I've been dating this girl for about 8 months. Most things have been really good up until this point. Suddenly two weeks ago she seems disconnected. She doesn't seem to care the same way that she did before. There are long periods of time in between responses when I message her (there never used to be). She picks up my phone calls less frequently. On top of this, the other night when we were together, I texted her a funny meme, and her phone didn't ring or vibrate, meaning that she has me on mute (which she admitted to). We have been having sex way less frequently, last night was the first time I had sex with her in a week, and smashed the **** out of her; it was pretty good. But I feel bothered. I am feeling anxiety about what is going on. She tells me that she loves me.. She gets off work at 8:00, texted me around 9:15 telling me that she is eating dinner. I asked her if she wanted to meet up and smoke a dube, and she told me that yeah, she'd want to meet up around 10:30, after she took a bath . I sent her another text back asking if she'd want to meet up a bit earlier than that because I don't want to be up too late, and she texted me back saying "I'll text you soon". I said to her that we didn't have to meet up tonight. An hour passed (it's now close to 10:30), then I texted her again asking if she still wants to meet up yes or no. She didn't respond so I called her. Then there was no answer. Then she texted me back saying that she was doing laundry so wouldn't be able to meet up. I said no problem, and said to her that I am having a bit of anxiety and would just like to chat with her a bit on the phone. No response. I called again, call ignored. I feel like something is going on with her but I don't know what. Does it sound like she is losing interest?
Ok Sporto, you're going to get a TON of advice and feedback here about she's screwing another guy, has other options, bla bla bla. Generic homogeneous s*hit.
SOMETIMES it's true but not all the time. So take it with a grain of salt.
What is most likely happening is she has lost some interest. This can happen quite easily with women without any outside influence. What 95% of the SS posters on this site don't realize, that
I just f*ucking shake my head at, is that in most cases the woman has bottomed out a bit in her emotions. Maybe the guy has caused it and maybe not. They are f*ucking women after all and logic or critical thinking is rarely in play with them.
Women are like waves. They go up and down and up and down in their emotions.
It doesn't AUTOMATICALLY mean she's f*ucking someone else. Women are slaves to their hormones and emotions. Guys, especially inexperienced ones, start to freak out when a woman withdraws a bit and they start to push more with drives the woman away even further.
So, based on many years or what works and what doesn't here's my advice:
1- Back off a bit and stop calling her and texting her so much. You seem WAY over-pursuant. Seriously. Check in maybe once a day. Talk but don't invite her over or whatever.
Relationships need room to breathe.
2- Start focusing on your goals, hobbies, and profession. Talk about it with her with passion and enthusiasm. "Hey, think I'm going to start an online business, invest in RE, learn Russian, whatever. "
Women LOVE men with goals and passion.
3- Hang out with your friends more. Guy time is huge.
4- Where can you get better? Confidence, attitude, setting goals, what? Start a self development program. Check out some Tony Robbins videos on You Tube. Corey Wayne is good too.
Whatever you do don't push, accuse, freak out, etc. And don't dump her. Play it cool. Watch a James Bond flick. Does he freak when chicks don't dig him? No. He focuses on his goals.
This is probably just a phase in most cases. Relationships need some time to marinate so don't be quite so available so you'll probably see a difference in her attitude. Final piece of advice is if she tries to break up with you,
don't fight it, agree, go NC, and MOVE ON. Don't chase or pursue and if you haven't acted like an AFC or p*ussy, 80% chance she'll be back in time.
Good luck.
Dash
