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Don Juan
Now my concern is what does she want from me, or does she want anything??????
Huh? Let's stop and think a moment.
She wants something from you. That's why she's contacting you and playing you through her friend, your co-worker.
Flip that answer: if she didn't want anything from you, she wouldn't contact you. And she's playing you through her friend, and playing, as in, by getting you confused, excited, heaping attention and "you're popular, big boy!"-style moves on you.
Ok The thing is all her friend said was "Are you in some kind of School" She didn't say anything about how that relates to my X. I just found that an interesting way to ask a question plus knowing that if she ever wanted to be with me I would have to have a way to support her. I mean am I crazy for assuming that question had to do with my X??? Then like I said later she said "Me and you X was at our workplace" so I also took that as a hint and that was my Q to say something but I ignored it. So I am not sure on what you mean but she is getting me excited confused heaping attention. Since she didn't directly tell me that she is interested in me going to school or anything. As a matter of fact I noticed my X didn't even say I hear you are in school or anything..
Then the next day her friend said ""Me and your X tried to call you last night but she lost your number so I need to get it again"""
Just a pointer here---try out the standard line women use to blow off a guy trying to get their number: "It's not easy to reach me on phone, give me her number instead." They'll know what it means. By all means, DO NOT give these two your number
Well it's to late for that. I already gave her my number 3 weeks ago. She called me once and asked me to come over and declined only due to the things I have been reading here, otherwise I would have ran right over. Now the next day that I declined to go over she decided to come to my workplace and her , her friend and myself where supose to go to lunch.. Now I have not heard from her since that day. So I don't know what is going on....
My point behind all of this is to find out why she is talking to me again.
Get this: it doesn't matter "why". That's a useless, low-value question for you. Asking "why" is often very necessary and useful, but recognize when it isn't. This is one of those times. Obsess about it all you want, you will only hurt yourself and be more easily confused and played by them.
Basic answer: she wants something---attention (of course) and my guess is she wants you so that she isn't alone, or as backup because the thing with the other guy isn't working out, or--simply--for amusement.
The actual, real, honest-to-goodness "why" of it---??? Immaterial. It doesn't matter. It could be anything. The guys have given a few pretty good guesses here, but even those were provided as an aside to their main point that she's playing and you need to keep some distance between you and her and her friend.
You could even ask her straight up, but she won't ever give you a straight answer. There's an off-chance you could get her friend drunk to the point of brain-damage and see if she says why (but it'll probably be so slurred you wouldn't understand it...)
I think she is talking to me again because I am in School and I would be able to support her in the future and she is going to drag me along until she needs me or that she does want to be with me and I can't support her at this time. She dropped out of college and her family lives over an hour away whom she doesn't get along with so if her boyfriend ever left her she would be out on the streets...
Sure--could be that. You're overthinking this. You're probably right, too. You want any involvement with her based on this--???
Ok I may me nuts here but The way I think is that you are telling me she is playing me because she may be using me as a back-up plan or to use me if she breaks up with this other guy. But really say she wants me bad "like Courteney Cox does" What can I expect from her to leave her boyfriend to be with me and she can sleep in my room and share an apartment with me, my sister and my mom and dad?? I just think she may in fact want me and that is holding her back but now that I am in school there may be a possibilty that she can in fact be with me. By the way Thanks alot for the replies I really do appreciate it........ I just have to figure out her intentions are.....
Huh? Let's stop and think a moment.
She wants something from you. That's why she's contacting you and playing you through her friend, your co-worker.
Flip that answer: if she didn't want anything from you, she wouldn't contact you. And she's playing you through her friend, and playing, as in, by getting you confused, excited, heaping attention and "you're popular, big boy!"-style moves on you.
Ok The thing is all her friend said was "Are you in some kind of School" She didn't say anything about how that relates to my X. I just found that an interesting way to ask a question plus knowing that if she ever wanted to be with me I would have to have a way to support her. I mean am I crazy for assuming that question had to do with my X??? Then like I said later she said "Me and you X was at our workplace" so I also took that as a hint and that was my Q to say something but I ignored it. So I am not sure on what you mean but she is getting me excited confused heaping attention. Since she didn't directly tell me that she is interested in me going to school or anything. As a matter of fact I noticed my X didn't even say I hear you are in school or anything..
Then the next day her friend said ""Me and your X tried to call you last night but she lost your number so I need to get it again"""
Just a pointer here---try out the standard line women use to blow off a guy trying to get their number: "It's not easy to reach me on phone, give me her number instead." They'll know what it means. By all means, DO NOT give these two your number
Well it's to late for that. I already gave her my number 3 weeks ago. She called me once and asked me to come over and declined only due to the things I have been reading here, otherwise I would have ran right over. Now the next day that I declined to go over she decided to come to my workplace and her , her friend and myself where supose to go to lunch.. Now I have not heard from her since that day. So I don't know what is going on....
My point behind all of this is to find out why she is talking to me again.
Get this: it doesn't matter "why". That's a useless, low-value question for you. Asking "why" is often very necessary and useful, but recognize when it isn't. This is one of those times. Obsess about it all you want, you will only hurt yourself and be more easily confused and played by them.
Basic answer: she wants something---attention (of course) and my guess is she wants you so that she isn't alone, or as backup because the thing with the other guy isn't working out, or--simply--for amusement.
The actual, real, honest-to-goodness "why" of it---??? Immaterial. It doesn't matter. It could be anything. The guys have given a few pretty good guesses here, but even those were provided as an aside to their main point that she's playing and you need to keep some distance between you and her and her friend.
You could even ask her straight up, but she won't ever give you a straight answer. There's an off-chance you could get her friend drunk to the point of brain-damage and see if she says why (but it'll probably be so slurred you wouldn't understand it...)
I think she is talking to me again because I am in School and I would be able to support her in the future and she is going to drag me along until she needs me or that she does want to be with me and I can't support her at this time. She dropped out of college and her family lives over an hour away whom she doesn't get along with so if her boyfriend ever left her she would be out on the streets...
Sure--could be that. You're overthinking this. You're probably right, too. You want any involvement with her based on this--???
Ok I may me nuts here but The way I think is that you are telling me she is playing me because she may be using me as a back-up plan or to use me if she breaks up with this other guy. But really say she wants me bad "like Courteney Cox does" What can I expect from her to leave her boyfriend to be with me and she can sleep in my room and share an apartment with me, my sister and my mom and dad?? I just think she may in fact want me and that is holding her back but now that I am in school there may be a possibilty that she can in fact be with me. By the way Thanks alot for the replies I really do appreciate it........ I just have to figure out her intentions are.....
She actually asked me to watch the kid once after we broke up. I took it as a joke at the time but I suppose she must of been serious.