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[Leviskiama]

What are your views on a man who has shunned the dating,and women in general, to concentrate and building himself aiming to embark on those later? Is it missing anything if one believes you still have the time to do them later(F.Y.I; I'm my early 20s and I feel I can focus on my ambitions first independent of any dating stuff)

 

[Dr.Suave]

U are still young. You can have the luxury of ignoring girls for a couple of years while u work on improving all the other areas of your life. I say go for it.

 

[Bokanovsky]

What are your views on a man who has shunned the dating,and women in general, to concentrate and building himself aiming to embark on those later? Is it missing anything if one believes you still have the time to do them later(F.Y.I; I'm my early 20s and I feel I can focus on my ambitions first independent of any dating stuff)

It doesn't work like that. Unless you are gay or asexual, you will need to have women in your life in one way or another. Otherwise, you will feel unhappy and unfulfilled and that will, in turn, negatively affect your ability to work on your other goals. I'm not saying that your life should revolve around women but at the same time, they are not a switch that you can simply turn off and then turn back on several years later without any consequences for your mental well-being. Balance is key.

 

[Black Widow Void]

I see that you’re new.Welcome aboard.

If you have a formula that you’re comfortable with, and seems to be working, then (in my opinion) that’s all that should matter.

The only thing I would caution against, is if your ‘outlet’ is through watching too much porn and/or spanking it too much.

The reason is because you’d be training your brain to react to artificial stimuli and may temporarily have difficulty - when the real thing waits.

I understand where you are. Back when I was studying, I had to put women on hold. In addition to their gripes (of not spending enough time with them) their drama can occupy real estate in our head; which can kill concentration and focus.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

What are your views on a man who has shunned the dating,and women in general, to concentrate and building himself aiming to embark on those later? Is it missing anything if one believes you still have the time to do them later(F.Y.I; I'm my early 20s and I feel I can focus on my ambitions first independent of any dating stuff)

Being a man is a matter of choice, decisions, experience. You are a male if you are born with a penis, but that's not the same as being a man. My point is it is your responsibility and path to becoming a man. And to become a man you need to focus on your purpose and path alone for a while. Women can often, if not always, be a distraction.

Being in your 20s is the best time to make those decisions and solidify that mindset. So do that.


Modern Man Advice

 

[Konada]

I would say dedicate some time to learning these stuff or at least involve yourself in some activities where you have to interact with females e.g. salsa dancing, ballroom etc. Like the other poster said, you can't really put it on pause because the yearning will always be there like it or not.

Took me about 7 years on this forum to fully internalize being happy alone and having the confidence in myself. So yes, I would advise to start now so your SMV peaks at the same time you have this nailed down.

 

[Leviskiama]

I see that you’re new.Welcome aboard.

If you have a formula that you’re comfortable with, and seems to be working, then (in my opinion) that’s all that should matter.

The only thing I would caution against, is if your ‘outlet’ is through watching too much porn and/or spanking it too much.

The reason is because you’d be training your brain to react to artificial stimuli and may temporarily have difficulty - when the real thing waits.

I understand where you are. Back when I was studying, I had to put women on hold. In addition to their gripes (of not spending enough time with them) their drama can occupy real estate in our head; which can kill concentration and focus.

I can say things are just okay,but it's only the fear of regretting not indulging in women that I'm scared of

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I couldn’t do that. But. You be you. Everyone is different.

 

[Black Widow Void]

I can say things are just okay,but it's only the fear of regretting not indulging in women that I'm scared of

This perspective provides a totally different approach.

In your 20s, we are considered in our prime. This means, hair loss typically hasn’t occurred yet, and the women aren’t nearly as damaged, nor carrying as much baggage.

Once in our 30s, we are either competing with college kids for younger women, or women who are passed over or bitter… In their late 20s early 30s.

it’s up to you, but your 20s will likely be the highlight. I wouldn’t pass those years by if I were you.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I don't believe in shutting off a side of yourself at any point in time. Life is about balance, and nothing screams lack of balance more than someone who basically focuses on something else so much they have to give up another area of their life.

 

[DonJuanjr]

it’s up to you, but your 20s will likely be the highlight. I wouldn’t pass those years by if I were you.

Yeah what bwv said... I did this, and HIGHLY regret it.

 

[Striker_93]

Young man you have plenty of time and opportunity, you haven't even started life yet, technically you can do whatever you like at this point, take advantage