Help! Tables Are Turning Against Me

[Masculinity]

I have been talking to this 19 y/o girl for about 4 weeks. We hung out once at a restaurant and then we went for a walk in my school. She paid for the meals because she cancelled on me before (because of work). The date goes great and she texts me saying that she really likes me.

Date 2: (3 days later) We get together near my place planning to play pool. She gets a text from her mom saying she has to be home by 9:30PM (after she arrived at 6:30PM), so that leaves us with about 2.5 hours to hang. She cooks me food and then we play around in my bed and I end up fingering her. She loves it. We then proceed to play air hockey in my uni, but the machine is broken so she asks if I want to go back to my place. I agree. We go back to my place and she takes her clothes off (she promised). She resist sex and says I have to wait. I diffuse LMR and we bang. She gets emotional & asks me if I'm going to text her because she's never had sex with a guy so fast. I tell her not to worry & that nothing is changing.

She gets home 30 mins later and texts me. She's happy and excited. We exchange a few messages and the night ends. The next morning I text her suggesting she makes a plan to hangout near her place (I don't know the area--not being AFC). She doesn't respond to my text; it has been a whole day and she hasn't replied. She would text me immediately every day before and we have been going back and forth. I usually take from 15 mins to 2 hours to respond (legitimately busy).

So right now I am feeling the urge to double text her(it has been 9 hours since I originally texted her), but I came here instead. I am thinking about going No Contact and giving her a call either tomorrow or Thursday evening, but we have a lot in common and I am having the urge to talk to her (used to texting her everyday & found out we have a lot, a lot in common). I can handle going NC on her; I wanted to come here and vent rather than double texting her. Any word of advice would be nice!

 

[pdx1138]

What's your big hurry? What's the rush?

Are you going to DROP DEAD if she doesn't get back to you asap?

see what I mean? You have to ask yourself these things then realize how silly it is.

Wait for her to contact you, she will if everything went the way you said.

Lose these needy thoughts, it will only help.

With all the REP points you have I'm surprised you're even asking this.

 

[Masculinity]

What's your big hurry? What's the rush?

Are you going to DROP DEAD if she doesn't get back to you asap?

see what I mean? You have to ask yourself these things then realize how silly it is.

Wait for her to contact you, she will if everything went the way you said.

Lose these needy thoughts, it will only help.

With all the REP points you have I'm surprised you're even asking this.

There is not rush/hurry. The thing is she believes I'm going to ignore her since I already banged her. I have no problem with waiting, but it's been a while since I have clicked with a girl so well, so I got a bit of oneitis. I have no problem with going NC, but I got used to her high IL & then all of a sudden she disappears.

I actually have finals coming up next week and have very little time to hang with her this week (it would be ideal if I don't), so not seeing her would not be the end of the world and would actually be good for me. I understand game very well, but once in a while we all have an AFC day and mine is today.

 

[pdx1138]

good.

it's simple then, wait for her to text you since you texted her last.

 

[marmel75]

Someone else is in the picture...

 

[Masculinity]

good.

it's simple then, wait for her to text you since you texted her last.

The thing is her phone deletes her messages when it runs out of battery (this happened before and she texted me asking if I responded). I was thinking about calling her two days from today (Thursday) afternoon and see what's up.

Someone else is in the picture...

Not impossible, but very unlikely. This girl does not go out and her parents are super protective of her. I'm think more on the lines of her getting her phone taken away or having phone issues.

 

[pdx1138]

The thing is her phone deletes her messages when it runs out of battery (this happened before and she texted me asking if I responded). I was thinking about calling her two days from today (Thursday) afternoon and see what's up.

phone deletes messages running out of battery?

that sounds fishy dude. Cel messaging is highly reliable these days.

In any case call her thursday then. Just not today or tomorrow.

 

[Masculinity]

phone deletes messages running out of battery?

that sounds fishy dude. Cel messaging is highly reliable these days.

That was my exact initial thought, but her phone is a jail-broken iPhone with an unearthed (or whatever you call it) hack--meaning the phone resets itself if it dies.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Just text or again or call. Why overanalyze?

 

[Mr. Bond]

Jesus, NC is getting thrown around a whole lot these days. OP, you're freaking out over nothing. Give it some time, let her get back to you. There are no concrete rules to solve this problem. The solution is in your mental state, which is really clingy and insecure right now.

However, I can't change that for you, and I'm not going to waste my time on it. Here's what I'd do:

Wait a week or so. Let her get back to you. If she doesn't, contact her...not "hey how are you" etc...ask her out on a date on a specific day at a specific time. "I'm wearing a tutu and prancing around in the streets Thursday at 6, come join me." (Or whatever your date is)

If she still doesn't respond or she gives some BS excuse, delete her number and move on.

 

[iqqi]

You should text her again. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Give her a couple of benefits, actually, based on her insecurity after you had sex.

Specifically I'd say "Did you get my text I sent earlier/last night?" If she doesn't respond to that I'd wait a day and say "I haven't heard from you so I'll just leave the ball in your court." or something to that degree.

No need to jump the gun on going no contact or playing games here.

 

[Masculinity]

You should text her again. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Give her a couple of benefits, actually, based on her insecurity after you had sex.


Specifically I'd say "Did you get my text I sent earlier/last night?" No need to jump the gun on going no contact or playing games here.

Just text or again or call. Why overanalyze?

iqqi and PrettyBoyAJ: Thanks for the positive feedback, guys. I decided to text her again asking "Hey, did you get my text this morning, girlie?" and she replied five minutes later "Yes lol I just got home & couldn't reply earlier (continues conversation)"

I'm at a new school that is insanely difficult and demanding and felt down for a few weeks. So that combined with taking game a little too seriously with this girl made me create this thread instead of double texting her. Was I feeling insecure over something silly? Yes. However, my concern was regarding her feeling used (over me not contacting her after banging her). I think she wanted to test me and she got her response. I can't complain; a simple reassurance text in exchange for being treated like a king sounds good to me. Thanks again!

 

[Naughty Ninja]

iqqi and PrettyBoyAJ: Thanks for the positive feedback, guys. I decided to text her again asking "Hey, did you get my text this morning, girlie?" and she replied five minutes later "Yes lol I just got home & couldn't reply earlier (continues conversation)"

I'm at a new school that is insanely difficult and demanding and felt down for a few weeks. So that combined with taking game a little too seriously with this girl made me create this thread instead of double texting her. Was I feeling insecure over something silly? Yes. However, my concern was regarding her feeling used (over me not contacting her after banging her). I think she wanted to test me and she got her response. I can't complain; a simple reassurance text in exchange for being treated like a king sounds good to me. Thanks again!

That must've been some really good 19 y.o pvzzy! Got your azz sprung!(You were "concerned" over her feeling 'used'....riiiiight.) You want to make sure you get some more of that pink cookie in the future..You aren't fooling ANYONE bro! lol :flowers:

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

I mean to me if I was in the situation I just wouldn't give a damn and I would be trying to get new poonani. But if I was thinking about the situation to the point where I had to make a thread I rather just text again or call and confirm by her actions of what happened. Just that plain and simple.

Man when I met my current girlfriend I was juggling too many girls. I liked her but I wasn't about to chase her. I just put some bait out (good convo) and let her chase me. If she didn't bit I don't care. I got a lot of cute btches. Things turned out for the better though.

 

[Masculinity]

That must've been some really good 19 y.o pvzzy! Got your azz sprung!(You were "concerned" over her feeling 'used'....riiiiight.) You want to make sure you get some more of that pink cookie in the future..You aren't fooling ANYONE bro! lol :flowers:

Haha, I'm not going to lie; she was being a "good girl" a the beginning, but once I got my seduction going, she turned into a lioness Can't be too tight!

 

[spiegel549]

I was just in your situation with a 19 year old college girl. I listened to the best advice on this site and followed it.

If there is any advice I could pass to you from what I have been experiencing is that with pursuing these young college girls, you can not take them seriously. They don't want to be wined and dined, they want to party, have fun, and ****. You need to be BUSY, and NOT CLINGY AND UP HER A$$!!!!

You already ****ed her, pump the brakes, and take things SLOW.

 

[Masculinity]

[Y]oung college girls, they want to party, have fun, and ****. You need to be BUSY, and NOT CLINGY

You already ****ed her, pump the brakes, and take things SLOW.

This is quite true; all young girls have this to some extent, but this one appears to be on the low side. As for the sexual aspect, she has only had sex with one dude before (because of her parents being so strict). I know some of you will say add 5 guys to whatever number of guys she mentions sleeping with, but I highly doubt such is the case with this girl. She literally stays home most of the time & her parents' messages confirmed it. I decided to slow down the rate at which I text her. I am also letting a whole week go by without seeing her. She sent me a picture text the other night and jokes around with me a lot. She's very high IL and invited me to the beach and then her house. She also doesn't resist my kino and immediately starts making out with me when we hangout.

This should be a fun experience; I'll update you all on this hb.

Keep being money,

-R

 

[omega05]

Then why did you come here posting "The Tables have Turned zomg?!?!??! "

Agreed.