Originally posted by Rondavu
The catch 22 is that confidence is itself the breeding ground for more confidence. So how do you get confidence if you have none to begin with? The big secret is that you fake it for a while. You present what it is to be confident. You emulate it. You put your head inside the mask. You test drive the car. If you do this you'll be a confidence factory in no time. You'll find yourself telling other people how to make it. You'll have so much you'll be giving it away!
I know Rondavu is trying to help, and that's cool, and he's got the idea for a change.... but it ain't about faking it... it's true about confidence manifesting to more confidence.... but one should never have to fake anything. That's like lying to yourself, which unless you are a damn good liar, you will most times than not, come off as a phoney. ....what you should do is take a look at yourself.... step out... how do you dress, how do you stand, ultimaltey present yourself? ...are you funny, are you quiet, shy, aggressive? ....then figure out what can you do to be more attractive, to YOU! ...because if you don't find yourself attractive, no one will, no one..... so, my suggestion is do a complete overhaul of your style...but don't start by faking it... be for real. You will not only be more pleased, but you will realized later that, faking it was never your style, and you couldn't fake it, if your life depended on it.
Hey Shnitz, I almost forgot to mention.... good idea on the move bro... you knew what you needed to do to get this started, and you did it... now you are forced into a situation where you will have to confront females from time to time.. that's gooood.
Talk to them... they ain;t going to bite you.... here's soemthing to remember dude... most women/girls/females are insecure. Even the most drop dead knockouts are insecure.... probably MORE than you... it may be hard to believe but it's true... so when you go up to one, just remember, you ain't trying to do anything but "getting to know your neighbors."
.....everyone goes thru this at one time in their lives or another.... talking to women, is kinda like dancing dude.... once you try it, it ain't so bad, do it enough, pretty soon, everyone wants to get with you.... but it takes that first step..... got to say 'f*ck it!' ..and just do it bro....
because it's better to have tried, then regret not trying later....
Iknew a bud who was affraid to talk to chics..... he just was too nervous, to shy..... I said 'DUDE! ..sooner or later, you are going to have to talk to them.... and once you do, you never get them to shut up but that's down the road a bit.. talk to them!' ...sure enough, he walked up to a fine honey, and opened hismouth.... I thought to myself 'I should have told him to start low, and work up... crawl first, then run... he won't stand a chance with this chic... poor son of a b*tch.' ...but he and her hit it off, and they are still dating today!
