guys,
I have not come on here much lately because of various reasons. I have been experimenting with some tips and tricks and just trying to improve all aspects of my life. here is my problem.
There is this girl i like, let's call her Sheryl. I have known her for a year and a half now and until about 6 months ago, i wanted nothing from her other than friendship.
Time went by and i started to realize these feelings for her. I tried to ignore them, but i would dream at night about her. This would happen at least 3 times a week! I tried ignoring it; fooling around with random girls, saying she was just a friend, etc. but none of it worked. I finally decided to tell her how i felt.
This caught her completely off guard, she said she wanted to just be friends and nothing else. I then proceeded to date other girls over the summer to forget about her. By this time, she had told me i was one of her best friends. I found out at the end of the summer that i was going to be deployed to iraq(a medical kept me out). She was obviously heart broken and i accidentally let slip that i still had feelings for her(we were drinking a little bit)
We then had another talk, which ended the same way as before. I wasnt expecting a yes, and i dont know why i said it in the first place, but it happened.
I then proceeded over this semester to almost completely ignore her. I did not call her for a month because being around her would just upset me. This was in september.
Finally in November, i had this formal dance to go to(college function) and i decided to bring her because she was a good friend and i did not want to bring a random. I had a couple of girls i was looking forward to going out on a date with the following week.
Well, we went to this dance and had a blast. We ended up making out and talking for most of the night(fun times!) She even told me that she thought a relationship would work between the two of us. I talked to her the next day and we then had yet another talk. Obviously i am leaving out all of the cues i had been recieving every time i saw her before this so please do not assume that i was just following this girl around. She said it would be too wierd to do stuff.
I then thought that other things were affecting her decision and not me.
I called her out, saying she was too scared about negative consequences and trying to hide her true feelings. we then talked the next day and everything i had said was right. we have been close friends for a year and she has been going through a lot of tough times(deaths in the family, surgery, school, friends, an almost rape etc.) after that she has had a lot of problems trusting guys. For a month, she did not want a single guy giving her a hug. After our talk, she then initiated another overnight make out session. This all happened last week before thanksgiving break.
We then decided to hang out again this last saturday. We watched a couple of movies and she brought over a bottle of wine that took her over an hour to find(i guess it had to be perfect.) After the movies, we stayed up all night again fooling around. This girl is 20, and has only slept with 2 guys in her life, so it is very important to her. That is why this next part was so surprising. She actually tried to initiate sex, actually asking me if i wanted to. I told her no, it was too early, but she proceeded to try to anyways.
I am not going to brag guys, but out of the three times i have made out with her, i have given her multiple orgasms each night, from just kissing and a little grinding! I was surprised when she told me. I had never done that before
This leads me to now...
She has feelings for me. Whenever we hang out we have a great time, but whenever she goes home she always thinks about why it is not a good idea.(the possibility of losing one of her best friends) This is a smart girl, and she is definately no slut(hasnt had sex in 8 months). That is why i am being thrown off. All of the guys she had previously had sex with she seriously cared about. That is why when she asked on saturday it caught me off guard. Part of the problem is one of the guys was one of her close friends and she decided to date him, and he ended up ****ing her over(see the similarities?). All i want to know is what can i do to reassure her that this is a good thing.
You guys can all say i have oneitis or whatever, but i have dated other girls, and every time i come back to her. I have tried every way to get over this girl, but i can't do it. This site is about personal improvement, and all i know is that right now my life would be a lot better with her in it.
We have fantastic chemistry...she knows it and i do, and we get along great. She is just still not sure what she should do. I wouldnt be writing this email if i didnt think i had a great chance, but i want to know what you guys think i should do...
I have not come on here much lately because of various reasons. I have been experimenting with some tips and tricks and just trying to improve all aspects of my life. here is my problem.
There is this girl i like, let's call her Sheryl. I have known her for a year and a half now and until about 6 months ago, i wanted nothing from her other than friendship.
Time went by and i started to realize these feelings for her. I tried to ignore them, but i would dream at night about her. This would happen at least 3 times a week! I tried ignoring it; fooling around with random girls, saying she was just a friend, etc. but none of it worked. I finally decided to tell her how i felt.
This caught her completely off guard, she said she wanted to just be friends and nothing else. I then proceeded to date other girls over the summer to forget about her. By this time, she had told me i was one of her best friends. I found out at the end of the summer that i was going to be deployed to iraq(a medical kept me out). She was obviously heart broken and i accidentally let slip that i still had feelings for her(we were drinking a little bit)
We then had another talk, which ended the same way as before. I wasnt expecting a yes, and i dont know why i said it in the first place, but it happened.
I then proceeded over this semester to almost completely ignore her. I did not call her for a month because being around her would just upset me. This was in september.
Finally in November, i had this formal dance to go to(college function) and i decided to bring her because she was a good friend and i did not want to bring a random. I had a couple of girls i was looking forward to going out on a date with the following week.
Well, we went to this dance and had a blast. We ended up making out and talking for most of the night(fun times!) She even told me that she thought a relationship would work between the two of us. I talked to her the next day and we then had yet another talk. Obviously i am leaving out all of the cues i had been recieving every time i saw her before this so please do not assume that i was just following this girl around. She said it would be too wierd to do stuff.
I then thought that other things were affecting her decision and not me.
I called her out, saying she was too scared about negative consequences and trying to hide her true feelings. we then talked the next day and everything i had said was right. we have been close friends for a year and she has been going through a lot of tough times(deaths in the family, surgery, school, friends, an almost rape etc.) after that she has had a lot of problems trusting guys. For a month, she did not want a single guy giving her a hug. After our talk, she then initiated another overnight make out session. This all happened last week before thanksgiving break.
We then decided to hang out again this last saturday. We watched a couple of movies and she brought over a bottle of wine that took her over an hour to find(i guess it had to be perfect.) After the movies, we stayed up all night again fooling around. This girl is 20, and has only slept with 2 guys in her life, so it is very important to her. That is why this next part was so surprising. She actually tried to initiate sex, actually asking me if i wanted to. I told her no, it was too early, but she proceeded to try to anyways.
I am not going to brag guys, but out of the three times i have made out with her, i have given her multiple orgasms each night, from just kissing and a little grinding! I was surprised when she told me. I had never done that before
This leads me to now...
She has feelings for me. Whenever we hang out we have a great time, but whenever she goes home she always thinks about why it is not a good idea.(the possibility of losing one of her best friends) This is a smart girl, and she is definately no slut(hasnt had sex in 8 months). That is why i am being thrown off. All of the guys she had previously had sex with she seriously cared about. That is why when she asked on saturday it caught me off guard. Part of the problem is one of the guys was one of her close friends and she decided to date him, and he ended up ****ing her over(see the similarities?). All i want to know is what can i do to reassure her that this is a good thing.
You guys can all say i have oneitis or whatever, but i have dated other girls, and every time i come back to her. I have tried every way to get over this girl, but i can't do it. This site is about personal improvement, and all i know is that right now my life would be a lot better with her in it.
We have fantastic chemistry...she knows it and i do, and we get along great. She is just still not sure what she should do. I wouldnt be writing this email if i didnt think i had a great chance, but i want to know what you guys think i should do...
