Help Needed, In Dire Straights!

[dereklearnslow]

There's this chick who I've been friends/acquaintances with since highschool. She's a pretty cool chick, down to earth, smart, cute face, awesome sense of humor, even plays video games to some extent, a rare find!

Here lies the problem, this chick wants to bang me. She's asked me to come over her dorm this weekend for basically some free play. Where the hell is the problem you ask? Well here's the clincher. She is very much over weight. In highschool she was a little chubby which would have been no problem, but I've recently seen her as of late and she's gotten hella bigger. Hella.

I hate to sound shallow about it, but it's what I feel. I still think she's cute as hell, and she has an awesome personality, but I don't know if I'd be able to get over the weight thing (literally and figuratively).

What would you guys do in a situation like this? I've just told her over aim outright that her weight would bother me, but I do like her genuinely and if we were to hang out, I wouldn't stop anything from happening if it felt right. I haven't had any real play since I broke up with my LTR gf over 2 years ago (I got some light play with a chick over this summer which I posted in another thread, but that is a whole nother set of tomatoes).

I know most of you will say I should have plenty of other chicks to relieve myself with or whatever, and I agree, I have no excuse. But my non dj skill are sh!tacular at the moment so humor me for a second or two if you could.

Also, this whole situation sucks because I know how it feels to be turned down over stupid superficial crap like this (I am 6'4 and way too skinny), and here I am perpetuating the same crap. What a hypocritical load of bull I am.

Thanks in advance for any and all honest advice given.

 

[ecvegas]

just let her know you think of her more like sister than anything, and you wouldn't want anything to happen that would ruin that.

 

[manuva]

Don't f*ck fat chicks. They need to learn.

 

[mrRuckus]

Originally posted by dereklearnslow

Also, this whole situation sucks because I know how it feels to be turned down over stupid superficial crap like this (I am 6'4 and way too skinny), and here I am perpetuating the same crap. What a hypocritical load of bull I am.

Thanks in advance for any and all honest advice given.

It's not superficial to be attracted to someone who takes care of their body and not be attracted to someone who does not.

If you are skinny, you can gain weight.

If she is fat, she can lose weight.

Do you really expect a girl to overlook her lack of attraction to you physically because you have everything else going on besides being skinny? You're both either lazy or don't care enough about your current situations to change it so neither of you should complain. It's under your control.

I'm not just visually turned off by a fat chick but their whole mindset repulses me. They are not victims. I love my gf because even though she is friends with some fat chicks she will say "my friend is WEAK." I agree whole heartedly with this. Fat chicks are weak. I will not feel bad for them; i will not apologize for not being attracted to them; and i will mercilessly tease any decent looking guy who has sex with one because he's indicating to her "it's ok to be fat/lazy/disgusting/unhealthy because you can still get laid by a somewhat decent guy."

 

[dereklearnslow]

Yea that makes sense. I've been eating more lately though, lots of potatoes, but my metabolism is pretty crazy. I have to eat alot just to gain a couple of pounds.

Interesting view of the situation there. Guess tough nuts for her then.

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

My man, do w/e the fVck you want. Stop looking for approval. You think she’s really cutie and great personality and you like her then go for it. Don't let outside taste influence yours. Who cares what Joe Blow thinks about fVcking or dating fat chicks. You shouldn't care.

Also it sounds to me she just might want to screw you and that’s it. Hey look at the positive you don't have to work for it and its a great way to practice your skills in bed.

So look man you want to screw her then do it. If you can't stand her cause YOU don't like fat people then don't. But don't do it just because someone tells you not to or your fellow peers thinks its nasty. Because if that’s the case then you got some issues my friend.

Personally I think you like her but just want to hear what everyone else has to say and then decide what to do.

 

[darthsidious]

she must be influenced with a darker method if you want superior perfection. perhaps you and her together can watch lots of porno movies to influence her this is what you want in a woman. you can also get her to perform new sexual techniques with the porno.

 

[Dublinsfinest]

5 fatties are allowed per annum.

Do it.

 

[crowes22]

What would you guys do in a situation like this? I've just told her over aim outright that her weight would bother me, but I do like her genuinely and if we were to hang out, I wouldn't stop anything from happening if it felt right.

Why the hell did you say that? Now she is going to rape you when she gets you alone. You should have stopped right when you got done saying her weight would be a problem.

Anyway, if you do cave and fvck this fat ass hefer you better keep yourself protected, I assure you this cow is looking for a hubby, and a tall thin guy like yourself would fit nicely into her plan I'm sure. And consider that you'll have to be a sketch after you bang her b/c she will be wanting to fvck again all the time. You need to take all these things in to consideration before doing a broad. Plus if this chick is as fat as she sounds, will you be able to get it up?

 

[dereklearnslow]

Eecvegas: I'm not close enough with her to give her the sister speech. It did cross my mind, but it would just seem like BS. The only chick that is like a sister to me, is my sister, and no one else could take her place. I like being honest about things.

Manuva: Ha, you cold as ice, but true to an extent. Just as I need to learn to beef up and get my sh!t together.

Onearmdeejay: Why would I be looking for approval? Not questioning yours or anyone elses knowledge, but I don't know any of you personally and for you to think I'm looking for your approval is almost silly to me. I mostly lurk on this forum and RARELY post, so I please believe me when I say I don't need the a-ok from you guys. I just wanted some outside views on this because it is an extremely unique situation for me and I wasn't sure how to proceed with it, so I asked for other people's VIEWS. Approval be damned.

Like I said, she is cool as hell and very cute, but it's the fat that gets to me. If she lost weight, she'd be at least 7-7.5 HB, easily.

And I'm not looking for practice, as I am very confident in my bed skills. It's just getting there that is the problem.

Darth: Naw ain't gonna happen.

Dublin'sfinest: Ha.

Crowess22: That's a pretty paranoid view of things, but I can't rule it out. Good call.

And I was also worrying about 'keeping it up' if I actually went down with this (which at this point I'm fairly sure I'm not), but I've heard fat chicks give stellar head, so maybe if I just blocked out everything except her cute face, that could have done the trick.

 

[arutha]

As someone said, your standards are different from everyone elses. If you want to, then go for it. I wouldn't though.

Now from your first post it looks like you want an easy way out of it. The simple solution is don't hang around with her alone, always have other people around or be in public places. And don't flirt with her or lead her on in any way.

Give her the LJBF line. 'I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship'

Or I guess you could tell her you have your eye on someone else..