HELP PLEASE!!!How to not seem needy when you are already in a relationship???

[SgtSplacker]

As far as boundaries go I like to let her set the boundaries... kinda.

If she calls me several times a day I call her several times a day.

If she loves to text me random crap I allow myself to text her random crap too.

The most important thing is to only return less than half of what she does.

She calls you 3 times call her 1 time. And you definitely cannot take the lead in this stuff.

Why?

Because your time is more important than hers. So you cannot afford to maintain a super level of communication with her. Reply when you can, the rest of the time you are busy, plain and simple.

 

[thevilittletroll]

be unpredictable when it comes to responding to phone calls and texts. answer some right away, answer some an hour later. more importantly you will need to continue to show high value traits to keep her interested and to keep her chasing you. the biggest one is jealousy. i'm not saying you have to cheat on her but she must have some cense in her mind there is a possiblility you will cheat on her. introduce her to some girl "friends" she must see that other girls find you attractive. jealousy is the strongest emotion a woman can feel about a man she's attracted to. when she blows up on you just play it cool and say you have nothing to worry about. add up all the stuff about maintaining a life away from her. staying alpha, stay in control, be decisive. continue to tease her playfully and dont be afraid to cross the line from time to time. show her you willingness to walk away at any time if she pisses you off. be willing to turn down her invitations to hang out from time to time. dont always jump at the chance to hang out. this shows a little bit of predictablility and it also shows that you dont have so much going on in your everyday life. most importantly you must continue to show her all the reasons she was attracted to you in the first place. if you attraction switch is humor, make her laugh everyday, if you used high value status, you must show her thats a big part of your life, so on and so forth.

 

[MrNiceGuy23]

You need to have other women in your life. You might think it sounds wrong but it's not. I'm not saying you need to have other women in a sexual manner, but just other women whom you have an attraction that you know are attracted to you as well.

Remember, the person with other options is the one who holds the power in the relationship. If you have a girlfriend but 2 or 3 other women who you share an attraction with, you'll stop acting needy.

I've been with a girl for 27 months now and for awhile I was like you. We'd talk all the time I'd constantly be talking to her, only see her, etc, but then I became friends with a group of girls (4 of them to be exact), all of whom openly told me they want to date because they admired the way I treat my girlfriend.

Now I pretty much have all the power, I'm really close with 2 of them still (both attractive HB8s or higher) and both still actively try to get with me, which allows me not to fret over my relationship and just enjoy the good times I have in it.

When you have no other options you cling to the person you're with, which is fine as long as it isn't too intense. But if you cling hardcore then the girl realizes that you have nothing in your life besides her, so she leaves because she doesn't want to date a loser.

Have friends, hang out with your bros a lot but also find a girl or two who are attractive enough to be potential "other women." Again don't be an ******* but they should be the kind of girls your girlfriend will think "Are they just his friends?" and once she thinks that, you win.