Help with 1 Girl, possible friend zone

[S.Y.L]

Ok, I'm new here. Theres this one girl I like, and have liked her since about the Beginning of June. Now I've never had a GF before, but came pretty close once(too scared to ask this one girl out, she therefore got bored, ignored me)

But otherwise nothing at all.

This one girl though, I met her in one of my classes at school, and began to like her. The more and more I get to know her, the more I like her. Basically though, she doesn't like me as more as a Friend I think. One time (after a few weeks of her knowing she liked me) I told her I just wanted to be friends, and she seemed happy with that. Now I thought I didn't like her anymore, But I did. I liked her a lot still.

Now its been a while since then, and she still thinks were just friends and w/e, we haven't hanged out or anything at all since, and basically all we do is text each other and talk on msn.

Now, my friend (who gets any girl he wants, and more, while still having a girlfriend at the same time) tells me, that I should become close with her and then get her to like me. But after reading a lot on this site and others, it became clear that this won't work, and I will just be stuck in the friend zone forever. We are friends right now, and she flirts a bit with me and stuff, but we aren't really close or anything.

What I need help with, is how to get her to like me, and not just be friends, because I like her a lot. A lot of my friends say they could see us going out, and its reasonable. I have a bit of help on my side, (I'm good friends with her best friend) and I live, like 10 houses away from her.

So, what do I do!

 

[SinJester]

Now I've never had a GF before, but came pretty close once(too scared to ask this one girl out, she therefore got bored, ignored me)

DO SOMETHING.

Listen to yourself. Do you want the same thing to happen again!? Look I'm going to give you some advice that I have found for myself after spending 4 years on the forums. She either likes you, or she doesn't. You aren't going to flip a switch and have her magically attracted if she wasn't initially. So do something, you will find out if she likes you or not, assume she does. If she doesn't well at least you found out, and that might not change for a little while. You have to do it to find out. Rejection is better than regret.

 

[jeffthechef]

Yeh
Rejection will feel so much better than regret.
I waited until the last day of school to ask this girl out and it turned out another guy asked her out two days before the last day...:cuss: :moon:
So I'm just pursuing other interests until she's available.
Ask her out somewhere and see where it goes from there.

 

[S.Y.L]

Yeh
Rejection will feel so much better than regret.
I waited until the last day of school to ask this girl out and it turned out another guy asked her out two days before the last day...:cuss: :moon:
So I'm just pursuing other interests until she's available.
Ask her out somewhere and see where it goes from there.

Well me and my Friend were going to hang out with her today, but my other friend couldn't make it, so she texts me and says, mabye another time, I don't hang out with just 1 guy at once.


No clue what that means, but I'm sure its not good, as if she liked me, she would totally hang out.

 

[S.Y.L]

DO SOMETHING.

Listen to yourself. Do you want the same thing to happen again!?

I knew the last Girl liked me though, I was just scared as ****, and never talked to her in person.

This one, I know she likes me as a friend for sure, anything else is doubtful

 

[Bballer7389]

Try the double date first with your friend, but do something active, don't key in on her when you and the group are out, pay attention to the activity you are doing. Then try to go ahead and make her know you are a alpha male. Go about and ignore her a little, chill with ur boy and at times rag on her for fun. Be different don't be too mushy and clingy to her best way for me to put it. Hope this helped a little.

 

[S.Y.L]

Try the double date first with your friend, but do something active, don't key in on her when you and the group are out, pay attention to the activity you are doing. Then try to go ahead and make her know you are a alpha male. Go about and ignore her a little, chill with ur boy and at times rag on her for fun. Be different don't be too mushy and clingy to her best way for me to put it. Hope this helped a little.

Yeah that helped. I have ignored her (not sending texts or talking on im/phone, unless she starts it) in the last few days to make sure I don't get "friend zoned" Although I haven't hanged out with her in about a month, so I'm not sure If I need to ignore her.

 

[jeffthechef]

Well me and my Friend were going to hang out with her today, but my other friend couldn't make it, so she texts me and says, mabye another time, I don't hang out with just 1 guy at once.


No clue what that means, but I'm sure its not good, as if she liked me, she would totally hang out.

She could be:
1. Teasing you. She's trying to tell you that many guys are after her and her time must be spent with the multiple men jumping on her. Possibly, Quite Literally.
2. Not comfortable enough with you. My friend keeps asking me to go with him to the movies with the girl he likes because he needs support and girls are often the same way. Honestly though, i dont like support, i think that extra person adds another factor you have to worry about.
3. She thinks of you two being alone as a date and doesn't like you that way.

What i would do..
Ask her out somewhere alone..if she says she's busy and doesn't try to reschedule i don't think she's interested..i mean if a girl who you liked asked you out and you were genuinely busy..wouldn't you simply reschedule?..if she blows off the idea completely i don't think she's interested.

Keep me posted.

 

[S.Y.L]

She could be:
1. Teasing you. She's trying to tell you that many guys are after her and her time must be spent with the multiple men jumping on her. Possibly, Quite Literally.
2. Not comfortable enough with you. My friend keeps asking me to go with him to the movies with the girl he likes because he needs support and girls are often the same way. Honestly though, i dont like support, i think that extra person adds another factor you have to worry about.
3. She thinks of you two being alone as a date and doesn't like you that way.

What i would do..
Ask her out somewhere alone..if she says she's busy and doesn't try to reschedule i don't think she's interested..i mean if a girl who you liked asked you out and you were genuinely busy..wouldn't you simply reschedule?..if she blows off the idea completely i don't think she's interested.

Keep me posted.

1. I know Lots of Guys like her, from her old school, lots of people like her, but she wont go out with em, because its like at least an hour drive to get there. one of my friends did, but he is the absolute worst guy with girls ever, he talks like an idiot. And hes really, really ugly.

2. This is what my friends saying, and that after a few times hanging out with her with a friend or something, she will be fine and will hang out with me alone. I can see why. Makes sense.

3. Mabye, mabye not.