OK GUYSSS HELP TIME! ok. theres this girl that i am now talkin to. we only know each other for a couple days. and SHES the one doing the calling etc. but last night i think i moved too fast and i told her i was feelin her, n sed i couldnt wait to see her. she reacted real cool like " aww " blah blah. but im POSITIVE i messed up tha game cuz i made myself look too avaliable. anyway i can make this up? or make sure i get with her??
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You dumbass.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
What do you mean by 'feelin her' .. told her this?
You made a critical error .. the whole mission is now jeapordized.
Think of it like this: Trying to get in her pants is like flying the Space Shuttle back to Earth from high orbit. Any miscalculations, and you're done. Keep in mind thiis situation is probably more complicated than the Shuttle scenerio because the Shuttle has auto-pilot and you don't.
Next time, make sure you dam well are in control
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You made a critical error .. the whole mission is now jeapordized.
Think of it like this: Trying to get in her pants is like flying the Space Shuttle back to Earth from high orbit. Any miscalculations, and you're done. Keep in mind thiis situation is probably more complicated than the Shuttle scenerio because the Shuttle has auto-pilot and you don't.
Next time, make sure you dam well are in control
!yea, this is what she sed to me " your diff from all tha other guys and i do like you " and when she meant she likes me. she meant like FEELINGS not just like a person. anyway, is there ANYWAY i can pull it so that i could make it that SHE wants ME, instead of ME wanting her? because right now, i think i played it toooooo open.
and when i sed i was feelin her i meant that i liked her in tha relationship sort of way.
and when i sed i was feelin her i meant that i liked her in tha relationship sort of way.
-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
Nothing is jeopardized yet. No need to hit the panic button. There is nothing wrong with telling a girl that you guys are having a good vibe, you're feeling her and would like to continue kicking it again. Nothing is wrong with that....
It is when you are sappy, needy, calling her a milion times, and professing your love for her from the get go..thats when you screwed it up.
The best way to flip the script is to call the chick, and either with her on the line or leaving a message on her phone say this:
"yea...it was really great hanging out with you last saturday night...I'd really like to do it again this comming weekend but my friend Angie really wanted to take me to see The Ring 2 at the theater on Friday...and Saturday night I'm going out with the fellas...you know..guys night out...drinks, girls, strippers..hahaha.. you know...So when a day opens up...I'll let you know.."
What you have to do now is use a lil smoke and mirrors. Let her know that you do feel her vibe, but, you are a busy guy that is desired by many people. She must earn your time now.
Did you blow it? Nah. But, it all comes down to your patience now...you need to back off a lil bit.
It is when you are sappy, needy, calling her a milion times, and professing your love for her from the get go..thats when you screwed it up.
The best way to flip the script is to call the chick, and either with her on the line or leaving a message on her phone say this:
"yea...it was really great hanging out with you last saturday night...I'd really like to do it again this comming weekend but my friend Angie really wanted to take me to see The Ring 2 at the theater on Friday...and Saturday night I'm going out with the fellas...you know..guys night out...drinks, girls, strippers..hahaha.. you know...So when a day opens up...I'll let you know.."
What you have to do now is use a lil smoke and mirrors. Let her know that you do feel her vibe, but, you are a busy guy that is desired by many people. She must earn your time now.
Did you blow it? Nah. But, it all comes down to your patience now...you need to back off a lil bit.
AWESOME.. great great... and another thing is that she was ASLEEP when i got home from work and she still called.. and she was really out of it and when i told her to go to sleep she sed that she wanted to talk to me... and after i sed all that crap, i told her to go to sleep and i FINALLY convinced her and she sed that she would call me tomorrow. good sign? bad sign? what to do?
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
"your diff from all tha other guys and i do like you"
The above must have been a response to an inquiry of your own relative to relationship and getting more involved.
Her calling you is good .. but seems like she may just want to be friends. The above quote to me is ******** for LJBF.
Of course, only you really know the situation but this extrapolated from what you talked about.
The above must have been a response to an inquiry of your own relative to relationship and getting more involved.
Her calling you is good .. but seems like she may just want to be friends. The above quote to me is ******** for LJBF.
Of course, only you really know the situation but this extrapolated from what you talked about.
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
Oh then you're on Dawg .. gotta a live one. Thought you prompted that response, but she's trying to let you know in a subtle way that she's open to taking futher.
Yeahp, be kewl .. do the guy thing .. have earn some time.
Yeahp, be kewl .. do the guy thing .. have earn some time.
oh heres another thing. we were supposed to see each other on tuesday but i had school and i told her that we s hould see each other on SUNDAY but now im thinkin im makin myself too avaliable after saying all that junk.. but i dont think i should change the day again. or imma look like a flake...
-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
Bro..you are WAYYYY over analyzing this situation..
If she calls you tommorrow...keep it short, simple and to the point. Phone convos should only last 5-10 minutes because the purpose of the phone convo is to ask for a date. IF you are talking hours and hours on the phone...what the heck will you talk about on your date?
Honestly bro...it sounds like her IL in your is high. You guys are talking, having good rapport...don't screw it up by over-analyzing the situation.
Have fun...this isn't a physics course. Its dating, women, men, interactions...smiling..laughing..having good times. Calculating moves isn't fun. Worrying isnt fun. Stressing about it isn't fun.
The best thing you can do is to just wait for her call and set up a date...plain and simple. Don't be sappy, dont be clingy, don't profess your love to her.
Read the DJB and do a search for grey fox's advice on the first date and second date.
Most of all....HAVE FUN....its good hearing stories like yours....I think guys make this stuff too cynical and are ready to push the eject button because they are too lazy to try. Get some sleep and take it easy bro..
If she calls you tommorrow...keep it short, simple and to the point. Phone convos should only last 5-10 minutes because the purpose of the phone convo is to ask for a date. IF you are talking hours and hours on the phone...what the heck will you talk about on your date?
Honestly bro...it sounds like her IL in your is high. You guys are talking, having good rapport...don't screw it up by over-analyzing the situation.
Have fun...this isn't a physics course. Its dating, women, men, interactions...smiling..laughing..having good times. Calculating moves isn't fun. Worrying isnt fun. Stressing about it isn't fun.
The best thing you can do is to just wait for her call and set up a date...plain and simple. Don't be sappy, dont be clingy, don't profess your love to her.
Read the DJB and do a search for grey fox's advice on the first date and second date.
Most of all....HAVE FUN....its good hearing stories like yours....I think guys make this stuff too cynical and are ready to push the eject button because they are too lazy to try. Get some sleep and take it easy bro..
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
I don't think you can wrong there though.. one of the most important things you can at any time is be a challenge.
Girls love a challenge. It can't be stressed enough and is one of the very FEW common denominators that both women/men and dating/relationship gurus agree on.
I would almost just go out with her this weekend .. and then back off and let her chase you more after this.
Girls love a challenge. It can't be stressed enough and is one of the very FEW common denominators that both women/men and dating/relationship gurus agree on.
I would almost just go out with her this weekend .. and then back off and let her chase you more after this.
-HPNOTIQ-
Master Don Juan
The point of this isn't to tell her his life story. The reason you do this to show her that he is a busy man. He isn't always available. From his above post..this is simple damage control. Fake? hahaha..you already said it in your reply. SHE DOESNT KNOW HIM. She doesn't know how busy he is. Hell, he can tell her he is rescuing puppies all weekend long. As long as he isn't always available, needy, or sappy...thats the point bud.
The more unavailable he is, the more of a challenge he becomes to her. And, its human nature to want the things we cant have.
Common Blueox..this is fundamental, kindergarden, DJB stuff...
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
Lol .. for the record i was just being sarcastic with the Shuttle thing .. the more logical you are though, sometimes you can't help but make it into a science.
You can't approach women like a science, you have to know that the attraction is already there and by her actions. It's up to you to just be yourself and have fun, get to know her and take things in stride.
You can't approach women like a science, you have to know that the attraction is already there and by her actions. It's up to you to just be yourself and have fun, get to know her and take things in stride.