Depending on your pool, we minorities have a disadvantage when trying to date out of our race. I see more Asian males with Asian girls that are more tied to their culture than Americanized Asian girls. As a black guy, I find it bs that all white women want a black guy. It also gets in my head because I think what if that girl doesn't date black guys.
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Solomon
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Dude why is every thread u make negative?
Do you even hit the field? While I don't disagree with what you saying your defeatist attitude will never allow you to succeed in the field
Do you even hit the field? While I don't disagree with what you saying your defeatist attitude will never allow you to succeed in the field
But your game isn't the best in the world. How do I know?JPlaya said:
Because you already go into situations thinking a girl would reject you because you are a black person.
Just like an AFC has insecurities going into the field, so do you the only difference is the insecurity arises from different things.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Your game sucks. So no need to hypothesize what life would be life if you had the "best game in the world."JPlaya said:
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
Like Solo said, you definitely are throwing YOURSELF out the game before it even starts with the mindset you have.
This is why I think INNER game is so much more important than anything else. Though what you mention holds SOME relevance, it shouldnt be an obstacle. How is it when you see a "chump" with a 10 any different??
Some girls will like you, others wont. and believe me when i tell you, alot of times its 1,000 other things other than your ethnicity. Dont make excuses for yourself. One of the biggest problems is men give themselves reasons why they shouldnt approach well before she actually does.
Social Leper mentioned going to "r&b or hip hop" nights. and though that may be a good place to start, you'd be surprised the results at places where you are one in a few black guys in that establishment.
Use your ethnicity to your advantage instead of seeing it as a deterrence.
This is why I think INNER game is so much more important than anything else. Though what you mention holds SOME relevance, it shouldnt be an obstacle. How is it when you see a "chump" with a 10 any different??
Some girls will like you, others wont. and believe me when i tell you, alot of times its 1,000 other things other than your ethnicity. Dont make excuses for yourself. One of the biggest problems is men give themselves reasons why they shouldnt approach well before she actually does.
Social Leper mentioned going to "r&b or hip hop" nights. and though that may be a good place to start, you'd be surprised the results at places where you are one in a few black guys in that establishment.
Use your ethnicity to your advantage instead of seeing it as a deterrence.
Deadly_Ripped
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If your game is good enough, then you may occasionally even be able to make a white girl interested in you even if she previously didn't think she'd date a black guy.
BTW it's a lot more common than you think. I've slept with more than 20 white women and the question of race usually comes up (usually at the same time as homosexual or group encounters - always a great fun conversation). Almost all of them have at least hooked up with a guy from another race at least once, and more often than Asian it's been a black guy.
Remember, for every couple of white girls out there who aren't into black guys, there may be some cutie sitting next to them who's been eye f-ing you while you pout about the other 2.
BTW it's a lot more common than you think. I've slept with more than 20 white women and the question of race usually comes up (usually at the same time as homosexual or group encounters - always a great fun conversation). Almost all of them have at least hooked up with a guy from another race at least once, and more often than Asian it's been a black guy.
Remember, for every couple of white girls out there who aren't into black guys, there may be some cutie sitting next to them who's been eye f-ing you while you pout about the other 2.
Deadly_Ripped
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Practice. See what works and what doesn't. Read about it, try things out. Get rejected so many times that you finally realize getting rejected doesn't matter - you're not going to be everyone's type and not everyone's going to be your type.
Iceberg
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I dunno. Whine about it on the internet. Blame your lack of success on uncontrollable factors (i.e. ethnicity).JPlaya said:
That usually works.
Or you could read the DJ Bible and work on yourself, as I'm sure you've already been made aware of in your 250+ whiny posts.
Peace and Quiet
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
I think it has a lot to do with confidence. I know brilliant observation Daman23... As a minority, asian american minority, it's def a lot more work when i go after non-asian girls...with the exception when i've been with white girls who were really into asian guys. But say at an asian club, it's like taking candy from a baby, i have no doubts when approaching asian girls. Of course i do get rejected by asian girls too but i get way more positive reactions vs rejections, way more! And to be honest my game sucks... my best opening line is Hey what's up. But i workout and i have a 6pak.
So i think it's all attitude, i don't have the same amount of confidence approaching non-asian girls, naturally i don't get the same results.
So i think it's all attitude, i don't have the same amount of confidence approaching non-asian girls, naturally i don't get the same results.
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
JPlaya,
The truth is that ALL girls have a select set of "no compromise" criteria that they use when it comes to who they decide to date. So if you're going after a girl who has already DECIDED that she doesn't want to date men of a different race--------then there's NOTHING you can do about it.
However, you just need to keep in mind that she's just ONE girl out of many. So the strategy to use to increase your success rate at this is to remember that there are MANY other girls you could meet that don't share her self-limiting viewpoint.
BUT-----you'll NEVER meet those women if you continue to commit "Interracial Dating Suicide" before you even approach them to see "what's up".
In other words, don't put your self-limiting words in her mouth. Make the girl say "NO". Don't say it "for" her.
You have to DARE to make bold moves if you want to see BIGGER, BETTER results.
VU
The truth is that ALL girls have a select set of "no compromise" criteria that they use when it comes to who they decide to date. So if you're going after a girl who has already DECIDED that she doesn't want to date men of a different race--------then there's NOTHING you can do about it.
However, you just need to keep in mind that she's just ONE girl out of many. So the strategy to use to increase your success rate at this is to remember that there are MANY other girls you could meet that don't share her self-limiting viewpoint.
BUT-----you'll NEVER meet those women if you continue to commit "Interracial Dating Suicide" before you even approach them to see "what's up".
In other words, don't put your self-limiting words in her mouth. Make the girl say "NO". Don't say it "for" her.
You have to DARE to make bold moves if you want to see BIGGER, BETTER results.
VU
Jplaya,
I'm have also experienced what you're talking about. I'm half black/white. Although, there are some girls who won't talk to you because of your race. You CAN"T think that way when your trying to game. I had it in my head at one point, that if they weren't the type that hung out in hip hop clubs that they wouldn't be into me. It's simply not true. I seem to be more attracted to the ones who look like the country club type, I think because in my head it's more of a challenge.
There ARE cultural differences and sometimes depending on the type of girl she is, I have to adjust. If I'm in the hip-hop spot I usually act more aggressive, or forward may even telegraph my intentions. In the more white/prep hang-outs I use my sneak approach, being especially careful not to telegraph my interest as much, I'll try to strike up random convo. You can either be completely yourself and the same with every girl, but I find more success when I adjust a bit. As I'm sure you know it's more about how they are socialized, some white girls act stereotypically black and vice-versa... I also might dress like the type I'm going after, I think clothing non-verbally helps her identify with you. Don't wear the air-force ones to pick up white girls, put on the topsiders
I tend to date women who are culturally white no matter what race they are, that's more what I'm attracted to. So
to warm up, go after the white girls you know are more into you, like the type that hang out in urban hangouts, get adjusted to them, then push yourself to go to where the white boys hunt. If she isn't one the white boys want, I don't want her.
I'm have also experienced what you're talking about. I'm half black/white. Although, there are some girls who won't talk to you because of your race. You CAN"T think that way when your trying to game. I had it in my head at one point, that if they weren't the type that hung out in hip hop clubs that they wouldn't be into me. It's simply not true. I seem to be more attracted to the ones who look like the country club type, I think because in my head it's more of a challenge.
There ARE cultural differences and sometimes depending on the type of girl she is, I have to adjust. If I'm in the hip-hop spot I usually act more aggressive, or forward may even telegraph my intentions. In the more white/prep hang-outs I use my sneak approach, being especially careful not to telegraph my interest as much, I'll try to strike up random convo. You can either be completely yourself and the same with every girl, but I find more success when I adjust a bit. As I'm sure you know it's more about how they are socialized, some white girls act stereotypically black and vice-versa... I also might dress like the type I'm going after, I think clothing non-verbally helps her identify with you. Don't wear the air-force ones to pick up white girls, put on the topsiders
I tend to date women who are culturally white no matter what race they are, that's more what I'm attracted to. So
to warm up, go after the white girls you know are more into you, like the type that hang out in urban hangouts, get adjusted to them, then push yourself to go to where the white boys hunt. If she isn't one the white boys want, I don't want her.
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Okay, I decided to say **** it and talk to this girl in my class. I caught her walking and I asked about how to do a homework assignment. Well the convo went on from there and eventually I had to go a different route than her, so I said see ya. She told me to have a good day btw which is better than just see ya. My problem is talking to the same girl more than once if you know what I mean.
Your_Royal_Flyness
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As a black guy myself, your main problem isn't race-related. It's confidence. You need to continue to practice and work on your game--consistently. I have no problems with White girls, Asians--even East Indian Women who are rarely seen with black men.
Women usually respond favorably to a man who approaches them with total confidence. At this point, you need to keep faking it until you make it. Go "hunting" when you're in a good mood.
Here's a video with me in Puerto Rico...this is an example of how its really no big deal...the more you talk to women, then better you will get: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eSv7JTEqFY4
Women usually respond favorably to a man who approaches them with total confidence. At this point, you need to keep faking it until you make it. Go "hunting" when you're in a good mood.
Here's a video with me in Puerto Rico...this is an example of how its really no big deal...the more you talk to women, then better you will get: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eSv7JTEqFY4
NewAndImproved
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Race matters. Sometimes it's a disadvantage. Sometimes it's an advantage. Sometimes it's neither. I've had plenty of women who've happened to be white interested in me. Cute ones too. The reason I haven't bagged/dated etc more women isn't because of race...
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perseverance
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That's the same for anybody though.JPlaya said:
I am a white man and I've tried to get with white women who only date black guys. Asian girls who only date Asian men and black women who won't go near a white man.
It doesn't matter, perferences are perferences, deal with it.
Solomon
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Yup Perseverance hit the nail on the headperseverance said:
Everyone has advantages and disadvantages
Its good to see that their lot of brothers in the game, its sad to see the frustration though
http://thesoloist1.wordpress.com/2011/08/30/the-frustated-black-man/
peace
TheAsianLoverReturns
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Yeah you're at a disadvantage if you go for white women.
White women are the least likely to date outside their race, and women of color are more likely to date white men than any other race.
It sucks, but it's the way it is.
You need to outwork your competition. I've f*cked women that have never been with an asian guy before and have never considered being with an asian guy before.
White women are the least likely to date outside their race, and women of color are more likely to date white men than any other race.
It sucks, but it's the way it is.
You need to outwork your competition. I've f*cked women that have never been with an asian guy before and have never considered being with an asian guy before.
