help me decide how to play her

[MacAvoy]

Remember the hockey date girl, well she's been my main plate, along with my ex, the odd ONS and the odd other one.

Now this girl has had some of the highest IL I've seen in ages. She's totally into me, paid for my plane ticket to come back to see her. She separated from husband about 9 months ago, has a 2 yr old son.

Now she's constantly sending me txt msgs, up to 40 a day, I might respond 3-5 times. Now the other night I had a look at her phone after she went to bed, there was msgs to 2 different numbers, one to Ryan and another # not in her book. both said either miss your or ended in xoxox. I didn't say anything, the next day when she came home from work, she was still txting away but I could see she was hiding her screen from me.

So she goes turns her phone off and goes to bed. I check it and has msgs to Ryan saying I want to suck your c0ck and such. (She told me about Ryan when we first met, he's her ex from high school and has been wanting her)

Now personally I don't care, she's just another plate to me. However she's got a tonne to lose, so my question is how do I sent the msg to her

A) when I leave for home in 3 weeks, just flat out tell her she threw everything away because of a silly txt msg

B) turn her into a wh0re and tell her I want a 3 some with the guy, now you ask why would I do that, cuz I'm truly jaded, and I know it will make her a dirty slvt for years to come and i dont have no emotional investment (plus I've always wanted to do a double penetration and I just finish hitting the backdoor)

C) just call her out and walk away

 

[jophil28]

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C) just call her out and walk away

D) Just walk away without a word -take STR8's advice on this one. Pack your stuff and get away from this slvt.
You do not need a low quality woman like this to have hot sex. Sex ain't worth this shyte
You are being played, man, and staying with her after finding out what she is doing with other guys says poor things about you. Get a grip of your nutsodensos and walk away with what is left of your pride.

 

[STR8UP]

Why are you looking in her phone?

 

[penkitten]

just ignore her and go for something else....

 

[cordoncordon]

I'm confused...did you move in with her?

Or did she pay for you to come stay with her for awhile?

 

[grinder]

The barrage of text messages and seemingly high IL is quite literally brain washing you. There is no way you can think straight while under her influence.

You don’t have to be nasty, call her out, or anything. Just get out of there and cut off her communication to you.

THEN you can make more rational decisions.

 

[joekerr31]

let me get this straight...

1) you are checking her phone to see who she is texting.

2) you want to double team her with some other guy so that she feelsl ike a dirty wh*re.

3) she's 'just another plate' and yet you are upset that she's got a beta male on the side.

no offense dude, but you attitude towards all this is f*cked. if she's just a f*ck buddy, then what do you care who else she is f*cking. you want her to commit to you while you f*ck around with other women? its lame to hold her to standards you don't even come close to meeting yourself.

second, checking her messages is lame. its like that guy who read his gf's diary.

thirdly, she's not going to consider herself a slut just cuz she did a 3some with you. trust me, if she's open to it now, she's done stuff in the past which is just as 'slutty'. women don't go from conservative to sl*ts in the blink of an eye.

what will hurt her however is you setting up a sexual situation just to hurt her. that will be very upsetting to her that yo would actually use a sexual situation to try and make her feel horrible about herself.

anyway, personally im sooooo not about anger anymore. and it sounds like you have a lot of anger over this girl at the moment.

my rule of thumb in life now is that if someone is getting me angry then i need a break from them. or i need to address the behavior they are engaging in that is causing me to get angry.

but to be honest, im not even sure why you are angry. you two obviously have an open relationship.

 

[Phyzzle]

Wait, wait . . . what did she do wrong?

I'm serious. Cheating? Cheating on whom? Does she have a boyfriend or something? You're not her monogamous boyfriend, right? Why are you making a scheme for revenge on some innocent girl who did nothing wrong?

EDIT:

but to be honest, im not even sure why you are angry. you two obviously have an open relationship.

Beaten. I'm glad I'm not the only one to ask this.

 

[aliasguy]

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I don't understand. Were you two exclusive?

If not, what's the DEAL?


Quit looking in her phone, man...



I know I'm echoing, but .......... really.....

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[MacAvoy]

She paid for me to come visit her for a while. We weren't FB's, she thinks we are exclusive. I'm not angry, as mentioned in my post, I've got no emotional attachment to her. I could walk away and not think about her.

However I've seen this time and time again, where women are supposedly "happy" in their relationship but yet they feel the need to cultivate other branches in case things don't work out. I feel like its a time I take a stand.

So I figure why not teach her a lesson and let other guys down the road reap the benefits of a slvtty women.

The thing is my ticket is booked for 3 weeks and I've got to stick around here for 3 weeks regardless as I have an appointment that I have to do before I leave and I can't move it earlier. I've got other options where to stay but like anything else, theres ups and downs to everything.

 

[cordoncordon]

Few things.....

I don't understand why you are allowing a woman who you just met not to long ago to pay for you to come live with her for "awhile". It sounds very strange to me. Don't you have a job, friends, and obligations where you live?

Why are you doing this so soon after meeting her?

Weren't you just on a road trip with strippers? I don't totally understand how this is all going down while you are away living with this girl.

And knowing about what I know as far as you dating others while seeing this girl, I will say that yes, IF she thinks you guys are exclusive, and doesn't know about these other girls that you are dating, then she technically is "cheating". Reason being she believes you two are serious and exclusive, so for her to be doing what she is with these other guys is very shady on her part.

Honestly, this girl sounds like she has a screw lose. Sounds like a BPD to me. Attatch and latch on very quickly, all the while ready to dump you for another in a heartbeat. I would be getting out of that situation ASAP.

 

[cordoncordon]

This is the second or third time that I can remember you talking about having a threesome with a guy, and I remember another thread of yours where you were naked in bed with another guy and a girl.

Now, I'm not telling you how to live your life lol, but to me, there is just something wrong there.

Are you gay? Bi? It sure seems so.......

 

[iqqi]

Yeah, what is up with threesomes with another GUY? Never heard a guy want that before.

I say turn into a freak FB since you are there for 3 weeks, but WHY were you exclusive with a chick like that anyways?? Why aren't you guys truly qualifying chicks before you invest your emotions into them??

She does sound like she is mentally unstable. Those other guys and you are just vessels for her neediness.

Maybe you are mentally unstable as well?

 

[st_99]

Hasn't it been mentioned before that chics are master plate spinners!

They NEED to make sure they have options.

 

[MacAvoy]

3 weeks ago, I moved back home where all my family is. I'm self employed right now and while I was there, I had an income that allowed me to live in a hotel the whole time I was there. When I originally left, I lied to her and told her I was going back for a while. Buddy from here, came for a visit. I was getting tired of the grind of my job and needed a break so I let her buy me a ticket.

She's definately got mental issues which is why I've never gotten emotially attached, just stringed her along. I don't doubt that I've got my own issues but I know what they are and how to manage them.

As for the 3some thing, I've hung around with an alpha and we got a kick out of making chicks our sex toys, we had these chicks do so many things, that we got comfortable in front of each other. So I don't have a problem with having a guy see my d1ck or me seeing a guy, haven't you ever watched porn with a guy in it?

Does that mean your gay cuz you watch a guy's penis? The whole 3 some thing with her is all about double penetration. I've never done it and after watching porn, its the one move I've never done. So I figured why not kill 2 birds with one stone.

 

[joekerr31]

personally i think if you got no problem being naked in the same room as another guy and both of you banging a chic together, you may not be bi, but you are as close to bi as you can get without actually being bi.

what if you guys are doing it, and then suddenly she has to go to the washroom, so she says 'just give me a minute, ill be right back.'

now while she is in the washroom you are now alone in the room with another guy, both of you naked and with hard ons.

sounds kind of bi

 

[iqqi]

Double penetration... isn't that your c0ck and his... tightly wedged together??

Sounds suspectual.

 

[cordoncordon]

Crossing swords. Splashing of juices. Oh so close.

I could never call "double penetration" hot. But, that's me.

Gay.

Or...at the very least, you have man love for your "alpha" partner.

Think about it.

 

[Fuglydude]

Why does it always have to be DP...why can't it be a simple pig roast? Cleaner, simpler AND you guys can easily hi-5 each other, its like a total Win/Win situation!

 

[grinder]

I think we are getting off track to the op.

There is no play here. You are not playing her and no action you take will allow you the satisfaction of feeling like you somehow “won” in this game.

You’ve lost the frame, you’ve lost the power, you’ve lost control and you will not get it back since you have also lost your objectivity.

Get out, get out now. I’m not saying don’t look back or any other dramatic sh*t like that. Two weeks of no contact and you will be amazed at your change in perspective.