them etc etc.

BUT!!!
If you're going clothes shopping with an Asian girl be careful! Or she'll convince you to buy the gay emo clothes that are popular over there right now! :D
 

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Asian girls

Had a LTR with a Asian girl..before meeting her all my friends were asian for more than 10 years (I'm hispanic). They are very exclusive to their families, culture, friends. For instance if you go to a asian club you will see a group of say 5 asian girls dancing together but they wont really want to dance with you or any guys. Its like you have to already know them..their friends...family. It sounds like you are looking at F.O.B's (Fresh off the boat). If you are then they are going to be more traditional and old school. Eventually as they assimulate more they will be more like a typical American girl. I dated some FOB's and was unsucessful...ending up in a LTR with a more americanized asian girl.

If you want to break in then start making asian friends and hanging out with them. Be genuinely interested in their culture, food etc as theirs is very different. Great women, great people. Depending on your ethnicity you more than likely will have to deal with some racism and ignorance. Than again if you want to date exotic women thats a give in.
 

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It depends largely on what country they are from. Asia is a LARGE place. Thai and Filipina are a lot different than Japanese, Koreans, and even more so than Chinese.

Even with in China, the people are different depending on where they are from. Girls from Hangzhou tend to be more princess types, girls from Sichuan more wild/spicey, ect...

Also the stereotype that Asian women more conservative/traditional is a myth. Though I do admit it does apply to women who are in college, though that is slowly changing. Also as stated before, the girls are there to get an education, an expensive education.

Also everything Begin2Live said is true, but I have to add that while you have to show interest in their culture, don't go and try to impress them with your ni hao's, konichiwa's, your chopstick skills, or your ****ty performance of the tea ceremony.
 

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Begin2Live said:
Had a LTR with a Asian girl..before meeting her all my friends were asian for more than 10 years (I'm hispanic). They are very exclusive to their families, culture, friends. For instance if you go to a asian club you will see a group of say 5 asian girls dancing together but they wont really want to dance with you or any guys. Its like you have to already know them..their friends...family. It sounds like you are looking at F.O.B's (Fresh off the boat). If you are then they are going to be more traditional and old school. Eventually as they assimulate more they will be more like a typical American girl. I dated some FOB's and was unsucessful...ending up in a LTR with a more americanized asian girl.

If you want to break in then start making asian friends and hanging out with them. Be genuinely interested in their culture, food etc as theirs is very different. Great women, great people. Depending on your ethnicity you more than likely will have to deal with some racism and ignorance. Than again if you want to date exotic women thats a give in.
Ok, thanks everyone for all the advice. I'm white, but I'm always looking for exotic women regardless of race, social group, etc... I was recommended by a friend to ask specifically about their experience as a foreign exchange student along with other similar topics.
 

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I approached 2 foreign Asian girls(Chinese) at dinner tonight. I just walked up and said "Hey, Are both of you foreign exchange students?", and one explained that she was studying English at my university. Then we went into language discussion where I found out she's Chinese and speaks Spanish also. I explained that I was a Spanish major and told them my name. It went much smoother than my approach on Monday.
 
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