Help me to resist the Devil (I.E. hb10++ but is totally dangerous)

[grinder]

The big question is WHY resist a total hottie 25 years younger than I whose interest level is sky high.

A year ago, as a total AFC, I would happily be her pet, chained in the basement…..but, as we know, only temporarily until her IL inevitably dropped.

So what are some big NO NO’s we have learned here with women:

1) Don’t mess with coworkers.
2) Don’t waste your time with a married chick because everyone loses in the end.
3) Long distance relationships suck and put you at a disadvantage to her.

I’ve got all 3 strikes but knowing everything I do from here I’m not sure I can stop myself.

Did I mention she was ultra hot?

Lame game, no other plates, you say? No, not the case. I have two other plates but I’m losing interest in them fast. That’s why I am posting.

Did I mention she was ultra hot? Can’t seem to get past that. Jesus, Buddha, and Mohammed help me.

 

[azanon]

If you're single, forget about her. The world is your playground. If you're married, that's the perfect scenario (Long distance is a + (easier to not get caught), married is a + (means she stands to lose as much as you do), coworkers is a -, but she's long distance, so who cares)..

 

[grinder]

I’m divorced. At first I thought it was the old AFC rearing its ugly head, but this is high-risk stuff (still could be AFC though, it’s so insidious). I have not pulled the trigger yet, but next week is the turning point. I’ll be making a decision.

I keep thinking I could pull it off, but the risks are: a) get fired, b) nasty scene with husband, and, of course, c) lose girl for becoming a needy puss-boy.

I'll be the first to beoytch-slap myself for this, because, why go to all this trouble? I have let her get in my head SOME and fvck with my thinking.

 

[disfunktional]

Sounds like some high risks to me, is any woman worth losing your job over, even if she is ultra hot? I don't think so personally, I'd steer clear.

peace

df

 

[DoubleA]

Why don't u go ahead and stick it? LOL!

No. How about hanging out with her and meeting more women?

I don't see anything wrong with it as long as YOU COME CORRECT AND TELL HER WHAT THE DEAL IS.

shhyyyttteee.

Tell her you both work together and past experiences have been BAD when YOU take it to another level with a coworker. Period.

If she says she won't tell...HA AHAshahs aha. Maaaaannn.

I can't tell you how too live ya life, but all I know is someone is going to be in that hole that she is leaving open for you.

No one is asking you to marry her and supprt her kids...if so..PEACE.

USE HER AS SHE MIGHT BE USING YOU.

They call it in nature a...

SYMBIOTIC RELATIONSHIP.

Most will disagree but, how many times have you had a chick willing to stand in ya sites. I say hangout with her to meet other women. Let her do her thing. Have that kind of relationship before trying to smash it..

- AA

 

[joekerr31]

cocaine is awesome. you should go buy some cocaine. i mean seriously, it will make you feel like you are in heaven.

so are you going to go buy some cocaine?

of course you aren't! why? becuase you know that you sniff that sh*t that youll want more. and before you know it youll be spending your life savings away, losing your job, and killing yourself physically.

now in your post you are basically saying to us "I know i shouldn't get with this girl, but god i want to because it would feel so good. what should i do guys?"

the answer is you should forget about this chic and move on. you've built her up into something she probably isn't anyway. and because of that you are also killing any potential you might have with other women.

im only confident of this because the reality is that if you didn't feel this was the WRONG thing to do (get with her that is) you wouldnt have posted here. we would never have heard of your scenario - you'd have just gone and banged her.

you're posting here hoping that someone will either
a) provide you with a reason why you should go bang her (becuase despite your own efforts you can't find on ethat makes sense)
b) someone will provide you with a reason why you shouldn't bang her that is so compelling that you'll be able to cut loose of this chic in your head.

i dont know all the details, but from the little that you posted, im leaning towards walking away from this scenario.

 

[grinder]

cocaine is awesome. you should go buy some cocaine. i mean seriously, it will make you feel like you are in heaven.

so are you going to go buy some cocaine?

of course you aren't! why? becuase you know that you sniff that sh*t that youll want more. and before you know it youll be spending your life savings away, losing your job, and killing yourself physically.

now in your post you are basically saying to us "I know i shouldn't get with this girl, but god i want to because it would feel so good. what should i do guys?"

the answer is you should forget about this chic and move on. you've built her up into something she probably isn't anyway. and because of that you are also killing any potential you might have with other women.

im only confident of this because the reality is that if you didn't feel this was the WRONG thing to do (get with her that is) you wouldnt have posted here. we would never have heard of your scenario - you'd have just gone and banged her.

you're posting here hoping that someone will either
a) provide you with a reason why you should go bang her (becuase despite your own efforts you can't find on ethat makes sense)
b) someone will provide you with a reason why you shouldn't bang her that is so compelling that you'll be able to cut loose of this chic in your head.

i dont know all the details, but from the little that you posted, im leaning towards walking away from this scenario.

Damn, that is a good analogy. She is like cocaine. The details are, I have let her get into my head and fvck with my thinking. I LET that happen. Nobody to blame but me.

I’ve had two days to clear my head, but tomorrow, as Victory Unlimited would put it, I’m going to be under attack again.

The more I think about it the more I realize I have been slipping into AFC thinking: weak, passive, not taking responsibility for my actions, and now that my other plates are dropping, desperate.

Thanks to this place I learned how to get them interested in me. I’ve spent very little time learning what to do next.

The other side of it is I’ve been a skateboarder for 32 years now (I’ve got the x-rays to prove it) and I do love to take risks. I’m trying to grow up and make smarter decisions (I haven’t broken a bone in almost a whole year).

I appreciate the input.

 

[MightyMate]

Id hit her once.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Here's the reason why YOU shouldn't mess with this situation. Because, your an AFC, at least when you talk about this girl. She's captivated you and the risk is enticing your wild side. The fact that she's already clouding your better judgement is a scary warning sign. This would be a great situation for a seasoned player who didn't give a fuvk about the girl or her life.

I think more harm than good can/will come from this situation. To me it seems like your mind's already made up but you want to act like your debating it.

I know it might seem innocent and harmless now. But what happens next week or next month when she's around again? Your obession will grow into a full-fledge one-itis monster and will make you loose everything you've worked so hard to attain.




PIMP

 

[grinder]

Here's the reason why YOU shouldn't mess with this situation. Because, your an AFC, at least when you talk about this girl. She's captivated you and the risk is enticing your wild side. The fact that she's already clouding your better judgement is a scary warning sign. This would be a great situation for a seasoned player who didn't give a fuvk about the girl or her life.

I think more harm than good can/will come from this situation. To me it seems like your mind's already made up but you want to act like your debating it.

I know it might seem innocent and harmless now. But what happens next week or next month when she's around again? Your obession will grow into a full-fledge one-itis monster and will make you loose everything you've worked so hard to attain.

PIMP

PIMP, you are right on most of this, on this girl I am slipping to AFC mode. I am not a seasoned player; I’ve got 6 months at the most of getting it.

I had not made up my mind, but that’s still weak, because if I’m not decisive, and she pushes so hard, if I’m passive, it’s the same as saying “yes”.

The fact that’s I’m writing a word on this is a bad sign. I haven’t taken any of her calls though this weekend. Because its work I can’t do a total cut off. I’ve decided to do a slow pull away, stop DJing her, and pretty much work on being boring and uninteresting.

I’m going to get tested hard in about 3 hours. Because I didn’t answer her calls this weekend she’s going to cry and be pissed and I really only care because its work and it will be a scene. Now THAT pisses me off, but only at myself.

It’s a fresh week, need to get back into digit-getting mode. My goal is 3 new ones this week. That’ll help.

 

[Vulpine]

Grinder, I'm going to make a special little update in my "rebirth" thread just for you, check it out.

 

[grinder]

Update

Guess I was flattering myself thinking she’d be all crying because I did not return her calls. Not one tear, just a “I wish you’d fvcking die…..I never want to talk to you….bla bla bla”.

Yep, I was un DJ and lost my cool too.

I’m probably not out of the woods yet, but she certainly helped put my “slow and steady withdrawal” on the fast-track.

Lesson being processed….hopefully learned.

Onward.

 

[joekerr31]

hahahaha.

very few people ever acheive high quality status.

can you imagine gandhi calling you and you not returning his call and then next time you saw him, him saying "f*ck off and die." (yes i know gandhi is dead, just an analogy)

hahaha.

rule one in life, keep toxic people OUT of your life - even if they are a hot chic that you want to bang.