help me! in a time of depression and doubt!

[noirsake]

Where to begin..
I've been feeling kind of down about myself lately.Ive been studying the ways of the Don Juan for over a year now and i feel knowledgeable enough to get my lazy ass out there and finally get laid. Except theres one problem, I get negative thoughts every time I make eye contact with a girl and I don't proceed with the game that I have learned through SoSuave. I can't even say a simple hello to a 7. I just start coming up with all these negative thoughts in my head like "I'm not good looking" "she wont respond" "shes just gonna tell me off and make me look like a dumb ass" etc, you get the point. Recently, I was diagnosed with depression and thats not helping me one bit. I can't make myself initiate a conversation with any girl, good looking or not. I've had all these 7s,8s, and 9s sit next to me in class and I just cant get myself to talk to them (obviously when not in session lol) and that is something DJs would totally take advantage of. Once again its the negativity going through my head. I KNOW I'm ready to go and nail the numbers left and right. its just I can't get myself to. I know how to, its just my brain says "OMG NO!! YOUR JUST GONNA MAKE YOURSELF LOOK LIKE SOME LAME GEEK ATTEMPTING A PICK UP!!" and well, I listen and I Don't take advantage of opportunities...some really good ones too lol..

All advice accepted, good or bad. I need some way to overcome this negativity. ><

 

[Pappadapolis]

Where to begin..
I've been feeling kind of down about myself lately.Ive been studying the ways of the Don Juan for over a year now and i feel knowledgeable enough to get my lazy ass out there and finally get laid. Except theres one problem, I get negative thoughts every time I make eye contact with a girl and I don't proceed with the game that I have learned through SoSuave. I can't even say a simple hello to a 7. I just start coming up with all these negative thoughts in my head like "I'm not good looking" "she wont respond" "shes just gonna tell me off and make me look like a dumb ass" etc, you get the point. Recently, I was diagnosed with depression and thats not helping me one bit. I can't make myself initiate a conversation with any girl, good looking or not. I've had all these 7s,8s, and 9s sit next to me in class and I just cant get myself to talk to them (obviously when not in session lol) and that is something DJs would totally take advantage of. Once again its the negativity going through my head. I KNOW I'm ready to go and nail the numbers left and right. its just I can't get myself to. I know how to, its just my brain says "OMG NO!! YOUR JUST GONNA MAKE YOURSELF LOOK LIKE SOME LAME GEEK ATTEMPTING A PICK UP!!" and well, I listen and I Don't take advantage of opportunities...some really good ones too lol..

All advice accepted, good or bad. I need some way to overcome this negativity. ><

The only way to overcome it is too go out there, ask, and be rejected. There is nothing else. Your fear is normal for anyone starting out, but it does become easier. I do pretty well for myself and I close on about 2 out of 5 chicks I approach which means I get rejected by 3 of those 5. I don't get told told anything nasty, most times they just give some BS. Just start with some 0's -5's if you have to.

 

[Bible_Belt]

You have to find a way to have fun with it and enjoy yourself. That way the outcome does not matter. I like cf neg hits that I actually think are funny; dangerous shoes, big purse, whatever. If you really do think what you are saying is humorous, then you will smile when you say it, she will laugh at herself - and then you're in.

 

[superchristx]

You should play a sport, just something informal you'll feel better, 1000x better and that alone will make you more attractive. That's a fact man you know it, and nobody will care if you don't play well. There are sports during winter and summer too, and heated indoor basketball courts. A coed league will be full of great lookin girls.

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

use the 3 sec rule, dont think, just walk up, offer your hand and say hi, dont 4get 2 smile.

 

[Slim Ironwood]

Having been diagnosed with depression will always give you an excuse for feeling the way you do.

You just need to diagnose yourself with unbreakable confidence. Pay a woman to dress up as a doctor and write it down if you have to.