MacAvoy said:
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Alright MacAvoy:
- You can not remove memories in a healthy way. People try by using excess alcohol and drugs to mask the experience but it's still there in all it's glory.
- Given that it's still there and will be throughout your existence, you need to ask yourself what is it that you truly need. Is it forgetting about that person or is it changing the feelings that you have whenever you think about her.
The mind is a positive, forward moving mechanism. In it's simplest form it is a "yes man," a
very literal one at that. You can not tell your mind
not to do something and have it do it without force on your part. Here's an example, do exactly what I tell you... Do
not imagine a purple elephant with pink spots skiing in the dessert. Interesting picture isn't it? Whoops, didn't I say
not to imagine that?
The force that people enact in an attempt to deal with this issue is
willpower. We've all seen how far willpower takes people who try to quit smoking, lose weight, recover from alcoholism (which I believe there is no such thing) or any other vice which they allowed to control their life choices. They typically fall off the wagon.
Before anyone jumps in and brings up people who have conquered their addiction let me state that willpower didn't do it for them. They actively changed their lifestyle in order to regain control. It's about having the mindset that allows you to do differently, it's what transforms an AFC to a DJ.
Back to what you want to do with your memories, I suggest changing the premise of the memories that you have of this woman. Here's something you can do, instead of remembering the past, think about the positive changes that you are incorporating into your life because of those past experiences. Think about the positive growth that you're making.
Think about the knowledge that you've learned that will benefit you with subsequent women that you will meet. Think about how the power and self control makes you feel when you engage women in the future. Think about the better quality women you will sarge because of these positive changes you are making. Hell, imagine how you will enact the perfect pickup with just the right woman and it will feel as if it happened effortlessly.