HELP!! I can't deal with my parents.

[sanyo7878]

Bottom line : when my parents are around, I find it impossible to put moves on girls.

Long story: I was at a wedding reception tonight with my parents. I didn't know many people there (i really didn't know any young people)... So I was sitting there with my parents at a long table and I notice a beautiful girl a few seats down with a group of friends. Her friends get up to go dance and she stands up for a while and then sits back down closer to me. I look over at her and she is smiling right at me. I know for a fact she wanted me to talk to her. I didn't do anything. I have a problem. I was sitting right next to my parents and when I'm around them I can't talk to women. I swear. Its pathetic. Here is an example of why: a young couple were slow dancing right in front of us (i would guess late high school years). My dad drops comments like "look at that brunette all over that dude in the yellow shirt, gross!" My parents make dating out to be some weird event. I didn't grow up as a very social person. I hit puberty late and 99% of my friday nights in highschool were spent either with my parents or by myself in my room. I can't stand the thought of my parents watching me put "moves" on a girl.

This isn't a huge issue because I go to school at a university in a different town than my parents live in. But I have missed many opportunities to meet women because of this when I'm home for holidays.

BTW, This isn't just me. I have discussed this with my older brother (who has no problems with women, he would laugh at me if he knew i was a frequent at this site). He says he feels the same way about my parents.


Does anyone else have this problem? Does anyone have any suggestions to get over this issue?

 

[Kev07]

i think thats normal.. i can't really function correctly when my parents are around either.

 

[Makkaveli101]

I think this is very true and normal in many respects.

Just the other day my friends and I met up in the pub and were discussing life and christmas over a few beers. We all agreed that though we love them dearly, the only time you can truly be yourself (how much beer you drunk in one night, how many chicks you've done up the ass, that you've had the ****s for three days in a row) is when you're with your buddies. It even excludes women to some extent (unless you're in a relationship with them hehe).

We also agreed that our parents and family would think we were different people to what are friends do. Unless you do socialise with them, they will never truly know your social side. Boundaries and inhabitions come down in the comfort of buds, with family there is a certain moral code to adhere by sometimes. I think its normal, I wouldnt worry too much. I dont anyones perfect place to score would be in front of their olds!!

 

[amoka]

booze, children. The other day my parents invited me to a party thrown for my country's independent day. Lots of hot ladies. My parents were there, watching all my moves. Now, I've never pulled ladies in from of my parents before. So said to myself, wtf, I can't let this good moment pass me by just like that. I went for couple glasses of wine. Now my parent's dont drink. They are not happy when I drink. Whenever they come to my house and see various bottles of wine and liquor, they feel unhappy. Few minutes later, the alcohol began its job. Danced all over the floor, and they were even amazed...

 

[sanyo7878]

Bump!!

 

[Mjazz]

Wow, you guys have no ideas how many chances that I have had that were blown because my parents were there. One time there was this chick sitting at a table across from us and she was smiling at me and really obviously into me, but I couldnt do anything, I feel you on the game being shut down. Parents are the ultimate ****block. Its funny that this is mentioned because there was a milf at the store today and she was giving me the eye, and I kinda have a thing for milfs, BUT my dad was standing like 5 feet away. He blew it.

 

[Snow Plowman]

This is more of an Inner game problem. Once your inner game is real down and is at least good this stuff don't bother you. The aim isn't to pull the girl its too offer value and have fun. So really you should be having fun and offering value to everyone it shouldn't really look like your hitting on the girl, your just having fun and just happened.

I remember months back I wouldn't even look at a girl when my parents were around. But now that my inner game is getting better each day, now I'm at the point where it doesn't matter its just who I am. I look at the girl's ass right in front my parents.

Two distinct times that I realized that I don't have the parent issue is when I was in the mall with them and this MILF was chatting me up in front my parents and I was talking to her. Another time was during christmass party with my family and like a 5 set of girls was talking to me with my mother a few feet away. I don't care if my parents are there or not I'm not hiding my natural desires from anyone. If I like a girl I'll look, and approach.

After awhile when this becomes apart of you, it will become natural and nothing something that you can switch on and off. The main frame is just offering value and having fun.

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

I think this is normal.

When I go out by myself I can do a good job of conversations/flirting with misc. women.

But when I go out with my dad I act like a total AFC barely uttering a single word to any girl wo crosses my path. And anything I do say is forced and unnatural.

I think it either has to do whith the whole alpha/beta relationship or simple frame triggers.

 

[Chemistry]

Haha... depends on your parents I guess

My parents split when I was young... if I'm out with my dad and my step-mum then it's game on, lol... make pops proud kinda scene really, and we'll all talk openly about this... I'll even have my step mum get some details for some of her friends hot daughters so that I can bang them, lol... I remember when I started University and my pops gave me some big ass supply of condoms when I was over at his place, lol...

If I'm out with my mom who sounds more like your folks then I just adapt... she thinks I'm just there making friends with this chicks, being sociable but I'm doing my thing so that once she's out of the picture it's game on... remember, what you're doing is nothing to be ashamed of, all you're doing is being sociable and friendly by talking to an attractive chick who's a similar age to you... since when did that become a crime? I mean, it pains you to think about it but your folks were young once too and indulging in a lot of the things that we indulge in, lol...

 

[Abbott]

Here's an easy fix: Just don't bother with that sort of thing when your parents are around.

I wouldn't try to change your parents. The older people get the more set in their ways they become. Though I'm 21, I can already feel this phenomenon first-hand.

You said that you go to a school that isn't in the same town as your parents, so you obviously don't live with them.

I figure that if you don't live with them, or you can get out by yourself, I don't see the problem. If you get lucky you can always get a hotel room.

Are you parents around you ALL the time? Somehow I don't think so, since you're obviously old enough to go to college.


Ben

 

[spider_007]

yeaaa, same here.....
it just feels wrong......i could never bring a girl home, when my mother is there......it would be just WAY TOO WIERD.

it was even wierd when my mom mentioned something about me having a naked girl on my cell phone.....