Help me. something wrong with my head.. limp d*ck

[onehundred]

hey.. this here is something that's been running through my mind constantly for a few days now.. _erection_ ..

i have been with girls but it's always been me who have ended things by leaving or just saying no. everytime i think about it i could almost cry for being so stupid for letting go of great opportunities to gain experience. they say they're surprised when i say i'm not experienced, so maybe i really know how to handle a woman, until it's time to go in. because that's when the fun stuff begin. i lose my erection, i feel like my d*ck hates me or something. it's all the way up during fore play or whatever.. from the first time i touch her. It's been bugging me for quite a while now but now i just can't pretend i'm ok anymore..
i have this girl i've been seeing for maybe 3 months, not so often though, except now for the holidays. we have spent a few nights together.. we're both inexperienced, she likes me, i like her, she wants me, i want her. feels like my **** just doesn't. Of course now she thinks that she's the one to blame because she can't excite me enough.. but i refuse to think about it that way.. there's something in my head that i need to get out now before i let go of this girl.. cause she's really turning out to be the gf material i've been searching for.

i really need some advice on this.. maybe i'm nervous because i like her, maybe i'm nervous because i'm not experienced.. but i have tried not to think about anything else but just having fun but it just doesn't help. it just goes numb when i feel she's ready. this thing has built a lot of emotional pressure on both sides and i'm about to crack if i can't solve this problem. i've searched the forum archives and found out that i'm not the only one. any comments on this subject would be appreciated!

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

You are nervous yes.... Start easier... Get her to feel you up, kiss etc, play with eachother... Do what it takes to get you hard... Then let her jerk you off or suck you off... See if you can hold the errection then... If you can start moving on to sex. Get more comfortable with eachothers sexuality.

 

[Big Pappy]

I've had that happen to me in my younger days. I found out it was related to trust issues. Apparently, the little head was getting some orders on the subconcious level from the big head. I'm sure in your case, it's just a case of nerves. As for what to do about it, try beer.

 

[Blurred Elevens]

You might be gay.

 

[Player_Supreme]

1. Your just nervous playboy. Let her know of your nervousness and inexperience...she will find this facinating and will do all the work.

2. Women love this kind of challenge...use it! Just lay back and let her go to work...she will need to put her mouth on it for a while before you guys do the deed...while she does that , try to think about nasty thoughts or situations that excite you...or picture the last porno that you've seen in your head.

 

[Analysis]

Heres what you do...

What's up....Man,
This is a situation that every guy will experience at least one time in his life.....There are alot of things that can affect a mans erection...diabetics, not getting enough sleep, bad eating habits, smoking, drugs, stress....etc. etc....but I assume that you are young...so I don't think it is any of these things....I think its inexperiece and performance anxiety....The media and shows like Sex in the City says that you have to bang it out..and if your a man you'll hit it right....The worst thing you want to do is try to pass the " Man Test ".....because you will fail every time...When you set these high standards, you will never live up to those expectations...You also need to do away with the negative thinking....Your thinking should be that I'm going to have a fun time w/ my girl...That's it....If you get an erection, cool...if you don't cool....but don't think about the erection...Do you think about breathing...No...It's a natural thing...If you started to think about breathing, you would start breathing in an inconsistent way......Play around w/ her...engage in oral sex..You **** is not supposed to be hard 24/7....even porn stars ****s are not hard the whole timel....So kill that misconception...Another thing is make sure you are w/ a girl who is caring, considerate and that you trust...A girl who truly has your best interest in mind will make you feel good which will translate into an erection....The key thing is do not think about it....Your not gay if you have the desire to sleep w/ women...It normal for a guy to see a women who is attractive and not get an erection.....You just need to relax and do the things above.....If it persist, then go see the doctor........Peace Out...

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Don't generalize... I've neverEVEREVEREVER had any penisproblems..... I actually have too much of an erection.. I even managed to get it up noproblem in minus 20 degrees celsius dirt drunk.

Some people will of course have problems, but not everyone.

 

[Analysis]

I said sometime in your life..You havn't lived your whole life yet...and nothing is ever absolute..There is always exceptions...but the majority will....Saying a dude is going to get aroused everytime is like saying a female is going to get wet everytime....Its not a penisproblem....A female can play around w/ a softpenis w/ no prob....I think alot of dudes are scared to have a female play around w/ the softpenis...The key thing is to relax...Have fun....Its not that serious...

 

[gmm567]

Relax

Spend more time with her and get comfortable with her.


Talk about this! Talk. Talk . talk.


You may not be that hard all the time. You might be somewhat limp at times. It's probably natural. It's just not rock hard every time.

It happened to me. With a pair of 36 c's. AN awesome sexy babe. ****ed her hard 4 times. One of those times it was rock hard. The other 3 times it was semi hard. Talk with her. I gave robin 1 screaming orgasim . 35 % of women can have an orgasim thorugh vaginal sex, the rest cannot!!!!!!! With the rest it takes direct ****oral stimulation. So with them that's the story. Being semi limp sometimes is probably natural.

You're just not rock hard all the time. Relax and enjoy.


Geoff

 

[onehundred]

thanks for your comments..

i went to her house tonight and we had a good time. nothing much really but after this i know we'll be much more comfortable with each other.. and i trust her. maybe tomorrow then
i really dont think beer would solve this problem.. i've been drunk (a little and a little too much) and it's still the same..
I quit smoking a few days back because of this thing.. hopefully i wont light another one ever again..
..and i am not gay