Help Please!!

[rico-chico]

Guys/Gals,

Im in desperate need of help,advise and probably both.Im a 30 year old shy quiet man earning good money in IT have my own batchelor pad in the city(london,UK) not bad looking(have occasionally been told that im good looking..although I cant see it myself)...just never had a proper girlfriend..I've kissed one girl in my entire life who I met on a internet dating site.I've had enough of just existing .lack of confidence in myself is my biggest problem.i DONT HAVE THE BALLS TO APPROACH ANY WOMEN even the ones who arent all that good looking etc.Im way to sensitive when it comes to being rejected , Im sure I will be rejected many times..I have asked a few girls out but have been rejected and boy it hurts!!now I just dwell on the past failures.Im prone to the odd bout of self pity and envy and depression now and then.

Basically,Im here to ask for a plan, a way forward for me.Please dont suggest I go to a mall and just speak to women randomley because it aint happening.I need advise from those who know what it's like to be in my shoes and have transformed themselves into more confident happy people...please help..i dont really know which way to go from here and im tired of hearing about friends who have got girlfriends.

Thank you

R

 

[JSH]

LOL, why do people never follow instructions. Hi, i also live in London but am slightly younger, most of the stuff on this site is geared towards the majority here, americans. If they say anything you dont understand, ask them to explain it, the only difficulty you will probably have with the boot camp is that cold approaches appear to be harder over here (although some people say they are the same).

Anyway look at the top right of the screen and click on the DJ Bible, read it, its awesome and gets you in the right frame of mind. Then you might want to try the Boot Camp and that will freshen you up.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Hey Rico Suave,

You will find your situation / dating life as the typical/norm on this site (although 30 may older than most) and many here are seeking the same.

Read the material on this site and read the threads in the past few months because many of them relate closely to your situation.

You lack confidence and until you get rid of this barrier you will never recover!!

 

[HuuBinh]

I'd suggest that if you're not satisfy with any other areas in your life besides women, work on it. if your not confident about your looks, improve buy by working out more often, better clothing, haircut etc. Once you start improving other areas of your life, you'll gain much more confidence in yourself, and more importantly women will likely be more attracted as they will notice your confidence.