Help me figure out the "Ego Vampirella!"

[GuitarPlayer]

A woman I work with.

Her modus operandi:

1. In essence, make a guy think that she has a crush on him, or at least a serious interest, then shoot him down if he ever makes a move. Her usual target is a guy she senses has low self-esteem, or is needy, etc....

2. Goes around afterwards saying things like, "Oopsie. I must have accidently given him the wrong signals." She then proceeds to have a good laugh with her friends about the poor guy in question.

3. Adds this guy to her "collection" of fools that fell for her game.

The woman in question is a co-worker of mine. She has pulled this exact game on several other men in our company; play the game, then shoot them down when they respond, then basically laugh at them.

So here is my question: she has played this game with me off and on over the past few years. I never responded because I was married until my wife passed away a few months ago. I've been told to avoid because I'm "not her type," since she likes big (6-foot plus) bruiser types, BUT.... a few years ago, she played the game on a guy here who is shorter than me, he asked her out, and she WENT.

So, what do you think?

 

[GuitarPlayer]

Also, I forgot this part:

Someone will probably say to just ask her out and put the whole matter to rest. The problem is, if she shoots me down, I DO NOT need to be made a laughing stock around here. No, I'm not terrified of rejection, but this is my workplace and a large part of my social circle.

 

[Warlord]

No, the problem is YOU. "if she shoots me down" - YOU NEVER EVEN ASKED HER OUT. Some guys out there are clueless and don't know how to read body signals, just because she's hot doesn't mean she is bangable right away. How would you like it if girls kept flirting and talking to you for several months and weren't doing anything about it? Yep, you'd probably plan to shoot them down because you yourself are playing the "stalling" game.

 

[italostud]

Stay away...stay away...stay away.

If with this girl you play, with your job you will pay.


Hahaha, I should have been a poet.

 

[ethnomethodologist]

Treat her like a friend?

Don't treat her like you want to go out with her! Why are you just planning on playing into her hands. You want to be like water and slip through her grimy fingers... You don't want t put yourself on a damned plate, that's just whack!

I know what kind of girl your talking about, I've been the guy who she came up to to laugh with. I got a good laugh, but despise them at the same time. Whatchoo gotta do, is treat her like a friend, be the guy she's NEVER gonna get with.

Act like she's just one of the guys, tell her you and a few buddies are going for some beer. Tell her to bring some hot friends. Tell her your not hitting on her, you know her 'game'. Just be straight up truthful. Tell her like you were talking to a guy how you would deal with girls like her when she questions you.

There is no difference in thinking, just differences in perception. That is where you and the other guys who got shot down are at. She's stringin the guys along, and than dumping them for a laugh. Women aren't supposed to feel that type of emotional connection, their brains aren't hardwired for the schadenfreude like guys are, they're sympathetic to pain. The thing is her brain is obviously different, and it is, she's got problems, so I'd say stay away if your looking for LT relations with her.

You've got to treat the girl like she's fun to hang out with, and rag on her when she's boring. Treat her like she's an AFC, but assume she knows more. Treat her like anything she says that is speacial, ain't so special, call her BS. If she acts all big, play that game, it's fun. If she acts small, pretend your smaller, it's a damned competition.

Some girls expect sympathy, she obviously doesn't.

Neg, C+F, hard to get, difficult, insulting at times, teasing, jealous. You can let your negative emotions soar with this girl.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Don't shit where you eat.

 

[Vulpine]

A couple things here:

Co-worker = no

Even if this chick was a smokin' 9, she would drop at least 2 points in hotness just for being a cvnt. Factor in that she's a co-worker, she's down a couple more points. So now, we're looking at a 5, at best. If you had any kind of self-respect, you wouldn't give this b!tch the time of day. When you start knowing that you are way too good for her, she'll come after you.

 

[SamePendo]

Accuse her of staring at you and looking at your butt, and asking you out or something alike. Tell her like if she's a small girl that keeps insisting on you playing with you, and tell her that "NOooooooooo I do NOT want to have anything with you, I do NOT find you attractive, I do NOT find you friendly, please stop this" In front of other people, make it sound as if she's made some comments to you or whatever, exagerate whatever she has done. But don't do it totally offensive, because public opinion will turn against you, do it in control. Public opinion will do the rest and put a end to her vampirish dominion.

 

[GuitarPlayer]

Originally posted by Vulpine
A couple things here:

Co-worker = no

Even if this chick was a smokin' 9, she would drop at least 2 points in hotness just for being a cvnt. Factor in that she's a co-worker, she's down a couple more points. So now, we're looking at a 5, at best. If you had any kind of self-respect, you wouldn't give this b!tch the time of day. When you start knowing that you are way too good for her, she'll come after you.

I think you just nailed it, Bro. I added emphasis to the "knowing" part.