Help out please, I'm in deep S**T

[Baddy Love]

Help out, please, I'm in deep S**T!!!!!!

OK, so I went out on a date with this girl (she's 15 and I'm 18), on a scale from 1 to 10 she's a 12, and I'm NOT exaggerating. Anyway, we both had a wonderful time, and even if I was the dumbest person on earth who didn't have a clue about women, I could tell she was interested in me. Didn't kiss her the first night, called her tomorrow and asked her out, she said no problem, and half an hour before our date I got a message from her saying she's really sorry and begging me not to take it the wrong way, but she can't come out because her mom has some plans with her and in the end she says that she'll call me (of course, she didn't) and "I hope I'll make it up somehow...". Few days have passed, and I called her, had some small talk with her and asked her if she was going out, she said maybe and that it was not up to her. She did went out, and came to the place where I was, I said hi and we talked a little bit and I went on with my friends. And this is where the problem came up, I had too much to drink(and this happens VERY rarely to me). I can control myself and I didn't do anything to offend her, but I was kinda rude when I called her on the cell phone and asked her to come out of the club when she said she can't, and I told her (calmly) "Girl, don't get on my nerves and come out." (I repeat, I said it nicely, didn't yell or smth like that), and she replied, well I don't know how to translate it correctly but the message was: Now that you said it like that I most definitley will not. Then I had our mutual friend to take her out so we could talk, and when she saw me she instantly went away, so I went in and sat with her female friends and talked with them until she returned, and then I left saying to her "Sorry if I offended you with anything!" and just passed by her, and I could see she was nervous. I woke up this morning and I have sent her this long and sincere message where I apologized and said some other cool stuff and that I will call her later so I think that it will break the ice a little. Also I planned on calling her best friend to ask her to help me out(in ither words to return a favor I did for her a few days ago). OK, that would be it, thanks for "listening" and if you can, please send me a few ideas and advices and if tell me do you think I still have a shot with this girl. Thanks in advance!!!

 

[Movin on up]

My opinion Shes 15 You're 18....Find someone your age or older...15 y/os should be off limits. IMO

 

[arutha]

I woke up this morning and I have sent her this long and sincere message where I apologized

Nah not with that, thats wussy no offence or anything.. Don't apologize for things you do when drunk, and if people bring them up merely say you can't remember it. Alcohol is the perfect excuse, as long as you don't do it often and get a bad reputation with alcohol.

 

[blinkwatt]

DONT EVER SAY"IM SORRY".no matter what the reason,dont ever remind a girl of your low points. could have been alot of reasons why she couldnt go out,dont focus on the bad.stay within your age group. is a 18 year old going out with a 15 year old normal in serbia?

 

[lebRambo]

ever heard of half your age plus 7? if you half your age and add 7, thats the youngest you can go. so, half 18 plus 7 is 16. she's a little too young.

 

[Ouzo]

Age aside I think you have got too close to the girl.

In all situations you have been begging her to either come out with, come outside to talk to her, get someone to go get her, calling her apoligizing.

See the pattern? You are putting her in control.

If the girl is a 12/10 then obviously she has been hit on so many times - then again at 15, maybe not.

Still ...from what I can see is that you are putting her in control except for the time when you told her to come outside. Why are you apologizing in the first place? You haven't done anything wrong. Its unncessary.

What would I do? Next her. If she was ever keen she isn't now and if SHE JUST HAPPENS TO BE then she will come back to you ONLY by not contacting her. However try in a few months and start fresh. Thats just happened with a girl that I'm scoring at the moment. It seems totally fresh even tho I have gone there before.

Good luck, any questions hit me up.

 

[Kleft]

As much as it may hurt ( or as much as your mind makes it hurt ) youll just have to move on dude. Youll have to ask yourself is it worth the time to get back with her?

Or you could reclaim your balls from her and start acting like a ****in man.
Dude no offence, but up till when you got drunk you sounded like a society run *****.

Didn't kiss her the first night

Why the **** not, i say kiss within the first 7 hours dude.
This is a great example of a typical ( yet powerful ) mind virus from society and women. Its complete B.S

but she can't come out because her mom has some plans

Hahahaha, thats actually quite a good one, personal i dont take any sort of flaking ****. You have to know for sure shes going to turn up for any plans you have.
But then again she got your retaliation in before you could

I hope I'll make it up somehow...

..why yes, wash my car cook me dinner and a full body rub down.:cheer:

Now for the drunken night comment, you made the greatest sin any she-man ***** or emo faggot can make...you started acting like a man..:

"Girl, don't get on my nerves and come out."

Fair play dude,i give that *****

Now what does she have to do, seeing the little bit of masculinity in you?
''What is this!'' she says, ''hes trying to get his balls back,well lets see how tough he is''.:trouble:
Now she has seen youre not a total wuss and can start testing you to see if youre really a man and can stand by what you just demanded her to do.
She has to do this, cause who the **** will listen to someone who isnt stong enough to walk the talk.:box:

My friend, she has seen a side to you which she might very much so like. Especially if shes hot.
But no..please no...Say It Aint So....
YOU DID NOT SAY

"Sorry if I offended you with anything!"

:cuss:

NOOOOO!!!Youre done, thats it, no way, i seriously dont think there is any hope for you now with this you.
You idiot. Ok serious ***** slap for you!...or kick in the ass:kick:

Also I planned on calling her best friend to ask her to help me out

:crackup:

...jesus christ dude, what the **** are you doing to yourself???
WOMEN TELL EACH OTHER EVERYTHIN.
Her friend has now gone runnin to the girl youre after and told her this.
Also not only is it important to show that youre a man in front of the girl you want, but it is also vitally important to show how cool you are with yourself infront of all her hot friends as well.

Dude serious, move on is all i can say. There was hope for you, but after all that blasphemy after the drunken night, that hotty girl now has youre balls locked away tightly in a safe, never to be seen again.:nervous:

Advice:

Start ignorin her immediately.
Become totally indifferent to her.
Delete her number.
Flirt with other girls, good to do this in front of her, but dont go over the top.

Good luck. Nothing is impossible. But raise your right hand and say now

Will never apologise or show weakness in front of an exceptionally hot girl again

..ok NOW SHOUT IT :


I WILL NEVER APOLGISE OR SHOW WEAKNESS INFRONT OF AN EXCEPTIONALLY HOT GIRL AGAIN

Thats all man. Learn from your mistakes and you will never have a failure.
Be CooL.

 

[ImSoHorny005]

Originally posted by Kleft
As much as it may hurt ( or as much as your mind makes it hurt ) youll just have to move on dude. Youll have to ask yourself is it worth the time to get back with her?

Or you could reclaim your balls from her and start acting like a ****in man.
Dude no offence, but up till when you got drunk you sounded like a society run *****.


Why the **** not, i say kiss within the first 7 hours dude.
This is a great example of a typical ( yet powerful ) mind virus from society and women. Its complete B.S


Hahahaha, thats actually quite a good one, personal i dont take any sort of flaking ****. You have to know for sure shes going to turn up for any plans you have.
But then again she got your retaliation in before you could


..why yes, wash my car cook me dinner and a full body rub down.:cheer:

Now for the drunken night comment, you made the greatest sin any she-man ***** or emo faggot can make...you started acting like a man..:

Fair play dude,i give that *****

Now what does she have to do, seeing the little bit of masculinity in you?
''What is this!'' she says, ''hes trying to get his balls back,well lets see how tough he is''.:trouble:
Now she has seen youre not a total wuss and can start testing you to see if youre really a man and can stand by what you just demanded her to do.
She has to do this, cause who the **** will listen to someone who isnt stong enough to walk the talk.:box:

My friend, she has seen a side to you which she might very much so like. Especially if shes hot.
But no..please no...Say It Aint So....
YOU DID NOT SAY



:cuss:

NOOOOO!!!Youre done, thats it, no way, i seriously dont think there is any hope for you now with this you.
You idiot. Ok serious ***** slap for you!...or kick in the ass:kick:




:crackup:

...jesus christ dude, what the **** are you doing to yourself???
WOMEN TELL EACH OTHER EVERYTHIN.
Her friend has now gone runnin to the girl youre after and told her this.
Also not only is it important to show that youre a man in front of the girl you want, but it is also vitally important to show how cool you are with yourself infront of all her hot friends as well.

Dude serious, move on is all i can say. There was hope for you, but after all that blasphemy after the drunken night, that hotty girl now has youre balls locked away tightly in a safe, never to be seen again.:nervous:

Advice:

Start ignorin her immediately.
Become totally indifferent to her.
Delete her number.
Flirt with other girls, good to do this in front of her, but dont go over the top.

Good luck. Nothing is impossible. But raise your right hand and say now

Will never apologise or show weakness in front of an exceptionally hot girl again

..ok NOW SHOUT IT :


I WILL NEVER APOLGISE OR SHOW WEAKNESS INFRONT OF AN EXCEPTIONALLY HOT GIRL AGAIN

Thats all man. Learn from your mistakes and you will never have a failure.
Be CooL.

Hehehe enjoyed reading this post

 

[AFK Protector]

You need 60 ccs of the Bible. stat!

 

[Lost In the Seas]

it wouldn't work out IMO anyways, you are a 18 years old, dating a 15, it already shows her your desperation and need to have her, already putting this kid in control of this "relationship", you will lose her anyhow

 

[B-Lemond]

Originally posted by Lost In the Seas
it wouldn't work out IMO anyways, you are a 18 years old, dating a 15, it already shows her your desperation and need to have her, already putting this kid in control of this "relationship", you will lose her anyhow

what is IMO?

 

[StrangeButTrue]

"In my opinion"

And these guys are right- go for someone older. Unless she is ABOUT to turn 16, and you JUST turned 18.

But you handled this wrong. You should have apologized, but not begged. And if she didn't accept it, then it's her problem, and she should move on.

 

[penkitten]

there are so many complications with the age difference here.

 

[undesputable]

Re: Help out please, I'm in deep S**T(P.S. I put the exact same message in the HS forum)

Originally posted by Baddy Love
OK, so I went out on a date with this girl (she's 15 and I'm 18), on a scale from 1 to 10 she's a 12, and I'm NOT exaggerating.

this is all i had to read....now shut up and realize that girls are far from being perfect...she might be a 12 on a 100 scale.

 

[blinkwatt]

you have to ask yourself "is the juice worth the squeeze?"

 

[TJSmitty]

Next her. Simple as that. There are more 12s out there.

 

[aftershock]

Remember that he's not American - the age of consent in Serbia might be different over there.

 

[Baddy Love]

Thanks for the tips...a lot of good points made...as for the age difference, i have a girl friend whose 16 dating a guy whose 25. Shouldn't have apologized, shouldn't have asked a buddy to take her out and should have kissed her the first night, she's not going to be here over the summer and will go to the same school as I do when she comes back so I'll take a shot at her again. Oh, also found out that her ex-boyfriend had a little chat with her about me and said some bad things (he also wanted to beat me up because of her, hahaha, I mean he's 17 and he's no joke but I'm untouchable in my town so...), so I guess that he had smth to do with the change in her attitude. Anyway back to the drawing board, thanks again.

 

[So FLY]

i dunno why ypur getting at a 15 y/o in the first place, lolz in america she's called jail bait

 

[Fitch]

Originally posted by Noob
its not actually the girls fault, your the idiot, now lets all point and laugh at you...

lol only messin, but on a serious note: you ****ed up big time.... you were drunk, when you rang her, even if shes stupid she still would have realised that you said what you said, because you were drunk, listen the mentality you gotta have is that you are the man ok now just try to follow these simple rules so you can get your self togethor and sort this biatch out...

dont ring her for the next week

is she tries to make contact, just say that you are really busy and you aint got no time

ring her after the painful week of ignoring her, and then go out togethor, but this time you will have a different mentality, you take NO **** from her, neg hit her thorughout the date, dont comment on her phisical apearance (how beutiuful she is), just be really confident throughout the date, she is lucky to be with YOU, she is lucky to be in your presence, on this date try something new, obviously kino has got to be in there...be a gentl;eman to her, (open doors n stuff) , the convo has got to be around 70% about her and 30% about you so you dont waffle on about yourself, there are billion of tyhins you could talk about...


anyways im bout to drop of to sleep now got a big day ahead of me tomoro, so can some one else finish my list of "to Do's" for this guy

Bear this in mind, and follow this mentality.

DISCLAIMER: DO NOT take it to the extreme. It will result in an extreme alteration of the girls perception. You will be viewed as an *******. GENERAL SURGEON WARNING, this will result in severe depression and an increase of posting insecurities.
USE PRODUCT (ADVICE) with CAUTION.

Get off your knees, stand up right, and get control of this situation. Let go of the physical and mental control. By letting go, or entering a laid back state, control will revolve around you.


How do you catch a butterfly?

Do you chase it in despair with your hands cupped open? Do you walk after it, or crawl after it, apologizing at the top of your lungs - or whispering - "SORRY, ... *FEDERAL ALERT* -- FCC WARNING: The following message was banned in accordance to law 123 C (a) 1 (c) which simply states 'AFC ALERT'..."

How about:

Walk away, get into your car and take a drive home. Pick up a chair from your living room and go back. On the way, pick up a glass of lemonade (or beer).

When you arrive at the designated spot, "just chill." Lay down on your chair, or burn it for a warm fire and lie on the grass.

Only when you are calm, and minding your own business, the butterfly will land on your shoulder.


But some butterflies are to young to land on a shoulder. Some butterflies need time to grow-up.


General Information:

It is unlawful to affilate yourself with a minor. In the court of law, you will look more guilty then she will. So be careful. Even if she let's you have sex with her, you are guilty - not her.

Do not let her get the best of you.