Help trying to figure out what I did wrong

[deusnecro]

While few weeks ago my friend introduce me to one his friends over the phone. On the phone we talked for while and some over IM that day. She was interested in me for two or three weeks. We talked over the phone and texted her a few times.I was planning to see her one day but it seemed like interested weaved off so I just said to myself forget it.Even since last week should would respond but wouldn't answer after few text. Last Saturday I texted her and she said something who was and told it was me. She says something about not saving a few numbers. Which make me think she deleted my number. Later that night I made the stupid mistake of calling her drunk and she answered. We talk for while but she said had to go because guess hard hear me since was arguing with my friend because he kept telling me what to say. I tired texting and iming her this week and she doesn't respond.

 

[Bender936]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16903

 

[hover411]

sometimes interest fades regardless of what you do. trying harder only reaks of desperation.

it shows how few options you have when you are chasing after such a small lead.

she is just not invested at all and therefore has little to no interest. you gotta seal the deal quick in these situations.

 

[deusnecro]

I guess I should just delete her info...stuff like that and move on.Thanks man.

 

[thecurtainfalls]

Move on, you're toast.

Next time, don't bug her with a zillion texts all the time. Use the texts to quickly flirt with her and arrange a meetup, or else call her. Sounds like you came off as too available/scarcity mentality.

 

[Kailex]

Here comes the Kailex! Boo-YAH!

While few weeks ago my friend introduce me to one his friends over the phone. On the phone we talked for while and some over IM that day. She was interested in me for two or three weeks.

Freeze it... right HERE.
Whoa, whoa, whoa! What was taking you so LONG to set up something! Why did you feel the need to wait nearly a month! I get that it was a blind set-up, but hey, that's what meeting up is for. There's only so much that phone conversations and IM's can do. Meeting up with her to go out shouldn't have gone past a WEEK after your first conversation. You let this cool off! Whyyyyyyyy? What were you waiting for?

And please... don't tell me something lame like "I don't have a car"... "She doesn't have a car"... I want the REAL reason. Only by you being honest with me can I tell you what else you did wrong and how to further avoid this.

Some guys don't get that you should LEARN from your mistakes and are just so quick to shrug off a girl without the WHY. If you don't know what got you there, how are you to avoid making the same mistake AGAIN in the future?

We talked over the phone and texted her a few times.I was planning to see her one day but it seemed like interested weaved off so I just said to myself forget it.

Interest weaved off because you weren't interesting anymore. I'm sure you guys called/emailed frequently over the course of three weeks... so, she probably said: What's the point of meeting this guy if I already know everything about him?

Even since last week should would respond but wouldn't answer after few text. Last Saturday I texted her and she said something who was and told it was me. She says something about not saving a few numbers. Which make me think she deleted my number.

CORRECT!!!
Kind sir, she deleted your number and masqueraded it as "not saving a few numbers". What kind of a half-assed answer is that anyway. Do we ever have to constantly re-save numbers? NO. She just deleted YOURS. Why? Because you never made a move... you weren't interesting to her anymore... and probably because the time you took chatting her up/phone/IM, someone else was calling her and meeting up with her... BTW, guess what she was doing when she wasn't responding your texts... SOME OTHER GUY.

Later that night I made the stupid mistake of calling her drunk and she answered. We talk for while but she said had to go because guess hard hear me since was arguing with my friend because he kept telling me what to say. I tired texting and iming her this week and she doesn't respond.

If this were a video game, right now it'd say: GAME OVER.

And just in case, you haven't figured it out... she deleted your number... AGAIN. That's right, that's why she picked up the phone call. She didn't recognize the number and probably thought it was some other guy she hooked up with the night earlier and had the balls to make a move.

And secondly, she didn't have to go because your friend was loud... she had to go because she didn't want to talk to you. Plain and simple.

Stop texting her.
Stop IMing her.

It's over.

Move on.

And now you have my post for future reference. Don't ever let this happen again. If you get a girl's number, you call them within the first week to set something up. Don't linger around like a bad cold.

Capiche? :rock:

 

[deusnecro]

Truthful she knows little about me since we only talk about her. The reason I didn't make a moves because I didn't have money to go 184 miles from where I live to see her.

 

[Kailex]

Truthful she knows little about me since we only talk about her. The reason I didn't make a moves because I didn't have money to go 184 miles from where I live to see her.

Details you might have wanted to include in your OP. :trouble:

Why are you even trying to game a girl that is 3 hours away?
Isn't there anything closer to you?

And you only talk about her?

Yeah... all of this just yells of: NEXT!!!!!

 

[deusnecro]

Nope, I'm just bad at meeting girls. I'm shy guy who still trying learn not to be shy. It just hard though since most of my friends say that I'm good looking(it just that I don't believe them).