Help girl acting needy...

[DJ_in_making]

We aren't even really going out yet. I've met her, we've been talking, made out and cuddled and crap. Now she thinks I'm some player b/c I have a few pg-13 pics w/ girls online and stuff. She wonders whether I like her or not and gets paranoid if I go too long w/o calling her. I'm concerned now, how do girls like this act when they have sex, seeing how they act before you even do anything to them? I see why girls are so tired of AFC's lol....



~DJ

 

[azanon]

I was never successful at getting a girl to act less AFC within a relationship. They're only going to learn that when you leave them because of it. So, don't even try.

Basically, just tolerate it as long as you want to, and when it becomes not worth the effort anymore, then ditch her.

 

[92 GSR-4]

how do girls like this act when they have sex, seeing how they act before you even do anything to them?
~DJ

Worst case scenario is she camps out on your front porch when you dump her. Don't ask how I know.

But yea you can always use her as practice to sharpen those relationship skills! Even if she is a little screwed in the head:crazy:

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

As a general rule, people are the way they will be prior to a relationship. As in, you really can't change somebody from who they really are. This girl is not going to change and become less needy. Instead, she is going to become more comfortable around you and therefore "more needy" in your eyes.

From the way you talk about this girl, it doesn't sound like you're too terribly fond of her. My advice: find another girl who's not as needy as this one, you'll feel better in the long run.

 

[semperfkemall]

is her name sam?

 

[johncrawford]

is her name sam?

:crackup:

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

As a general rule, people are the way they will be prior to a relationship. As in, you really can't change somebody from who they really are. This girl is not going to change and become less needy. Instead, she is going to become more comfortable around you and therefore "more needy" in your eyes...

It may make more sense not to sarge women like this and go after ones that are more self confident.

 

[Pappadapolis]

We aren't even really going out yet. I've met her, we've been talking, made out and cuddled and crap. Now she thinks I'm some player b/c I have a few pg-13 pics w/ girls online and stuff. She wonders whether I like her or not and gets paranoid if I go too long w/o calling her. I'm concerned now, how do girls like this act when they have sex, seeing how they act before you even do anything to them? I see why girls are so tired of AFC's lol....



~DJ

Keep her around. When you move on to your next chick, you can tell her "That's my crazy ex-girlfriend". Women can not backdown from competing with each other. You girl will cheat on guys in the future to be with you because you were the one that didn't need her.

 

[musclyjerk]

We aren't even really going out yet. I've met her, we've been talking, made out and cuddled and crap. Now she thinks I'm some player b/c I have a few pg-13 pics w/ girls online and stuff. She wonders whether I like her or not and gets paranoid if I go too long w/o calling her. I'm concerned now, how do girls like this act when they have sex, seeing how they act before you even do anything to them? I see why girls are so tired of AFC's lol....



~DJ

That will teach you for spending time with a chick way below your station and worth!

The Muscly Jerk

 

[DJ_in_making]

Good replies. I see some people think that I should get away. And some people think I should keep at it. She's pretty cool but I'm someone who needs my space.... She's like that b/c she had bad relationships in the past and crap so is a little paranoid. I kind of already invested a bit in the relationship, not sure how it'd look to turn back now...

 

[Juan_Man]

I'm kind of in the same situation right now. There is this girl I was initially into but my interest kind of waned. I never made out with her but I did flirt with her and kino her. Now, I think her interest in me is high but now I want to be left alone. Recently, I did something pretty messed up. I saw her talking on the phone in a building I was walking toward and I skipped off into the other direction, hoping she wouldn't see me, and entered the building through another door. The next time I saw her, she walked passed me without eye contact, even though I was in clear view. She looked a little pissed off. I know I acted like a jerk, so what do I do to make up for it? Do I act as if the whole thing didn't happen? The thread starter has a point about AFC/oneitis behavior. Five years ago, I was in the same position as this girl with someone I liked. It's interesting to see AFCism from the other side.

 

[insanity]

i take it she's probably a good 6 or 7 in looks and doesn't get hit on alot. i haven't seen alot of beautiful women act needy because they have a horde of guys hitting on them and inflating her ego.

from the sounds of things your interest level in her isn't very high either. alot of guys come on the forum wishing the hotchick called them more and showed them more attention and in reality this is the same thing displayed when a guy gets a hotchick he instantly acts needy and worries why she hasn't called him alot.