Help - I think I'm being made a cuddle *****.

[Thomas pain]

Alright fam. Here's the deal. I met this girl, a week ago, then we've hung out for 2-6 hours every day since Thursday. That's three times - I took her to a comedy show, we cooked together, we watched movies at my place. I've been physically escalating the whole time.

So we're watching **** last night, I have one hand under her shirt on her belly, with her hand covering it, and one hand running fingers through her hair, and playing with her ear and ****. She turns to me, and I move in for the kiss and when I get to 90% distance she breaks out in this whole thing about how she just had a rough breakup, how she wants to be single for a year, how she can't separate hookups from committed relationships.

Im confused and disheartened. What can I do?

 

[Fireballs]

Hanging out with her everyday this early is too much .. you're giving her a relationship vibe and being too available.

When a girl says she doesn't want a relationship right now, she's lying .. it really means she doesn't want one with you.

 

[TBG]

If Brad Pitt walked through the door right now and offered her a relationship, do you think she'd still stick to being single for a year?

 

[Thomas pain]

I know THAT. I don't want a relationship with her either. Im saying tho how do I translate her being so physically comfortable with me into progress. I've never been friendzoned while simultaneously having my hands under her shirt.

Edit: I'm considering just ghosting her. She's hot but I don't think i have enough time for this kind of thing

 

[marmel75]

1) Why are you spending 2-6 hours a day with a chick you just met?

2) Why has it been 3 days in a row? Why dont you just broadcast "I have no options and nothing to do so you are now my life"?

3) This is a BS excuse...she has fvcked someone since the breakup guaranteed.

Stop being always available for her and go work on other women. You screwed yourself over right from the start with this chick. She knows she has you wrapped around her little finger after 3 days which is extremely unattractive and no challenge.

 

[Thomas pain]

Ghosting it is

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Ghosting it is

I like this. She’ll get the message.

 

[CMNILS87]

Ghosting it is

Nooooo. This is an easy bang man. Let her text first and play coy. You’re busy the next couple days and you can hang out Thursday night. Hang out watch a movie.

When she says that BS about breakups and stuff....you gotta realize you have you’re hand under her shirt, you’re already in her sexual place. She wanted sex, but she doesn’t want to look like a *****.

She’s alone with you and you’re all over her, if she said a hard no then it’s a no go. But you need to ramp up the tension. Give her a back rub, start kissing her neck and sucking on her ear. Slip a finger in. Just say it’s cool and you understand her breakup, but you 2 are just hanging and whatever.

Easy lay, give it one more shot. If she doesn’t, cut bait

 

[CMNILS87]

I know THAT. I don't want a relationship with her either. Im saying tho how do I translate her being so physically comfortable with me into progress. I've never been friendzoned while simultaneously having my hands under her shirt.

Edit: I'm considering just ghosting her. She's hot but I don't think i have enough time for this kind of thing

You’re not pushing the right buttons. Anyways If you can’t wait 3-5 dates for the hard bang, it shows you just want sex. I’d stick it out and get a long term **** buddy/plate

 

[Checkmate12]

Marmel is dead-on about you being way too available way too early. You're no longer a mystery to her and you've indicated you're low value by being incredibly available.

However, I don't think it's necessarily too late. Back off for a few days. If she was into you she'll start to wonder if she screwed things up.

Go NC for a few days, then try to set up another date. If she turns you down without a counter-offer then next her, it's over. If she accepts, then show her a good time but stfu a little and leave her wanting more. Remain aloof from here on out.

Good luck my dude.