Help for this date I have today! URGENT!!

[Karma DaeVontae]

Hey guys,
so, I've been reading around this site and I find it quite interesting. But I wouldn't have time to read all the articles and be smooth for my date which is in a few hours...

Ok, so let me break it down for ya'll...

I added this chick on from a social network, and I added her we started talking...
Turns out we have a few things in common BUT she just got out of a "real bad" relationship her ex left her for her bestfriend.

Now, I'm tryna be smooth here cause I can sense she's playing hard to get but the attraction exists...
Ok so yesterday I called her in the morning and she didnt answer wateva, I'm out with the boys and what happens after a few beers? I call her because I wanted to make sure she wouldn't answer but Oh, surprise!
She answers, so I ask her how she's doing and I tell her: So, at what time will we see eachother tomorrow?
and she says "I dont know u tell me"
So I tell her, I'll see u at one at certain place and she said: Yeah, ok but just call me tomorrow like at 11 am cause Im going to go out and have a few drinks so, I need a wake up call... I said, I'd call..

Now, I didn't call her at 11 cause I would be doing what she told me to... so I called at 11:25... I supposed she wouldn't answer so I hung up...

In order for me to be able to make other plans with other girls, I decided I would call her a second time and if she didn't answer I would scratch her off the book with a big'ol NEXT!

So I called her at 12... and she answered, I say Hi and how shes doing blah blah... and I told her, " Are we down for later or should I make other plans?"

and she says, Yes we'll see eachother at 2?
Note: (we had said that we would meet at 1).
Instead of saying yes to her demans.. I tell her: nah, I'll meet u there at 3 ok?
and she says if anything pops up Ill call u...
and I said well, no problem I'll see u at 3 and I kept cutting her off and stuff and hung up...

Now, on this date since is the 3rd date... ummm I need advise lol how?
I dont know.. I haven't kissed her because she was sick the last 2 dates, kinda have to watch out for my health hahaha... but she feels better now so Im tryna get dat kiss...

Help!! How should I act on this date?

 

[Karma DaeVontae]

Im NEW to the group btw!

 

[Desdinova]

I haven't kissed her because she was sick the last 2 dates,

If you haven't kissed her by the end of the 2nd date, she usually gets the message that you just want to be friends with her.

Also, enough with the wishy-washy bull5hit. She needs you to take charge of planning the dates. If you plan something for 1:00, then that's when it is. If she needs to buy extra time, she'll have to let you know she's running late. There's no need to keep confirming times. By allowing her to manipulate your plans, she will get the message that she can manipulate you in other ways such as buying her things, giving her money, etc.

 

[Karma DaeVontae]

So, basically I ****3d it up? lol
I mean, we're all set for 3 but I do have to take control.
Like this date Im planning on getting her to kiss me, I mean she's gonna kiss me cause Im the Great Catch haha

I just dont know how to get out of that friends zone, due my lack of experience

 

[Chamber36]

If you haven't kissed her by the end of the 2nd date, she usually gets the message that you just want to be friends with her.

Also, enough with the wishy-washy bull5hit. She needs you to take charge of planning the dates. If you plan something for 1:00, then that's when it is. If she needs to buy extra time, she'll have to let you know she's running late. There's no need to keep confirming times. By allowing her to manipulate your plans, she will get the message that she can manipulate you in other ways such as buying her things, giving her money, etc.

I disagree. He was supposed to wake her up at 11. If she only wakes up at 12, then I say she has a right to an extra hour.

I would have just gone along with 2. If you go from 1 to 3, that barely makes any sense imo. It's obvious to her that you're playing some game of "we're doing what I say". Girls take time to get ready.

I don't think it's good to lose your cool during the first initial stages of dating. If she stays with you that means she's got a high IL. I would still watch out for this one though. Seems like a bit of an AW to me.

Maybe she just wants to parade around with you and make her girlfriends jealous or unload her emotional baggage on to you. I wouldn't be surprised if she starts mentioning other guys during this date.

 

[Johnnyventana]

You seem to be game playing too much and almost stumbling over your own self and the situations you put yourself into.

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

You seem to be game playing too much and almost stumbling over your own self and the situations you put yourself into.

My thoughts exactly.

I understand not wanting to appear too eager. But all this strategy and mind-games. This isn't a war. Either this girl will like you or she won't. So stop worrying about all the other crap.