Help Please Lost Erection Im Freaking Out

[animal crackers]

I wrote a post a couple days ago that the first time me and this girl tried to have sex, right as we were about to do it I lost my boner. Well that time it was due to a lot of outside factors, but last night we tried it again... I was doin good until I strapped on a condom, and the condom seriously sucked the life out of my ****, It wouldve been her first time to, but as I put it in about half way I could tell she was in pain, and I just lost my erection.

This is really scaring me. I've never not been able to get an erection, and I think it's all in my head, but this was 2 NIGHTS IN A ROW, and it's really upsetting me.

This isnt the type of thing I would willingly go to my friends or my dad about, because well...I just hope you guys can help me out, cuz this is really upsetting me.

I know i need to relax, and I try to, but it just doesnt work.

 

[stormwriter]

Yeah dude, i hear ya. You have about a 3 second window of opportunity to get those stupid condoms on before things start to shrink... haha. At least that's been my case. I'm sure some dudes are going to write and say:

"yo, if you's can't be bangin hard when a chick be in yo crib, you probably on da wrong board... You need to be on da IMA WUSSY board..."

I would like to think at your age its just mental, and scared, and you can't just think about baseball and have it go away. Make sure you aren't drinking alcohol beforehand either, cause that's been known to a give a brother the limp action. Also, don't be really tired either.

I'm sure it will go away, but it sure is embarrasing when a woman is in your bed, waiting for it, and you can't deliver.

 

[MDgood]

Don't get scared yet. It's probably just that you're not totally comfortable with her yet. Just because we're guys doesn't instantly mean we can psychologically prepare oursleves for intimacy at any given moment with just any chick.

You're just one of those guys who needs to build a trust relationship with the girl. Failing that, tell her to suck on your balls while you put on that condom.

 

[fan27]

Solution: don't wear a rubber (just kidding).

What I usually have do when wearing a rubber, especially if I am switching positions, is stroke it with the rubber on in order to get it back up. IF I am about to do her while she is on her back and my **** begins to go soft because of condem strangulation, I will stroke myself while at the same time stimulating her genital region with my tool. Works like a charm.

 

[bugsquish]

It's totally normal, especially when you're just starting out. I screwed my first couple of chicks no problem, then one day screwed this chick with a mega-hairy puss and i just couldnt get past the bush. I got so flustered I lost my hardon, then the chick told everyone at our school. Poor me got a bit of a complex after that and it took me a while to get back in action.

All you need is an understanding chick who is patient with you. Relax, take your time, and if you lose it it doesn't mean that session is over. Go back to foreplay until you're hard again. If you lose it again repeat the process. Eventually you'll be so horny you couldn't lose your hardon if your granny walked in Just get plenty of condoms!

fan27's suggestions work like a charm too.

 

[lynx]

fist time can be scary

My fist time, I lost my erection too, but the chick was nice and gave me oral satisfaction. About 45 minutes later, we tried again and it went fine. You won't be able to perform all the time, but make sure the chick is nice and somebody you feel comfortable with. If it's her first time, she will probably be very cool about the whole thing. If you can't get it up, please her in other ways (if you know what I mean) and she'll please you back.

 

[animal crackers]

thanks guys

I appreciate everyone helpin me out with this. I'm kinda inexperienced sexually, so I guess I was pretty nervous. I trust this girl, and she's very understanding about the whole thing, but I'm scared to try it again because if I cant perform, it would be terrible. She keeps telling me that its no big deal, and I know she cares about me, but this is a big deal for me, and it has got to be hard for her too. I just can't stop worrying over it.

 

[stormwriter]

The double entendre of this line cracked me up, considering the topic:

"...but this is a big deal for me, and it has got to be hard for her too."

 

[animal crackers]

lol , yea I realized that after I posted

 

[Iceberg]

Oh shoot, I didn't notice that, storm.

Anyway, when I was younger it never failed for me to have the chick put the condom on me. For whatever reason, I never lose an erection from that.

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by bugsquish
It's totally normal, especially when you're just starting out. I screwed my first couple of chicks no problem, then one day screwed this chick with a mega-hairy puss and i just couldnt get past the bush. I got so flustered I lost my hardon, then the chick told everyone at our school. Poor me got a bit of a complex after that and it took me a while to get back in action.

Lol. If that happened to me and she started talking, I would have handed her a razor and said "shave that bush, then I'll be able to get hard."

 

[bugsquish]

Originally posted by crazykid
Lol. If that happened to me and she started talking, I would have handed her a razor and said "shave that bush, then I'll be able to get hard."[/I]

LOL
I needed a machete to escape from it! I was only about 15, and I didn't go near her again from embarassment. I got called "Mr Floppy" for a few months. Kids can be so cruel.
Would probably caught something from her anyway the skank.

 

[TDK4]

I screwed my first couple of chicks no problem, then one day screwed this chick with a mega-hairy puss and i just couldnt get past the bush.

Im about to F'N' BARFFFF!! That is too damn funny!

 

[animal crackers]

bump

help guys this is killing me

 

[bugsquish]

lol @ tdk

Animal all you can do is take it slowly and chill. This has probably happened to every guy on this board at some point. There's no miracle cure. Oh, I forgot Viagra

 

[TesuqueRed]

It never comes back once you lose it. Shyt dude....

 

[animal crackers]

...

Well I had her start giving me a BJ, and it popped back up, but when I took the condom out and tried to put it on, I just lost it again.

 

[Howie Farkes]

Sounds like a textbook case of performance-anxiety. A terrible catch-22, it won't stay up becuase you're nervous and you're nervous because it won't stay up.

You gotta break the cycle. Maybe just let her suck your c0ck 'til you come, or maybe a hand job or something, anything so you feel the pressure's off to perform miracles in the bedroom. You always feel more relaxed after you come too so the nervousness and anxiety will be naturally lower then. Then give her some attention until you get hard again, and try to empty your mind and not think about it.

You just gotta learn to be relaxed when you're in a sexual situation with your girl.

 

[TesuqueRed]

Make her put the condom on while she's down there. Just a suggestion...

You (like me) may hate condoms. Maybe it breaks the flow, so to speak, so maybe you need to practice and re-wire your response patterns or something.

 

[animal crackers]

j/w

TesuqueRed

What do you mean "practice and re-wire your response patterns "?