Hey Dee-zy I was agreeing with your advice actually. You should re-read the paragraph that you quoted from me. I was referring to dave's post when I wrote that paragraph, not yours. I really appreciate your advice and anyone elses. Right now I am leaning towards doing what you have suggested actually, just wanted to know what other DJs thought of it.
Help me DJs. Is she a friend or does she want more?
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Well, I read the novel you wrote that is in your signature and according to what you have posted there I havent dug myself in too deep yet. You dont reccomend kissing on the first date, and I didnt. We went on an "action" date and I havent called her yet (been 4 days, you recommend 5-7 days after a date).
If you dont want to give me any more advice then I dont know why you keep reading this thread and replying, but either way I'm glad I read the thread in your signature, you seem to know your s h i t.
If you dont want to give me any more advice then I dont know why you keep reading this thread and replying, but either way I'm glad I read the thread in your signature, you seem to know your s h i t.
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Drex,
This girl clearly had interest in you to begin with, and she was playing absolutely no games. There is no reason you should wait 7 days to call her, ESPECIALLY if you didn't give her any action that night. Because you haven't asserted yourself yet, she is definately going to think you aren't interested and you will have to re-heat her up to get her into the mindset to be seduced again.
Stop over-analyzing everything. Call her and setup a weeknight date just the two of you. Then get her back to your place and make out with her and fvck her! It's really simple. Don't be afraid of success. You're sabotaging yourself right now.
Don't think. Just DO.
Jake
This girl clearly had interest in you to begin with, and she was playing absolutely no games. There is no reason you should wait 7 days to call her, ESPECIALLY if you didn't give her any action that night. Because you haven't asserted yourself yet, she is definately going to think you aren't interested and you will have to re-heat her up to get her into the mindset to be seduced again.
Stop over-analyzing everything. Call her and setup a weeknight date just the two of you. Then get her back to your place and make out with her and fvck her! It's really simple. Don't be afraid of success. You're sabotaging yourself right now.
Don't think. Just DO.
Jake
Update:
Called her today and was pretty straight to the point. Started with "Hey good lookin" and we chatted very briefly (2 min). I finished with "How's dinner sound for tomorrow night?" and without hessitation she said she had a doctors appointment at 5:30 but that she would most likely be able to still go tomorrow night afterwards and that she would call me back. Sounded pretty enthusiastic and I am sure the excuse (not really an excuse) was genuine since she did not hessitate at all and she didnt drag any of her words (ie- "wellllll").
So it sounds like we will definately be going out again, not positive whether it will be tomorrow night or not. Problem is that tomorrow is the only night I could possibly go out with her until next week. Working every other night this week and going to a party on my only other night off.
Question - Should I call her back tomorrow afternoon if I do not hear back from her? I'm not positive but the way she worded it, it sounded like she said she would call after she got back from her appointment but I am not positive. If so then that will be a somewhat late dinner and at the spur of the moment not to mention.
Anyways, I think the situation is still good for me overall. Just dont know whether I'll see her this week or next.
Called her today and was pretty straight to the point. Started with "Hey good lookin" and we chatted very briefly (2 min). I finished with "How's dinner sound for tomorrow night?" and without hessitation she said she had a doctors appointment at 5:30 but that she would most likely be able to still go tomorrow night afterwards and that she would call me back. Sounded pretty enthusiastic and I am sure the excuse (not really an excuse) was genuine since she did not hessitate at all and she didnt drag any of her words (ie- "wellllll").
So it sounds like we will definately be going out again, not positive whether it will be tomorrow night or not. Problem is that tomorrow is the only night I could possibly go out with her until next week. Working every other night this week and going to a party on my only other night off.
Question - Should I call her back tomorrow afternoon if I do not hear back from her? I'm not positive but the way she worded it, it sounded like she said she would call after she got back from her appointment but I am not positive. If so then that will be a somewhat late dinner and at the spur of the moment not to mention.
Anyways, I think the situation is still good for me overall. Just dont know whether I'll see her this week or next.
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Let her call you. If she's interested she'll call...nothing else you can really do at this point.
Next!
Well sorta...She called me right when she got outa her doc appointment. She was diagnosed with something (nothing bad, nothing gross, some minor muscle thing) and she said she wasnt feeling up to going out after the doctor had been messing around with her joint for an hour. Said she was busy all week but that she'd like to take a "raincheck" for next week and that she'd call me later this week around Sunday. Said sure thing and ended conversation.
I think if she still really had a high IL she'd have gone out tonight because it is still early. But then again maybe she really was sore.
She said she'd call me later this week but I know we will see each other online (messanger) as early as tomorrow morning. I should just ignore her right? Let her message me first if at all? Or would it be polite to ask her how she's feelin?
Well sorta...She called me right when she got outa her doc appointment. She was diagnosed with something (nothing bad, nothing gross, some minor muscle thing) and she said she wasnt feeling up to going out after the doctor had been messing around with her joint for an hour. Said she was busy all week but that she'd like to take a "raincheck" for next week and that she'd call me later this week around Sunday. Said sure thing and ended conversation.
I think if she still really had a high IL she'd have gone out tonight because it is still early. But then again maybe she really was sore.
She said she'd call me later this week but I know we will see each other online (messanger) as early as tomorrow morning. I should just ignore her right? Let her message me first if at all? Or would it be polite to ask her how she's feelin?
It could be polite, but it might not be attractive. Who ****ing knows. I had this girl break a date and give me some line about how she was all stressed out and had family drama going on and all this crap. After not hearing from her for a few days or a week, I left a message and said something like 'just wanted to see how you're feelin' and she went as far as leaving me a voicemail to say how nice it was that I called her to see how she was, but she totally never called back after that at all! Completely mixed signals... it was a good learning experience though. Rainchecks, saying oh Im sorry lets do it again another time.. that crap can mean the exact opposite of what they say!!!! Bottom line she broke off the date. Actions speak louder than words
I say next her, don't even try to contact her at all.
If she does indeed call you back, then you can remove the next status and resume trying to bed her.
I say next her, don't even try to contact her at all.
If she does indeed call you back, then you can remove the next status and resume trying to bed her.
That's exactly what I am doing. And you're right, asking her how she feels is totally AFC. I'll just ignore her online and see if she messages me. We did not have a date planned for tonight (officially). She said she was going to call me after her doctor's appointment; which she did. I was just completely expecting a date though.
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Just for future reference, Drex, you screwed this up by playing the game with a girl who was interested in you to begin with. Your mistakes:
1. You didn't make out with her on the first or second date. You didn't assert yourself.
2. You tried to play with her by not calling her, so it blew up in your face because she thought YOU were a player and moved on.
Live and learn, dude.
Jake
1. You didn't make out with her on the first or second date. You didn't assert yourself.
2. You tried to play with her by not calling her, so it blew up in your face because she thought YOU were a player and moved on.
Live and learn, dude.
Jake
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I'd even stay offline for a week. Make her wonder where you are. That might get her interested.
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"I'd even stay offline for a week. Make her wonder where you are. That might get her interested."
Your thinking process is flawed. Drex hasn't showed her any reason for her to be attracted to him. He didn't make a move on her in the beginning (which I'm convinced she wanted). He hasn't given her ANYTHING to be attracted to. She has nothing to get interested IN. Explain to me exactly what is going to make her suddenly, magically, get interested in him just because he's not around anymore? Remember, he dissappeared for a whole WEEK, and her interest went DOWN--she wouldn't even give him a date. If you'll read above, I predicted this all along.
So why would radio silence make her MORE interested??
A lot of people on this board have the concept of "challenge" screwed up. Below is a post that discusses this:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=13614&highlight=challenge
Jake
Your thinking process is flawed. Drex hasn't showed her any reason for her to be attracted to him. He didn't make a move on her in the beginning (which I'm convinced she wanted). He hasn't given her ANYTHING to be attracted to. She has nothing to get interested IN. Explain to me exactly what is going to make her suddenly, magically, get interested in him just because he's not around anymore? Remember, he dissappeared for a whole WEEK, and her interest went DOWN--she wouldn't even give him a date. If you'll read above, I predicted this all along.
So why would radio silence make her MORE interested??
A lot of people on this board have the concept of "challenge" screwed up. Below is a post that discusses this:
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=13614&highlight=challenge
Jake
Dee-Zy
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Drex Drex Drex.
Do not have any contact with her until she calls you. Stay off msn if u can - if you can't, just stay on away all the time. That way if she messages you N you don't answer back, it's ok.
how many 'dates' have you been going on with her now? Let her call. If she doesn't then, next her.
Plus she 'kinda' counter offer'd so put her on hold for now.
Do not have any contact with her until she calls you. Stay off msn if u can - if you can't, just stay on away all the time. That way if she messages you N you don't answer back, it's ok.
how many 'dates' have you been going on with her now? Let her call. If she doesn't then, next her.
Plus she 'kinda' counter offer'd so put her on hold for now.
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